To wonder why people get so het up about DCs not being invited to weddings?

[DioneTheDiabolist]

Two people are getting married. They are having a party that they are paying for. So why can't they invite whoever they wish without being called Bridezilla or causing offense?

I understand that some parents can't get sitters or that sitters will cost money. What I don't get is why such parents just don't wish them the best and decline the invitation as it doesn't suit.

[Illustrationaddict]

Not much fun, but then again you can't really blame the bride for inviting her own children, would have been a bit rude not to!

The phrasing 'whilst we would love to invite the children of all our friends, we are only able to accommodate children of close family' might have been useful on that invite. Then again do teens count as children?

[maninawomansworld]

Yes I know, some people have a real problem with it.
We are marrying soon and we have invited 5 children who we see a lot and know as people in their own right, rather than merely being the DC's of our friends.
A few people aren't happy about this but it's my wedding, I'm paying and I don't want it turned into a fecking playgroup! The children who are coming are very mature for their ages, well behaved kids who (most of the time) you could take anywhere and I'm looking forward to them being there.

[Ragwort]

man - I think that's fair enough but if you have a formal seating plan I assume you wouldn't sit the children with adults whose children are not included in the invite (see my point ).

Illstration - no, I wouldn't expect the teenage children to not have been invited but I would expect them to have been seated with their own family or family friends rather than some random strangers - which is what we were to them.

Quite honestly I am now at the age when I just turn down invitations to occasions that I am not going to enjoy - I expect most hosts/hostesses are only too relieved when not everyone accepts the invitation .

[SirChenjin]

I don't know anyone who gets het up about children not being invited to weddings. Otoh we've had to decline invitations to weddings where our children (we're talking 2 teens and a 5 year old) haven't been invited because we have no-one who could take 3 children for an entire weekend - and then had to justify the decision to the bride!

[DioneTheDiabolist]

SirChenin stick around. I didn't know it happened either until I became a Mnetter.

[AmandaLF]

Doesn't bother me. Me and DH have a wedding this weekend. The invite didn't say ds's name so we double checked with the mother of the bride and there's no children apart from family. We've decided to make a night of it and have booked into the hotel so we don't need to come home.

We also have a wedding next weekend where ds is coming so I won't be drinking.