to find friends sexual history a bit grim?

[LoversThatWentWrong]

Now I'm not a prude or a "pearl clutcher" but we got onto the subject of how many people we had slept with etc and I found my friends sexual past not shocking, just really grim.

She has slept with 15ish people and couldn't remember half of their names. Nothing wrong with that if you're single and enjoy no strings attached sex but she only slept with most of these men in order to get her numbers up. To boast about how many men shes slept with.

I know other people who slept around a lot in their past but they did it because they were single and enjoyed sex - it wasn't about getting their numbers up at all.

15 is nothing at all imo

Good for you. But again my OP was not referring to the number.

I think the OP is getting a bit of a hard time actually.
I do think that reasons for having sex matter, and if a friend of mine had sex purely to boost her self esteem or whatever, and for no other reason, I would be worried about her.
I have friends who have shagged upwards of 40 guys, and their feelings about this do vary, from "wahey" to always getting hurt after potential relationships turn into one night stands.
It sooo depends on the person, whether they are adept at shagging around, or not.
The actual number probably is a bit of a red herring.

You seem to be overly concerned about your friends personal life OP.

Unless there are grounds for concern which would bother any decent friend, such as her being prone to high-risk behaviour, or she has a history of abusive boyfriends?

If not mind your own business and stop snarking about the poor woman on MN.

Excellent example flippinada of what IfNotHowThenWhen just said.

Well, if you are genuinely concerned about your friend for those reasons, wouldn't it be better to speak to her directly about it rather than in all this public hand-wringing?

Gosh, jim you're a funny little sausage aren't you ?

Nope Any Fucker. I'm not little and I'm not a sausage.

15 does seem like a lot for me...for both a girl or a guy...but then I've hardly lived and only slept with 3 men including OH ! Don't think I would judge that person though, just think "she must love the boaby..." If they're happing shagging away then leave them to it. Not for me though.

I like to think of you as such, jim

allow me this small amount of self indulgence, because if I think too closely about what you actually said, it makes me feel a bit queasy

I've always thought, that given that condoms can fail, both in terms of contraception and disease transmission, people should take names and phone numbers before shagging.

It would make it much easier for people to notify sexual partners after receiving bad news at the STI clinic.

I once explained this to a friend. She said, "I'm not giving my name to a random I met in a club. He could be an axe-murdering psycho!"

I said, "But you're willing to have sex with him and sleep in the same room as him, thus putting yourself in a far, far more vulnerable position?"

We parted, mutually baffled by eachother's viewpoints.

I don't suppose it would help if I said they were identical twins then.....

If they're identical twins, then you can't get a Jeremy Kyle DNA-test appearance out of it all, afterwards, though.

Badly thought-out, surely?

It helps jim, it helps a lawwwt

Are you that bird out of The Camomile Lawn, Jiminy?

Identical twins? Non casual threesome? Both twins someone you wouldn't mind creating a while new human being with.

Jiminy !!! ooooh you saucy minx!

This thread reminds me of some dire Harry Potter fan-fiction I once read.

So it didn't matter which twin got you pregnant, as the kids would look the same with either?

Am I actually in the Weasley fan-fiction? Like Jasper Fforde's Thursday Next series?

There's going to be jokes about wand length next...

This thread reminds me of some dire Harry Potter fan-fiction I once read.

Jim is laying the foundations of some proper racy fanfic here

If vampire!Snape, Unicorn!Draco or anyone else get involved, especially with each other, I'm leaving.

Oh dear my number is (almost) nearer 4 than 15... but then i have low self-esteem ishoos & thought i was really ugly for years, i thought men were having a laugh if they said they fancied me.

Which makes me feel quite sad now...

(Ps. i know i'm not ugly now, just wish i'd realised that sooner).

Ps. i don't judge anyone else on how many partners they've had; whether it's 1 or 100 - each to their own i think!!

Jessie If we're talking twin HP fan fic... it's got to have been Fred and George!