To ask who gets 'priority' on Mother's Day

[Couldonlyhappentome]

In your house who gets 'their day'?

Is it you, your mum or your partners mum?

I am going to be driving around a lot tomorrow between my mum and dp's mum and won't get time on my own with the dc until we get home for their bedtime by which point ill be shattered and dreading work on Monday.


How will your day go?

[freddiefrog]

Neither DH or I live anywhere near our mothers, so we send cards and flowers and phone them

Tomorrow will be spent finishing decorating the girls bedrooms, so other than burnt toast, cold coffee and cards made at school first thing, I won't get a fuss

[clam]

I normally get priority but I do share!

Although this year I feel a bit of a fraud as I've been waited on hand and foot by the family for the last 8 weeks as I've broken my leg and still can't walk. Seems a bit entitled to expect breakfast in bed again.

[Tuppence2]

My mum gets priority. Mainly because DP doesn't have much to do with his mum, and they rarely speak.

So tomorrow, DD and I will go to my parents, and I will make lunch for us and my mum (DSDad will be golfing/drinking at the golf club) so it's just us girls. I like getting to do little things like this, as it's a treat for my mum, who makes a full blown roast every Sunday for a minimum of 4 people!

When I was growing up, it was the same, mum and I always went to her mums, but I guess it was pretty easy as she was a single parent to there was no mum v mil debate

[WeAllHaveWings]

My mum got priority today - card, pressies, lunch. MIL is 500 miles away so card posted.

Tomorrows my day.

[bollywoodfan]

Can't believe some of the selfish comments I have read on here! In my culture your MIL is also your mother - I will be pleased to buy presents and spend the day with my MIL.My mum lives further so I will not see her, sent a card & present though. My DB will go with my SIL, so none of the mothers will be lonely.
I just think it is awful that mothers will be sitting there all alone because their grown up children can't be bothered!

[willesden]

Such a gigantic fuss over a tradition made up by card manufacturers. It is all nonsense. I can't bear the fact that my children think they have to do things differently tomorrow. Even DDs homework is to write about what nice things she did for Mummy on Mothers' Day and how it made Mummy feel. What tosh.

[Pandemoniaa]

The whole idea that there should be priorities makes me think that Mother's Day has got ludicrously out of proportion. When my dm was alive (she wasn't in the UK) I always sent a card and phoned her up on the day. DP did similarly for his DM. My grown up children get me a card (and usually some chocolates) but I don't expect anyone to put anyone first.

Tomorrow, ds2 is hosting a tea party for all the Mothers. He has made cake and got a card and present from dgd (aged 2.3) for ddil. Me, ddil, her dm and will have a jolly nice afternoon. It has not occurred to us that there's a pecking order.

[LimboLil]

Oh god isn't it a nightmare. I am one of five and my mum collects Mother's Day cards like trophies. She asked me what I am getting for Mother's Day and I told her my 9 year old has secretly done something on the PC which I found with lovely pictures and messages on it. She sat there smirking rather unpleasantly, the gesture from him totally lost on her! She'll still be banging on next week about what she got from my siblings! I took her a card and some wine. No doubt my hub will have arranged a card and a pressie from both of them, but my son's poster means more to me. I hate all these forced occasions, don't know why we can't just stick to Xmas and birthdays!

[CharlotteBronteSaurus]

we went to MIL's today, with flowers, cake and card
she is going to see her own mother tomorrow - I've have been happy to see her tomorrow otherwise
i'm being taken out for lunch, over which we'll raise a glass to my dear departed mother.

[nailak]

pinkbottle active service? what do you mean once your kids reach a certain age you stop being an "active" mum lol? and you no longer want the company of your kids? My mum has done a lot for me! and if mothers day is a day to pamper and spoil your mum, why would you not want to do this?

Personally I am not bothered about mothers day, but get my kids to make cards and gifts for my mum, as I think it is mainly a day for kids, like the other fake celebrations!

[WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes]

We don't really "do" it, send cards to DM and DMIL, perhaps phone them, the DCs usually do cards for me at school, but don't actually do anything different from a normal Sunday .

