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AIBU?

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Original poster

To get annoyed at DH for buying me flowers

151 replies

BimbaBirba · 13/02/2013 21:04

For Valentine's... Yes one day early!
Annoyed because he dumps them on me and I need to unwrap them, get a vase, dispose of all the wrapping, cut the stems and place them
in water then clear up the mess from leaves and other bits that fall on the floor.
What a faff! I just wish he'd buy me chocolates instead!

OP posts:
Sidge · 13/02/2013 21:06

My heart bleeds for you.

Not.

ThisIsMummyPig · 13/02/2013 21:07

Well if he bought them tomorrow you wouldn't have them when you woke up. My DH leaves them in the car, but they might get a bit cold tonight.

TBF He only buys them for my birthday now, valentines is a non-event in our house.

Ilovesunflowers · 13/02/2013 21:07

How bloody ungrateful. Not funny even if you are joking. Poor bloody guy.

lastSplash · 13/02/2013 21:08

Say "they're beautiful, thank you. Please can you put them in a vase in the living room?" and let him sort it all out...

I would say YABU purely on the strength of the OP but (1) I hate the flower-pushing at exorbitant rates that goes on around valentines; and (2) suspect it is not a very ethical / environmentally sound business so YANBU.

XBenedict · 13/02/2013 21:08

Really? How lovely he bought you flowers!

KnittedCharacter · 13/02/2013 21:08

How very ungrateful!!!!!

gordyslovesheep · 13/02/2013 21:08

bet your diamond shoes are too tight as well OP

MrsBW · 13/02/2013 21:08

What Ilovesunflwers said.

BluelightsAndSirens · 13/02/2013 21:09

Ltb

mynewpassion · 13/02/2013 21:09

Show off.

LadyWidmerpool · 13/02/2013 21:10

That's why my husband hasn't bought me flowers in ten years - to save me a trip to the kitchen! What a guy Grin

usualsuspect · 13/02/2013 21:10

YABU, I love getting flowers.

You sound like a right misery guts.

Original poster
BimbaBirba · 13/02/2013 21:10

I'm being an ungrateful bitch aren't I? I just don't see the point of them, just the faff

OP posts:
McNewPants2013 · 13/02/2013 21:10

Have awful for you

KnittedCharacter · 13/02/2013 21:11

Did u thank him bimba? what have u bought him for valentines?

usualsuspect · 13/02/2013 21:12

Must be awful, having a husband who buys you flowers.

Is he usually so controlling?

Original poster
BimbaBirba · 13/02/2013 21:14

He buys me flowers at least 5 times a year, the bastard.
I got him chocolates and a card

OP posts:
HoratiaWinwood · 13/02/2013 21:14

I don't really like cut flowers. DH knows this. This week he heard me reminiscing about yellow Bic biros and bought me two boxes. That's love.

I get it, OP. It isn't the gift, it is what it represents. He panicked on the way home, grabbed flowers, and thought "that'll do" without actually thinking what you like. And his responsibility for the gift ends when he dumps it in your lap.

SoWhatIfImWorkingClass · 13/02/2013 21:15

Poor guy.

babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood · 13/02/2013 21:15

gordy Grin

My DH bought me a bottle of Sancerre instead of a bunch of 'shitty overpriced flowers you'd have to fanny around with for 10 mins'. That's why he's lovely. (Reminds me to update my dh is a cock thread from earlier this week).

So YANBU wine wins

BadgersRetreat · 13/02/2013 21:15

YABU - the faff is part of the fun. You can look at them and think how lovely they are as you arrange them

and what usual said ^^

DizzyHoneyBee · 13/02/2013 21:15

YABU. People who have lost their husbands due to bereavement would jump at the chance for flowers. Start appreciating what you have and stop being so ungrateful.

Original poster
BimbaBirba · 13/02/2013 21:16

Exactly Horatia. He could take some responsibility for the gift too!

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GirlOutNumbered · 13/02/2013 21:17

urgh. I hate Valentines Day.
Watching all the men in Tesco today buying cheap tat and cards.

Does anyone really need a day to say I love you.

usualsuspect · 13/02/2013 21:17

You just have to put them in a vase, it's hardly bloody rocket science.