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To get annoyed at DH for buying me flowers

151 replies

BimbaBirba · 13/02/2013 21:04

For Valentine's... Yes one day early!
Annoyed because he dumps them on me and I need to unwrap them, get a vase, dispose of all the wrapping, cut the stems and place them
in water then clear up the mess from leaves and other bits that fall on the floor.
What a faff! I just wish he'd buy me chocolates instead!

OP posts:
BreconBeBuggered · 13/02/2013 22:54

I like the brandy sauce.

frantic53 · 13/02/2013 22:54

YABU! In 32 years of marriage I can count the bunches of flowers I got from ex h on the fingers of one hand and three of those were for the birth of our children and bought because my DM bullied him into it! All I got every year was, "We're not doing Valentine's are we? It's such a waste of money." I happen to know that NW (that's new woman, I just made that up) is to be spoilt rotten tomorrow though! Sad

HoratiaWinwood · 13/02/2013 23:32

These are yellow Bics.

I was trying to get into the OP's head sympathetically. If she doesn't like flowers, flowers are a crap present. A default present that Stereotypical Woman might like, but not her. Like diamond earrings or a hot water bottle with a heart on.

In fairness, if you've spent years failing to tell him you don't like cut flowers, today probably isn't the day to bring it up.

booge · 13/02/2013 23:53

YANBU I can't be arsed with flowers either. (Except a bunch of daffs in a rubber band).

JoyceDivision · 13/02/2013 23:59

when i had dc1, for the valentines day, dh went to pick up a chinese takeaway, and got an extra paper bag from the staff and put my present in there, got back, handed it to me and said 'here's the prawn crackers' and when i ripped open the bag there was.... a texas chainsaw massacre lunchbox and flask! I absolutely loved it!!!

It wasn't expensive ut it was well thought out by dh and soemthing daft he knew I'd like.

JoyceDivision · 14/02/2013 00:01

i don't think I'll get much this year, and if it really puts it in perspective, i got nothing for Christmas from dh as he spent the days befpre Christmas at hospital with MIL as she passed away Sad

Now, go and say thank you for your flowers, I'd be happy with them!

consordino · 14/02/2013 00:04

I don't like roses - everybody knows I don't like roses. The DC know I don't like roses. DH will buy me roses tomorrow. He buys me roses for my birthday too. Every time the children chorus "but mummy doesn't like roses". I have been saying for several years "I like XXXX, and XXXXX flowers, but I don't really like roses."
At least they die quickly!

thistlelicker · 14/02/2013 00:05

Sometimes men can't win! Ur lucky he even bought u them and took the time and proved they just not bought from the garage!!

I told my hubby no valentines this year! We will use money to book a holiday instead! Wink

OrangeLily · 14/02/2013 00:06

Diddums... Poor you.

Life is so hard!

ilovesooty · 14/02/2013 00:08

I do know someone who gave her husband hell because he bought her flowers that didn't complement the living room.

JoyceDivision · 14/02/2013 00:13

I really like those roses (i think) that look like little cabbages!

consordino · 14/02/2013 00:14

Cabbage roses??

CuriousMama · 14/02/2013 00:14

Odd you can't converse with your dh? Dp knows not to buy me them. They remind me of funerals tbh. I like them in my garden though.

Dp bought me clothes much nicer. I bought him some underwear for me and a sexy dress, for me Wink

CuriousMama · 14/02/2013 00:15

consordina, I think I know where I'd stick the roses Wink Is he trying to wind you up?

CuriousMama · 14/02/2013 00:16

consordino sorry for spelling mistake.

JoyceDivision · 14/02/2013 00:16

these type here , Consordino

JoyceDivision · 14/02/2013 00:17

But I wouldn't put flowers in my bottom, that wold be odd! And a waste of flowers! But possibly be more fragrant...

consordino · 14/02/2013 00:19

Nope, sorry, I don't like those either. I like tulips and daffodils the best.

Jojobump1986 · 14/02/2013 00:26

YANBU, or at least, if you are then so am I! I hate, hate, hate flowers. You have to arrange them & find somewhere to display them with pride & then figure out the right time between keeping them up long enough for DH to feel they've been appropriately appreciated & getting them down before they start to smell. I always get it wrong & leave them up too long because I feel guilty throwing them away & then they smell disgusting. DH knows better than to get me flowers now after I burst into tears, insisted he didn't know me at all & there was no point to our relationship. In my defence, I was trying to get my depression under control at the time & the meds made me a little emotional fragile! Someone else bought me flowers last weekend & DH has been removing the dead ones & topping up the water for me. They're not very smelly as flowers go but I'm pregnant & can smell the 'green' from across the room. They are pretty though!

tinyshinyanddon · 14/02/2013 03:33

This thread illustrates why DH has been instructed to bring me one dozen donuts tomorrow (and I have even given him the coupon to get them on sale).

saladcreamwitheverything · 14/02/2013 03:51

We were sat in Frankie and Bennys earlier and i said "I haven't got a card for you for tomorrow" he said "I haven't got one for you either" so we both went to ASDA, took it turns to go get a card for the other cos it was snowing and baby's nap time. (sat in p&cparking as well, DEVILS!) £4 quid! I'd rather have avbottle of wine, personally!

True example of commercialism. But it wasn't my doing, I'm just happy that he made my baby and I get to wake up with him everyday :-)

financialwizard · 14/02/2013 06:12

I got flowers yesterday with chocolates and a card. First time in six years for my husband. Tbh I am just grateful he managed to order them because he is posted somewhere sandy right now.

Eebahgum · 14/02/2013 06:43

I'm thinking this is a joke too although not as good as the cake one. If not, I would like to add another to the long list of YABUs. My dp buys me flowers every month or so & I love it. I suspect I'm getting a big load of naff all today though & that still makes me a bit sad.

BambieO · 14/02/2013 06:47

I have no idea if I will get a gift but am looking forward to my card and the dine in deal from m and s currently residing in my fridge :) is it too early for the wine and chocolates? Grin

zcos · 14/02/2013 06:54

hate Valentine's! prefer st dwynwens much prefer getting flowers as a suprise ... and not red roses!
I can see your point of view op if he just shoved them at you almost thinking right I'm off the hook Grin