To expect dialogue on here to be civil and diplomatic most of the time?

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Feeling so sick and tired of many threads on this amazing site being poisoned by unkind responses. There is one thing being direct and all, but seriously, I cannot imagine that the tone used by some MN posters would be used outside outside of this place in the wider world and welcomed. Some people seem to enjoy getting a kick out of speaking to others in an over the top spikey way on here, generating responses picking people's words to pieces like amateur lawyers.

What do you all think, or is it just me? Can't we all just get along and support one another and enjoy each other's company in diplomatic way? What is the point of being on here if time isn't spent being pleasant?

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Sparkling you were supposed to say "Oh no I didn't" panto style

Actually OP, I think I see what you mean now.

I'm just getting a bit tired of MN "analysing" itself. There seem to be as many threads about MN as about the very topics it's meant to discuss.

It has got very bitchy on here over the last couple of weeks. It's fucking rude to say we want glitter and hugs. There's speaking your opinion and there's jumping on people just to belittle them.

Sorry Bumping. 'IT's BEHIND YOU'.

There's a very good how often do you change your pants thread at the moment if anyone feels MN is getting a bit much.

Ohdeariedearieme, thank you for providing an example of the kind of thing my post was about.

What are you on about - Mum/Hun/glitter? I'm discussing in a forum about the manner of debating and discussion, not stopping free speech.

YADNBU.

"I'm just getting a bit tired of MN "analysing" itself. There seem to be as many threads about MN as about the very topics it's meant to discuss."

This. Can we just stop talking about what MN 'should' be or 'could' be and just let it be?

Yes, people are more direct than they are in real life. Well, not me, I'm this direct in real life. Ask my friends. But, that's the internet, not MN. Whether you think it's words on a screen or not, you can be someone you aren't on the internet. It's the beauty and the curse of the place.

Crash doll, I have noticed this too. Very much of late.

I don't really think it is on for people to tell us what can and cannot be discussed. If you're not interested, don't read!

Well you didn't let me down on that one at least!

And read Tee's post. Do you really have to analyse everything to death? How is you want people to be? Because you don't want direct or to the point. You don't want hugz and hunz. Oh - you just want it bland and boring and discussing knitted toilet roll covers? Good luck with that.

Dearie - no, but you can have debate without being needlessly insulting, or rude. And that doesn't mean it has to be beige either.

I wish there was more 'don't be so gratuitously rude' posts made on threads where it happens rather than naval gazing tbh.

I think there are some really unpleasant posters - the 'I feel sorry for your children' types annoy me immensely.
But I see more posts complaint about it on separate threads than I see posters challenging it when it happens.

We are all responsible for the tone here.

Sparkling Oh no you're not.

OP, I think you are being too idealistic. It's what you make of it and what the whole population make of it. It's self moderating to an extent. Which is not to say that people should be nasty for the sake of it - just that sometimes it happens.

Tee, what you're saying is a very valid point, not just MN and of course it is a true reflection of the Internet.

Did you mean to be so rude? Lots of things get discussed to death, why do you think this topic is so important for you to stick your oar in?

I like healthy debate. Some people are just plain rude, as you evidenced so beautifully.

That was to ohdearie

Yes. I did mean to be so rude. If you think that was rude, really rude, then you'd best stock up on Valium!

Oh do calm down crashdoll - it's not like I'm telling you to fuck off or anything. Goodness me!

I think this thread is not long for this world.

I just wonder if any of the nit pickers realise that they could be starting on vulnerable people who start threads seeking advice. You have no idea of the mental states of some of the posters. It's horrible. :(