I'm raging at the selfishness of it..

[Fisharefriendsnotfood]

We have 3 dc.. 5,3 and 5 months. Sleep is really really scare at the moment. Dc3 still feeds at least twice through the night and dc1 and 2 have both had endless colds/illnesses.. I am sahm, dh owes and runs own business.

I'm so angry right now. We went to bed early as wrecked from night before, dc1 woke with tonsillitis when we were going to bed, crying when swallowing etc. finally settled them at about 10.30 and went to sleep. Dc3 was up at 11.30, 2, 4.30 and 5. Dc2 woke once as fell out of bed. Dc1 woke once and got up when I was feeding dc3 at 5.

She was burning with fever, crying, miserable poor thing. Gave her calpol and water and put her into our bed. At 6 I woke dh to ask him to get up with her as I had hardly slept.. He outright refused . Said he felt rough and couldn't afford to be sick (referring to work) and didn't care if it made him a prick he was going back to sleep.

I'm downstairs with her now. I'm stunned. I feel like I never ever get put anywhere near his list, never mind the top of it. This is the latest in a long line of my needs not counting. Am raging! AIBU? What do I do now

Op yanbu your dh needs to help.

My dp sleeps like the dead and doesn't wake with little ones in the night but he ALWAYS let's me lie in in the mornings if I need to and will do the evening up to say 1am so I can go to bed early and sleep and he will stay up and deal with any wakings.

And my kids could make a sandwich at three and also make a massive mess at the same time... Seriously I am fairly laid back and my kids all pitch in, the older three get fast for themselves and the little two.

But a three year ikd pulling chairs around and getting stuff out if the fridge, using knives unsupervised?!!

I have a stair gate on my kitchen so if I need to have a shower or try and rest as I am I'll I shut the gate so the little one can't get into the kitchen on her own. not that i get much rest as dd likes to sit on me and poke my eyes and shout wake up mummy in my face

FFS - it's like arguing with a 3 year old.

Dreaming, of course you can, pull a chair up to the kitchen side, give her a butter knife and leave her to it, I'm sure her parents will approve, you are making her more independent, so why should they object?

the only reason I'm still on this thread is because the idea of others coming on here and thinking your advice is legit is a little scary

' using knives unsupervised?!! '
do none of your kids use a little knife and fork? do they manage to not stab themselves to death.That is the kind of knife they use for spreading
You contradict yourselves!!

If you check in OP, hope that you're okay and that the unhelpful responses on this thread haven't made your day worse.

Take care - but do have a pow wow with dh re division of labour/ enlisting external help.

Whatever you agreed/thought you'd be able to manage isn't working for you at the moment, so needs a review.

keep digging stressy keep digging

5eggs - what is it about poking you in the eye! They always do it when you're trying to have a quiet 5 minutes

stressy you are coming across....how can I put it....a bit....dim.

Never mind the sandwich, for a minute. Has anyone thought about the mess that would constitute the worktop afterwards?!

^ i did mention the mess

The problem is some of you aby your dc so much that you genuinely can't see another way.All the teachers have always complemented me on how mature and balanced my DC are.My kids get fed up sometimes with the childishness of their peers.

Sorry! Oh god... Jam everywhere...

some of you 'baby' your Dc .. tha should have read!

I'd compliment you on them being alive!

My kids get fed up sometimes with the childishness of their peers

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That goes without saying Jessie - mst of us thought about that first, and then considered the danger implications.
There would of course be jam/cheese spread/chocolate spread carnage.

Stressy can you do 2 things at once? If you can, can you try reading what others have posted and then try and understand what you have read? I know it might be a little difficult at first but with practice I'm sure you'll get there.

Aahh so it's the mess!! That is why you don't want your DC to be independent!!!When you are ill, you save the mess up for your DH to clear up!

Oh...sorry. I thought I was caring about my DS by making sure he didn't kill himself before his 5th birthday.

Didn't realize winging it was the new 'thing' with parents

Yeah...it sounds like OP's dh is just dying to help with the housework...

LOLLL!!

Fenton - but at least the 3yo would bring you a sandwich

Stressy I think the point is that if a child can (unsupervised) get a butter knife from the kitchen, they can also get a sharp knife, a corkscrew, a flamethrower (what, you lot don't have one in your kitchen?!) etc.

Yes toddlers could help with making food whilst supervised, but that's not of help to a mother who wants to nap while their child runs riot in the kitchen.