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in thinking that I need to be a bit wary of this woman, regarding my DH.

207 replies

Megatron · 09/03/2013 09:57

Firstly, I need to say that I am not some jealous haridan that thinks everyone is after my man. Smile I will explain a few recent things that have happened and perhaps you good people will give an opinion if my spidey sense is tingling with good reason.

DH and I been together 15 years, 2 children, v happy, no concerns there. We live in a small village and there are normally various social events every month, some of which we attend some we don't. There's been quite a lot on since Christmas, nothing fancy, a lot of them with the children etc but we have been out more than usual recently.

Anyway, at a New Year bash one of the women who often attends these things with her husband was all over DH like a rash (let's call her Rachel). DH slightly mortified, put it down to too much booze and kept moving away from her (she followed) and rested her hand on his backside whilst standing with him. He moved back to where I was, put his arm around my waist and she went back to talk to her DH. I only know any of this because DH told me. A couple of the other women I know said 'oh it looks like Rachel has her sights set on Mr Mega now' and told me that this is now uncommon and that she has 'form' (their words).

To be honest I didn't think too much of it as it all seemed a bit silly, but since then Rachel has made a real effort to befriend me. She very glamorous, high powered career, pots of money and 'used to getting what she wants' according to her. We are poles apart and have very little in common so I have not actively encouraged anything more than passing the time of day. In the last three weeks she has:

Asked when I would be in so she could pop in and borrow a DVD box set. Then came on the only night I said I would NOT be there, went into the kitchen and started to make herself a cup of tea until DH said that he was expecting a mate round, so she left.

Sent DH a filthy text message (which he showed me) then immediately sent another one saying 'Oops, was meant for Y (her DH), wouldn't want you to get the wrong idea'. Apparently she got his work mobile no from Linked In. Not sure why she would look him up.

Sent him an underwear photo the following day, followed by another 'Oops' then made great pains to come and tell me that it was absolutely an accident. Incidentally their names do not begin with the same initial so would not be next to each other on her phone list.

Last night, at a very casual drinks thing at local cricket club, told him she's been dreaming about him. Again, followed him around like a puppy until he eventually planted himself beside me again which we seldom do, we're normall talking to different people. She then said to me 'Oh Mega ha ha, you must think I'm after your husband ha ha ha'. Er well, actually I do.

DH knows I am posting this btw and says she makes him feel uncomfortable. I am pretty chilled about most things but I think this has to stop now.

So dear reader, this has been longer than I anticipated Grin what do you think?

OP posts:
SayCoolNowSayWhip · 20/03/2013 16:13

Skygirls Grin That would be hilarious!

Areyoumadorisitme · 22/03/2013 08:18

Any update OP?

BuddyButters · 22/03/2013 12:17

God I hate people who get you all interested and then fuck off.

YesIamYourSisterInLaw · 22/03/2013 21:04

Op's been on since as well Hmm

CalamityKate · 23/03/2013 10:56

PM her! :D

fallon8 · 23/03/2013 12:25

Why has she got his phone number?

SayMama · 23/03/2013 12:44

Apparently she got his work mobile no from Linked In. Not sure why she would look him up.

There you are fallon8 Smile

Mia4 · 23/03/2013 14:54

YANBU, she's chasing and blatantly so. Your DP should text her back or tell her that he's not interested and he doesn't want her to text him-accidentally or otherwise.

Maybe he can also block her number?

ImperialBlether · 23/03/2013 15:08

I want to know what happened!

Locketjuice · 23/03/2013 15:18

Read the whole thread.. To find no ending Hmm whaaaaaa! Come back OP!

DeafLeopard · 23/03/2013 15:21

Ooh yes Mega has she been in touch?

Thingiebob · 23/03/2013 23:19

I knew someone like this once. It was never anything really to do with the man in question, more to piss off the wife/partner. Usually to do with jealousy about the woman.

tiredlady · 24/03/2013 19:58

OP
What happened next?
Don't leave us hanging on like this! :)

thezebrawearspurple · 24/03/2013 19:59

You can't tell us what happened next!

thezebrawearspurple · 24/03/2013 20:00

I meant you can't NOT tell us what happened next!

TheEasterQODdy · 24/03/2013 20:10

Tsk!!

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 24/03/2013 20:29

Are we gonna have to make up endings again...? Grin

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 24/03/2013 22:31

Maybe just send 'Rachel' a link to this thread? Grin

Fuckitthatlldo · 25/03/2013 09:13

Bloody hell. Just read through the entirety of this thread and now I neeeeed an update dammit.

MunchkinsMumof2 · 26/03/2013 14:54

I have just stalked found Megatron on Chat and gently reminded her that we need an update Wink

Megatron · 26/03/2013 15:13

Oh I'm soooooo sorry I didn't update! And i didn't even notice the bumps!

Weeeeeeell. It's all a bit boring now and you will probably wish I made something salacious up! After DH sent her the 'leave me alone' text, she sent one back two days later saying 'I don't know what you're talking about' and has ignored both of us ever since. Grin. DH met her and her husband about a fortnight ago and she acted like nothing had happened then went back to ignoring again when her husband is not around.

To be honest, I'm happy with the ignoring, it makes life much simpler but I am still slightly wary as I don't believe that she's above trying to make trouble somewhere down the line. As a kind of insurance I told two of my friends who are in our friendship group what happened. (that makes me sound a bit paranoid but I just don't trust her)

I'm really sorry I didn't come back to update and thanks munchkin for the reminder! [smile}

OP posts:
EostreChaoticResurrEggtion · 26/03/2013 15:17

Very wise telling your friends. I wouldn't trust her either.

ComposHat · 26/03/2013 15:23

Why are you telling us about this and not round her gaff flying in there with the claw end of a hammer?

pollypandemonium · 26/03/2013 15:28

Sounds like almost a happy ending then. Smile

anklebitersmum · 26/03/2013 16:09

A big YAY from me.

Handled with the utmost maturity in the face of extreme provocation Grin

..I'd have been tempted to make cheesy aprons out of the underwear piccy and sell them at the local fete myself Blush