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To tell dh I'd rather he didn't go out tonight

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orderinformation · 30/03/2013 21:49

Got home at 9.00pm as been visiting family. Both kids fell asleep in car and we carried them up to bed. I said I'm also going to bed as bad night last night with both kids waking and also clocks change tonight so we lose an hour.

Anyway ten mins ago he says in that case would I mind if he goes out.

I said I do mind because:

  • I will not sleep properly until he's safely home which if he's going now means after midnight at least thus negating the early night
  • I do night wakings as he is very heavy sleeper and never wakes so I would end up waking him up to do it and we'd both be knackered so instead he takes dc downstairs at 7am and I catch up for hour or two. Partic need this at moment as dc2 is three months. But if dh not home until late either he does this still but spends tomorrow knackered. Which you might say is not my problem but it is if it ruins our family Easter day or he needs afternoon sleep. Or I don't get my lie in catch up which is fine if tonight is ok but not if it's another bad one.

So I said in all honesty because I am so tired I'd prefer him not to and he said ok but is now downstairs sulking and I am upstairs feeling bad though am bf and then going to sleep and at least won't be lying here awake until he's safely home.

Aibu?

OP posts:
BoringTheBuilder · 31/03/2013 13:22

OP, please post on Relationship next time. X

LetMeAtTheWine · 31/03/2013 13:22

'Power down and unplug his machine', ignoring the previous part of the sentence, that sounds like a brilliant idea. Would stop people going out and unnecessarily having fun too.

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 13:23

Let me you are a genius and must come along to admire your handiwork with LeQ and I in the other room.
While trying to talk over the awfulness that is early Pink Floyd Wink

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 13:39

Seriously OP, the Relationship board was an excellent suggestion.
I'm guessing that there is other stuff going on and this is just the last straw?
Hope you are having a better day today and wine ( or the treat of your choice) with your lovely DC and sulky pants DH Grin

AgentZigzag · 31/03/2013 14:06

Oh yeah hobs?

Is it the YABUs or the YANBUs you're taking to be the GFs?

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/03/2013 14:10

The YANBU.
Can I send DH round to laqueen and katies sad tech husband gathering.
:)

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 14:13

Oh yes, all are welcome. It can be like daycare for the sad. Wink

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/03/2013 14:14

:)

AgentZigzag · 31/03/2013 14:25

Thought I'd better check before agreeing Grin

Not that I know who you're talking about, but it's pretty plausible.

It's going to do my head in now trying to see the clues you've seen in their posts Grin

seriouscakeeater · 31/03/2013 14:30

I havnt name changed and I said YANBU...is it being goady not going along with micky taking and school yard bullying? Aaaah now I know what that thread about a about! [Grin]

seriouscakeeater · 31/03/2013 14:31

Po thread crappy phone!

Feminine · 31/03/2013 15:35

and so the bragging continues...

Wrapped up in some contrived way as usual

BoringTheBuilder · 31/03/2013 15:36

I could give you a list of all my previous names. I don't change name to pretend I'm someone else. I just don't have the ambition to have a virtual life as a poster on Mumsnet who is well recognised for her wonderful perfect life in all aspects, her incredible sense of humour and bla bla bla. I change my name when I decide I the next one is better. Ah but this might be naff too, who knows.

BoringTheBuilder · 31/03/2013 15:39

Oh dear I just made a typing mistake on my previous post end of the world...

LaQueen · 31/03/2013 18:50

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/03/2013 18:55

oh yes dh will love that...pour me a glass quick :)

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 18:57

DH has buggered his back Hmm

Was it wrong of me to substitute a tramadol for cocodamol?

He's snoring like a warthog and I'm watching the tennis in peace. Good times Grin

KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 18:57

DH has buggered his back Hmm

Was it wrong of me to substitute a tramadol for cocodamol?

He's snoring like a warthog and I'm watching the tennis in peace. Good times Grin

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/03/2013 18:58

perfectly acceptable katie :)

LaQueen · 31/03/2013 19:00

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KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 19:01

Sorry LeQ my lovely, you gotta take the rough with the smooth. Now practice your nodding and smiling... Grin

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/03/2013 19:10

Hey Laqueen maybe you could leave him to his code and pop down the pub....

LaQueen · 31/03/2013 19:15

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LaQueen · 31/03/2013 19:16

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KatieScarlett2833 · 31/03/2013 19:16
Grin
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