To tell dh I'd rather he didn't go out tonight

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Got home at 9.00pm as been visiting family. Both kids fell asleep in car and we carried them up to bed. I said I'm also going to bed as bad night last night with both kids waking and also clocks change tonight so we lose an hour.

Anyway ten mins ago he says in that case would I mind if he goes out.

I said I do mind because:

• I will not sleep properly until he's safely home which if he's going now means after midnight at least thus negating the early night

• I do night wakings as he is very heavy sleeper and never wakes so I would end up waking him up to do it and we'd both be knackered so instead he takes dc downstairs at 7am and I catch up for hour or two. Partic need this at moment as dc2 is three months. But if dh not home until late either he does this still but spends tomorrow knackered. Which you might say is not my problem but it is if it ruins our family Easter day or he needs afternoon sleep. Or I don't get my lie in catch up which is fine if tonight is ok but not if it's another bad one.

So I said in all honesty because I am so tired I'd prefer him not to and he said ok but is now downstairs sulking and I am upstairs feeling bad though am bf and then going to sleep and at least won't be lying here awake until he's safely home.

Aibu?

Everyone is missing the point
Op was asking about that particular night in that particular circumstances in her unique situation
And she isn't asking what or how you and your partners do.
Hope she comes back and explain why can't she sleep while her H is out drinking
I bet she has a good reason..and if she probably stated her good reasons on her OP, it would be a flood of LTB comments.

God forbid if you join MN, but doesn't have a perfect husband, perfect relationship and bright children who started reading at 1.5 year old and is a mathematician before entering reception

Wow funny to see the mean girls still kicking around! Jeez.
Laqueen more fool your friend all I can say! What a muppet! But he is an adult and must love her so leave him to it.
I bet op and husband are enjoying nice Easter while you guys are stuck on here freedom fighting the cause!
Happy Easter...'innit'

I finally learned to work the sky doofer when the nice sky man came to install an additional box in my bedroom.
I'd never been left alone with the one downstairs for long enough to master it.
DH is trying to creep in and steal my space but I'm repelling him by putting on history programmes instead of sky sports. When he creeps back downstairs, I switch it over.

boring is leave it, its silly goadyness now. Op won't be back on here. Enjoy Easter! Better get back in the kitchen to finish off...pregnant and barefoot in kitchen, who'd have thought it!

boring you sound like a very thoughtful person.

'And she isn't asking what or how you and your partners do.'

What's the point of anyone answering if they're not saying what they do personally?

The OP asked whether other people would find what she said to be unreasonable, in their experience.

I can be understanding and sympathetic at the same time as thinking she was unreasonable.

Unless you have to describe how the way your relationship works because it's soooooooo much better than some loooooosers out here

You don't know how to use your TV, LaQueen? Sounds like a perfectly good reason to make your DH stay at home all of the time to me. He could change the channels when required and then sit in a different room the rest of time....you would still 'sort of be together' and who needs friends, unless you loathe your own company of course?

Or you could spend the evening, sanding your feet with that new gadget you bought. My cloven mean hooves have never been so smooooth

Dear Goady Fuckers,
you may namechange but you are so easy to recognise and work out who you were that it really is quite funny.
yours
hobs

Ha ha, sounds like fun LaQueen!

Mine makes me stand in various parts of the room to determine which exact spot gives the optimum listening experience from his Bose thingy....
I even sometimes pretend to care

Oh no, consigned the pedi egg dud to the bin when I realised that it was just a cheese grater. This thing runs on batteries, think its called a Micro Pedi. Would have settled for a soap and glory foot file but bastarding Boots never have them in stock.

Katie & LaQueen, perhaps your DH's should become friends and then they might achieve the ultimate listening/viewing experience? And you would both be let off the hook that is television trauma...

That's a good idea. Does your DH like shit music from the 80's LeQ?
I'm talking the Stranglers and Floyd. If so, could be a match made in tech heaven

Genius me.

Hah! DH brings his to bed too. There we are, me plugged into Audible while he watches another episode of Top Gear he has seen seventy squillion times before falling asleep and leaving me to power down and unplug his machine.

Yes!
Green vinyl, vinyl in odd shapes, vinyl with pictures on......
We have not owned a record player since 1982