[Pilgit]

DH has managed to organise two mothers days - one tomorrow (where he and the DC will do something for me - hopefully clear up after they've trashed the kitchen!) then on monday DM and DMIL as we're all free.

[BrittaPerry]

It is DD1s 6th birthday tomorrow, and my mum and nana are coming round for her birthday tea. My first mother's day as a single mum too, so really not expecting anything. Might treat myself to something as it is my first year without flashbacks to her traumatic birth.

[BrittaPerry]

Lol, I sound miserable! I'm actually really looking forward to it.

[bollywoodfan]

Its the idea of priority that made me angry actually. All mums are important and deserve to be appreciated, whether they are in 'active'service or not!

[groundhogmum]

My DP is working tomorrow so it will pretty much be a normal day, I will visit my DM in the morning and DMIL in the afternoon, both of them live pretty close by. Then it will be usual Sunday routine of homework and uniforms!

[Zara1984]

It's my first Mother's Day - but I'm not that fussed TBH. DH is going to make me breakfast in bed.

I don't speak to my abusive mother so nothing to do on that front. DMIL lives in a country where Mother's Day is on a different date. We wished her happy MD on Skype today. On the MD in her country we would skype her but she wishes she got cards, flowers etc. Us and her other kids are and don't comply because it's a made up holiday.

I'm really to read the lengths people go to!! It's a Hallmark swizz of a day, surely best celebrated by small children making you cards, soggy toast and cold tea and then promptly forgotten once they're about 10 and have better things to do....?!

[BarbarianMum]

It's all 3 of ours: me, my MiL and my mum.

My dh and the boys cook lunch, everyone eats then helps clear up. All 3 mums get cards. That's it.

[BarbarianMum]

Sorry that wasn't clear - my MiL (and FiL) and my mum come to ours, then we all eat lunch....

[Corygal]

I think its all gone at bit OTT - I can't wait for the Jeremy Kyle on 'My Mother's Day Card wasn't Big Enough'.

[goldenlula]

I think dh is working for part of the day, he has a painting job to finish. This year both mums are at home (at least I think mil is at home), so we will go and visit them both with the flowers I got today. I had hoped to have lunch with my mum as we did that with mil last year (infact the whole of dh' immediate family went to bil's for dinner) but she has her sister visiting so we are off out for lunch one day in the week. We don't make a huge deal, I have told dh that I have cards made from the 2 boys and a tots group dropped of a card from dd yesterday so that is fine. A cup of tea in bed would be nice though.

[Zara1984]

I may have been be unreasonably scarred by Mother's Day as a child though. I made my mum toast and a card when I was about 6 and she shouted at me for getting up before I was meant to and using the kitchen. She threw the card away without looking at it and I got sent to my room

So I've said to DH that when our kids are old enough I want them to make me a card and tea, bring it to me in bed, I can shriek about how amazing the card is and bring them into bed for cuddles and to watch a Disney movie

[BrianButterfield]

I really think mums of small children should come first - I am one at the moment but I have always thought that! Surely it's one day 'off' with a bit of recognition? I absolutely agree with cards and flowers for mums of grown-ups but it's mums on duty who need spoiling imo!

[IneedAsockamnesty]

My mother receives a completely inappropriate card from me usually an offensive one with a semi naked man on. She receives a phone call from me.

In my family once your children leave home and become parents themselves then you take a step back and accept that their young children probably wish to spend the day with their mother.

My children and I go out for a meal,its only ever in a crappy chain place think harvester type as the venue without fail busts a gut to accommodate all of us and we can get the chairs in all the staff know us so arnt phased by the odd things my children do.i pay for the meal my adult children's partners are invited but they do not feel obliged and if my adult children chose to go to there partners mother instead then fair do's I wouldn't mind at all,when they have kids of their own of course they won't want to be spending the day being bored with me.

Oh but I won't miss the cup of tea made with tap water even if some of my children think its my fav way of having tea.