to think having a photo of your child as your Facebook profile photo is sad?

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I mean a photo of just your child/children without you in it too.

I absolutely love being a mum, and I love my children more than I could ever say but I still have an identity - I'm not just a mother.

Purple I have my own pic but still think the OP is being unreasonable.

And how does my profile picture have a detrimental effect on your life OP? Are we friends? I suspect you're not the type of person I'd want as a friend anyway if you think it's necessary to judge people by the photo they use on a social networking website.

I get where the OP is coming from.

But I was a very early adopter, and I find that different generations (technologically speaking, not chronologically) use FB in very different ways. I might have my DCs as my cover picture, but not my profile picture, and in any case my profile is on the highest security settings so most people can't even see that.

So I'm not sure I'd use the word "sad", but unless the child is newborn, celebrating a birthday, or lost, I don't get why they'd occupy that space.

I think it was never the same when people starting getting all showy offy and removed the assigned Tintin profile shot..

Back in the day, it was a question mark. It was considered really bad form to have a photo up that couldn't actually be used to identify you. Clue is in the name: Face book, not QuestionMarkBook.

Oh how we laughed not really.

I regularly use a picture of one of my home-made cup-cakes!

but we can be identified through our kids :s

i remember back in the days on yahoo chat and stuff our avatars were never our pics, and profile pic on fb was seen to be the same by many as avatars. many people i know use same avatar on forums and fb profile pics, as that makes them identifiable.

I have a llama. Cue HH llama song.....

I don't trust facebook (or any online stuff cos I am an old git) so I don't post photos of me or my kids. My FB page has a photo of my cat.

Could be worse, women could have photos of their fanjos.

YANBU I think it's sad too.

Oops last week I was a rather delicious tropical cocktail.
This week I'm the dogs.
clearly no hope for my self identity

i think it is sad that people want to make an issue of this sort of stuff

Its a nothing problem

yanbu.

I have a picture of my children, they are flipping beautiful I'm fugly Just because I have them as my profile pic doesn't mean I don't have an identity of my own. YABU

I have a pic of my youngest as my profile pic on FB. I use FB to catch up with people who already know what I look like . My husband has a picture of the Clooney as his - wishful thinking on both our parts

I'm sad then.

my current picis of homemade valentines pizza - before that - me with srewy hair, and then lots of my daughter in different scenes/poses before that - am I defined by motherhood?

Wtf? Why is it sad?

I agree with the OP. I think profile photos of most things are fine, but photos of just your kids just seems a bit "I have no identity of my own and my kids are my life" I presume people who do this are a bit like that though so at least you can avoid them.

2rebecca, what a stupid thing to think. Your Facebook identity is also made up of the "about me" section where you write about yourself.

Why would you want to avoid people if they have a picture of their child on their profile? Presumably you only add friends you know on fb, not complete strangers with pics of their babies? So you don't add friends with their children as profile pics?

I have my ds's baby pic on my profile, and I also have my own identity. My children are a part of my identity.

What a stupid thread.

I have my kids as my profile picture they are much cuter than me. I never thought it was sad before i had DC, YABU

I have various facebook photies at the moment it my dog being all cute and doggy like with a tilty head I guess it is their facebook they can have whatever picture they like