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AIBU?

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To tell dh I'd rather he didn't go out tonight

326 replies

orderinformation · 30/03/2013 21:49

Got home at 9.00pm as been visiting family. Both kids fell asleep in car and we carried them up to bed. I said I'm also going to bed as bad night last night with both kids waking and also clocks change tonight so we lose an hour.

Anyway ten mins ago he says in that case would I mind if he goes out.

I said I do mind because:

  • I will not sleep properly until he's safely home which if he's going now means after midnight at least thus negating the early night
  • I do night wakings as he is very heavy sleeper and never wakes so I would end up waking him up to do it and we'd both be knackered so instead he takes dc downstairs at 7am and I catch up for hour or two. Partic need this at moment as dc2 is three months. But if dh not home until late either he does this still but spends tomorrow knackered. Which you might say is not my problem but it is if it ruins our family Easter day or he needs afternoon sleep. Or I don't get my lie in catch up which is fine if tonight is ok but not if it's another bad one.

So I said in all honesty because I am so tired I'd prefer him not to and he said ok but is now downstairs sulking and I am upstairs feeling bad though am bf and then going to sleep and at least won't be lying here awake until he's safely home.

Aibu?

OP posts:
hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/03/2013 19:17

:)

LaQueen · 31/03/2013 19:19

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/03/2013 19:20

LTB
:)

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 19:26

See how much fun you can have online with his Amex Smile

Ashoething · 31/03/2013 19:34

Keyboard warriors out again eh? Op has a young baby,is knackered and has had a long day. Nothing wrong with her asking dh to stay in for one night so as to be able to give her a rest tomorrow. Before I get accused of being controllingHmm-I go out FAR more than my dh-he is an anti-social bugger. When he does go out I cant get to sleep until he is in either-no reason why I just cant. This does not make me some kind of shrew.

I hope your dc start sleeping through soon op and that you get a good rest.

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 19:41

?

BoringTheBuilder · 31/03/2013 19:48

Oh no Ashoething don't you realise that now after your revelation you became some kind of looser with no real important interesting life? You are also controlling, immature, emotional abuser, needy, weak and not a feminist. Doesn't look like you are fit in Mumsnet top table. Better namechange or f*off to nethuns xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

SweetSeraphim · 31/03/2013 19:52

Oh LaQueen, you do make me laugh Grin

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 19:53

Hi Boring, fancy a magnum?

FCEK · 31/03/2013 19:56

I don't know if the OP has disabilities or not, I have disabilities and can't sleep until DH gets home as I wouldn't be safe, so I stay up, and often I tell him not to go out. Haven't read the whole thread, but perhaps OP has some needs like me?

BoringTheBuilder · 31/03/2013 19:57

I just eat ice lollies or ice creams when the weather is proper hot. How boring is that?

AgentZigzag · 31/03/2013 19:58

Ashoething was only trying to be helpful Boring.

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 19:58

They are surprisingly tasty if you've the heating turned up Grin
I've a selection of sticky teenage alcoholic beveridges if you'd rather have a drink?

thornrose · 31/03/2013 19:59

The OP never came back did she?

LaQueen · 31/03/2013 20:02

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KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 20:04

Just spreading the confectionary and trying to palm off the leftover booze from DC party last night/this morning LeQ Smile

BoringTheBuilder · 31/03/2013 20:05

AgentZigzag - I don't need translation. Thanks. KS - I have enough money to pay for my heating and I comne from a proper hot tropical country, sorry, it isn't the same. I've already killed a bottle of wine today I'm good. Had enough now. Carry on having fun whitout me.

LaQueen · 31/03/2013 20:10

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KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 20:12

It's a magnum something or other special edition thingy.

ladymariner · 31/03/2013 22:51

Ffs, it's 'LOSER' not 'LOOSER'......again!

ladymariner · 31/03/2013 22:52

And if there's any spare I'd love a Magnum please.....x

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 22:56

Here ladym, enjoy Smile

ladymariner · 31/03/2013 23:06

Thankyou Grin

BoringTheBuilder · 31/03/2013 23:30

How about Loooooooooooooooooser?
Much Better

CherylTrole · 31/03/2013 23:35

Is this stupid thread still going? Crappy po shite Grin
Go suck a magnum.......