Strip club!

[everythinghappensforareason]

So dh has been kicked out back to his Mothers following a night out Saturday, that ended at a strip club, not only that but also paying for a lap dance from a young girl in nothing but a thong. Ive never been so mad, there was 3 of them. It makes me feel sick, he has apologised + claimed he didn't enjoy it one bit, it was worse than he imagined etc. but i just feel like people around me ( his family) Probably think im over reacting, so my question is, what would u do?

Op can understand your disgust etc but don't get the 'I'll make him suffer' attitude tbh, sounds v soap opera ish ...

What would you suggest then 1132? Op has asked for suggestions and advice

I never fake it...why would I?

I usually never have orgasm ishoos but now (I'm 32 weeks pregnant) I do. It's fine! DH and I both know it's temporary and I still want to have sex with him; it still feels good, just not, you know...orgasmically good. :) Why would I pretend? Not to mention he'd know if I did, since my uterus contracts into what feels like a big rock on the rare occasions I do get there!

Th money wasted would bother me, the dance less so, definitely not a deal breaker.

Good luck then eyes with that much anger and hatred in your mind you will need it both in life and on this forum.

Oh yes and we aren't fishwives we are vipers alright?
HTH

Hate to break it to you, but some of us never, ever fake orgasms.

Seriously, never.

I can't imagine why I would ever want to, I don't sleep with sort of men who wd be grateful to me for that either. I sleep with adult men.

Your insistence that women you have never met, whose lives you know nothing about, definitely do fake orgasms when they're telling you they don't, just sounds a bit mad tbh. If you desperately want to fake orgasms all over the place, that's your choice. But to insist that all other women definitely do that too, does make you sound like you've got "ishoos". And also you sound a lot more uptight than the women you're insulting by calling us uptight - it ain't me faking it, baby.

I never said 'all women fake orgasms'. I just know that lots and lots of women have faked an orgasm at some point in their lives. Obviously mumsnet women are a separate species.

Swallowing/anal/blowjobs: some women do it but don't really like it. Are they 'victims'? Are they 'degraded'?

Middle class fishwives! Hahahhahahahaha! :o

I'm saying again, I do not fake it. No reason to. And again, right now DH would certainly know if I did!

If you absolutely despise swallowing/anal but feel like you "must" do it, then yes I feel that is degrading.

Did I say 'despise'?

You are also clearly very insecure and full of self loathing for some reason. Sad.

No, I used the word despise to illustrate when I feel it would be degrading.

Ha! Ha! Countrykitten, I have just read the Dominic West thread where you appeared (yet again) as Eternally Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells. I am sorry I have forced you to read the words 'anal, 'swallow' and 'blowjob'. I now fully understand your horror at my grotesqueness

What on earth is your problem Eye?

FYI, I'm very much working class and I know exactly "how much porn my husband is watching", which is none.
No idea of the vagaries of relationships ? I've been married for nearly 30 years you daft mare.

Go on then, tell me how deluded I am and that all men are porn users blah blah blah - you think we haven't heard it all before on here from people who can't imagine a man who isn't a slave to his cock.

eyes why are you so fixated on Anal swallowing and blow jobs.
At risk of upsetting country kitten I absolutely love giving blow jobs it's something about the power I think but I do it because I like it anf swallow if I wish or spit if I've had a big tea
As for anal sex many women do enjoy it (check out the numerous bumsex threads on here) I have myself enjoyed it in the past but having only recently had a baby (despite being an old hag) that is a thing of the past as you will hopefully understand one day.
It would appear to the reader that it is indeed you who does sexual acts despite not enjoying it and you who fakes orgasms to please your partner.
That's fine but what an earth gives the the right to tell grown women what we do or make off guesses as to our social status and personas.

Dominic West? What thread is this? Think you have me mixed up with someone else.

Not sure why you have an obsession with anal sex (not my cup of tea tbh but each to their own) and blow jobs (very much my cup of tea as it happens but none of your fucking business in any case) and why you think that repeatedly saying these things is somehow shocking!

You remind me very much of some of the teenagers I teach who say things for effect and then keep on saying them when they don't quite have the effect they wanted. You are becoming grotesque because you are hell bent on trying to offend and it's a bit silly.

Off to see who Dominic West is....

Ah yes got and remember now - I thought it was sexist and a bit tacky to say you would 'give him a go' and pointed out that if a man said that about a woman it would be deemed very offensive.

Not sure how that makes me an outraged middle class hag....

I had to learn to enjoy swallowing, Ledkr, because the taste of semen is not pleasant. I had to learn to enjoy anal sex, too, because it fucking hurts having a penis up your bum. My point is that not everything we do as women is thoroughly enjoyable all the time but that doesn't mean we are in any way being victimised if we indulge in those things. I really cannot understand why some of you are determined to paint me as a victim of abuse.

Bela, if you have been married for 30 years, believe me, your hubby's watching porn

Ledkr my apologies...but can't I be both? Uptight hag has such a ring to it....

Eyes your comment to Bela is horrible. Why does other people's happiness upset you so much? Why are you so bitter?

Thought it was very bad form to bring up another thread on a separate thread? .