To expect dialogue on here to be civil and diplomatic most of the time?

[cupcakemumma]

Feeling so sick and tired of many threads on this amazing site being poisoned by unkind responses. There is one thing being direct and all, but seriously, I cannot imagine that the tone used by some MN posters would be used outside outside of this place in the wider world and welcomed. Some people seem to enjoy getting a kick out of speaking to others in an over the top spikey way on here, generating responses picking people's words to pieces like amateur lawyers.

What do you all think, or is it just me? Can't we all just get along and support one another and enjoy each other's company in diplomatic way? What is the point of being on here if time isn't spent being pleasant?

[buconfused]

Yes I agree.
I have posted a couple of things recently, after a long absence, and I have been surprised at the aggressive nature of the responses and the accusations.
I guess it has always been like this but as other posters have said, it's really a bad idea given that no one knows the mental state of the person posting.
I don't really understand this instinct to be aggressive and nasty. I honestly don't.
Say something helpful, useful, relevant, or sympathetic, or why bother?

maybe its just aibu and having had a longish break i have actually been shocked at how vicious it has become. imo.

AIBU is not the place to get advice

I have noticed it on chat.

I said today that AIBU should be renamed 'What do you make of this?' without the Op having to say what they think of it to start with.

Yes true Beer, I must have that hidden. Forgotten all about it.

We need to drag it out of the cobwebs Beer. A lot of AIBUs would be better on there.

I am trying to think of a WWYD to post Beer.

I love WWYD too, I used to post there a lot in my previous and nc names. It does move, but with benevolence of kind posters. I will look too, but tomorrow now.

I don't think people are picking up the point about possible emotional vulnerability in some posters who start threads for advice or support.

And it's not just aibu where some posters are spiteful and unnecessarily nasty. It used to be but this had changed over the last year or so to become common place in chat.

Very interesting reading, thank you shriekingharpy.

Christina, absolutely - it is very worrying thinking of how vulnerable posters deal with things on here.