to not give my child a present on their siblings birthday?

[DeepInTheMeadow]

I have two children.

DD(3) and DD9mo. We were discussing tonight what to do for DD2's birthday - decided that we would just be having close family and friends over for afternoon tea cakes.

DH said we should have a present for DD1 as he think she might feel left out with DD2 getting presents and attention.

I think this is ridiculous personally and that it's perhaps sending the wrong message.

I never got presents on my older sisters birthday, DH would get presents on his siblings birthday though.

Oh and for the record as this seems to be a repetitive theme throughout this thread at no point have I cared who disagrees with me or criticised anyone for not doing it my way and thats because I don't actually care who does what with their OWN kids. Some of you might like to try that instead of labelling those that do what I do re birthdays weird, odd, bizarre and strange.

Now I am hiding this thread because I am utterly disgusted that some of you seem to think that in order to argue with me its acceptable to be unkind about my children. In case you didn't know it's pretty beyond the pale to do that and whatever MY faults it's not something I could do. Therefore I don't feel we are on level playing fields.

"never wrestle with a pig, you'll both get dirty but the pig likes it".

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SneakyNinja !! Thanks for actually making me LOL.

Emma you say - Not sure why you aren't able to let it go to be honest

And no-one answers you and then you post ANOTHER comment 20 minutes later.

Suggest you take your own advice.

And no-one has been untruthful about your posts.

emma let it go, you're embarrassing yourself.

We sort of do this. My way is to involve the non-birthday child heavily in organizing cake/wrapping presents/decorations or whatever we are doing. So to distract the birthday girl from what's happening, the other parent will take her out to choose a small "thank you" present for all the sibling's hard work. Everybody wins.

People should take from this thread that if they do give siblings presents there will be lots of eye rolling behind their backs from lots of people.

Who would have thought you could have such an innocuous subject and come back to find posts deleted all over the place! I seem to have missed a real bunfight.

Well it's safe to say that my children and sd STILL won't be getting presents on their sibling's birthdays. My two boys' birthdays are 5 days apart so it gives me even more reason not to buy a gift for each other's birthdays.

My two DDs (4.5 and 2) don't get presents on each other's birthdays, although last time DD1 was very upset that everybody was making a fuss of her little sister and not her.

I think it's important not to cave in for fear of disappointing a child, so though the idea did cross my mind I decided against it. DD1 was disappointed, but it was short lived and she enjoyed the birthday celebrations in the end.

And I do think that birthdays should be special for the birthday child. There's still enough nice stuff happening on the day to make it fun for the other child(ren), like birthday cake, new toys, special tea, party, etc.

When I was little I used to look forward to my brother's birthday too - my mum always used to involve me in choosing a present, making the cake, making a card, etc. so I was always pretty excited about it.