to think it's inappropriate for DD to share a bed/room with a boy twice her age?

[princessj29]

DD is only just 5. She sees her father every other weekend. He has a girlfriend who has a ten year old brother who often sleeps over when DD is there. Her father bought a bunk bed for her room with a double bed on the bottom, which she says they usually share. There is another spare room in the house so no need for them to share rooms let alone beds IMO. She spoke about his 'bits pointing up' when he woke last week and I feel very uncomfortable about them sharing a bed/room. AIBU?

Yanbu at all. I would have a serious talk with your ex. If he refuses to change the sleeping arrangement I would not te dd go there wtf is he playing at. Teir is another safe room for godske

No.this is a non related young boy who may be onset of puberty at any time.for his protection as well as your daughters they should be in separate rooms.

Meant spare

YANBU

Even if related t is nt appropriate as there s another spare room

YANBU. Inappropriate.

i would say it was a cp issue so yanbu

I've told him I'm not happy before, he insists that as he knows the boy and I don't it's up to him to judge.

it is abusive or potentially abusive so put a stop to it.

doesn't matter if he knows the boy or not. 10 yo boy sharing bed with 5 year old girl isn't appropriate.

it isn't fair on the boy either.

That's badly wrong.

It is I would nt allow her to stay there if it continues t is a potential child protection issue. Teir is no need for your dd to share a bed with this boy. Why te hell are they sharing when there is a spare room

It makes no difference whether he knows the boy or not - it's not even necessarily that this child would do anything to your daughter out of malice or "abusiveness" - it's that something could happen without either of them understanding or knowing just what they were doing or why they shouldn't be, and the consequences could rip your family and your XHs girlfriends's family apart.
Surely he can see this? It's not just your DDs protection, it's the boy's too - they are both children who need to be looked out for and kept safe in every way. Obviously your concern is for your DD, but I am amazed the girlfriend is happy with such an arrangement for her 10 yr old brother -surely the potential for damage/disaster is obvious?

This sounds a bit off really what the hellis your ex paying at. Why would a boy of that age want to share a bed with a little girl

Absolutely not. How did she see his bits anyway? It would be separate rooms or not going at all if it was me. For the protection of both of them.

I agree with pombear, put it better than I did

What about bedroom? AIBU to say they should sleep in separate rooms altogether? Although they'd still watch films in bed together which also worries me as ex lets her watch the boys choice of film - usually transformers - which is a bit sexy ( not to mention scary!)

Yes separate bedrooms. I would be having serious wrds to ex about what films she's watching

There is a spare bedroom so she r he should go there

Bits were visible through PJ's she said. Feel sorry for boy too as she said he covered his eyes when she randomly dropped her trousers to go for a wee and that he locks himself in the bathroom to get dressed so he's obviously conscious of things.

YANBU - totally agree with Pombear, and would definitely insist on separate rooms, or DD would be picked up before bedtime.

Separate bedrooms. And separate films too.

Are they using the 10 year old to babysit your daughter while they shag?

This is seriously weird.

No no no the adults should not ut these Chidren in that situation, totally wrong

Im sure the little boy is lovely but I'd still go for separate rooms even with brothers and sisters. I can't understand why your ex can't see this?