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To be horrified with my friend and not really want to see her any more?

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Rosesarenotalwaysred · 10/03/2013 19:35

My 'friend' is actually the wife of one of my dh's golf buddies and while we usually get on ok, we don't really have a lot in common and I find her a tad spoilt and selfish.

She has never been particularly hands on with her kids, opting to put her son in full time child care from an early age despite her not working because she didnt want to give up going to the gym etc, which i don't have a problem with, it's her life after all.

However she recently has a 'much wanted' second child and booked a holiday abroad for the four of them plus her PILs for a couple of months after the baby was born. When it came time for the holiday she decided it would be too much hassle to take an 8 wk old baby abroad and decided instead to leave him at home with her parents and went away for 2 weeks! I know it really is none of my business but I can't help but be utterly disgusted with her for caring so little about this poor little baby, I could understand if her and her hubby wanted a night away to themselves but to go on holiday and leave the baby for 2 whole weeks seems beyond the pale.

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MrsSham · 13/03/2013 18:14

With regard to your previous post..no appletarts I would say I don't agree. Firstly it does not need to be an attachment to birth mother. I don't think any of us could know for sure on any of the effects of this sort of disruption in attachment as I could place my judgement in that a 2 week period is not significant enough to either measure nor account for a disruption in attachment.

As I previously said your opinion is formed from some very limited reading and its impossible for you to form an informed opinion with such limited research.

MrsSham · 13/03/2013 18:17

I retract my previous post appletarts I seem to have confused you and Rooney...however I don't agree with your previous post but I'm aware I had pointed this out to Rooney and not your self Grin

willyoulistentome · 13/03/2013 18:22

I haven't got time to read the whole thread. However I would feel just the same as the op. I do think its wrong to leave a baby for so long by choice. It sounds selfish to me.

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