To get annoyed at DH for buying me flowers

[BimbaBirba]

For Valentine's... Yes one day early!
Annoyed because he dumps them on me and I need to unwrap them, get a vase, dispose of all the wrapping, cut the stems and place them
in water then clear up the mess from leaves and other bits that fall on the floor.
What a faff! I just wish he'd buy me chocolates instead!

I do think you have a point.
However lovely flowers are (and they are) all that extricating from tight plasic and sellotape is dispiriting.
When I give someone flowers I always take them out of the plastic and rewrap in lovely tissue paper with a ribbon and decant flower food to a little glass jar. I figure like me they will be grateful not to have all that hassle.

I'm even more amazed that anyone actually agrees with you.

Or maybe he thinks you eat too many chocolates as it is?

I luv you Hilda

What hassle?

It takes a few minutes, bloody nora.

The world has gone mad, mad I tell you.

Maybe you should take your unwanted flowers to a local nursing home, they'd be gratefully received there.

or send them to me

Don't bother with a vase OP - just shove em up your arse.
That'll show him. The bastard.

Alfrex? Greensleeves?

Are you at it again!

Wouldn't mind if he sorted them
out and looked after them until they're disposed of in the green bin.
As it is, it feels like a cheap gesture

My dh has bought me chocolates.

I am 7 months pregnant. Does the selfish twat not realise I already have 2 stone to lose post baby

Bloody thoughtless

Worra

Who's alfrex?

What a frightful misogynist and so controlling ....perpetuating benevolent sexism and undermining the women's revolution. Leave the bastard, call women's aid, etc etc etc.

OP, I don't like DH buying me flowers. Yes, the mess/hassle but for me I just don't like watching them wither and die. I'd rather have a plant and then forget to water it.

My one exception is daffodils, I love to fill the house with them at Easter.

Just tell him! Have told my DH not to buy me flowers, he wasn't the slightest bit offended.

MIL always brings flowers when she visits and her, no, I don't dare tell.

Flowers for Valentine's Day that you have to cut up and put into a vase?

Leave the bastard!

Oh I want flowers now.
I LOVE flowers.

I'll have them.

My god how inconsiderate of him

Wish someone would buy me flowers... or chocolates.... or anything.

What do you get your DH for Valentine's OP?

I agree with you - I really hope my DH doesn't buy me flowers tomorrow, 1) they are sooooooooooo expensive, I would rather have a bog standard bunch every week for the next two months than a huge bouquet - 2) I am going away on Saturday so it would be a real waste.

Surely a true gift is something that you would value and appreciate, I would love it if DH got my car valeted or bought me a dustbin - either of those gifts would make a real difference to my life, a bouquet will not.

Equally I suppose I know that the present my DH would like is an hour or so 'unreserved' attention in bed, and no, he's not going to get that . I've bought him a £1 box of maltesers .

YANBU - valentine's flowers are a rip off and only show that the person buying them has been suckered by a massive marketing machine...

Same goes for cut flowers most of the time. DH knows better than to give me flowers too - would prefer to have a pot plant or plant for the garden that will last for longer and give pleasure for much longer too. Partly this is because I refused to give cut flowers to my mum and his mum when we got married as is often convention (not least because they were staying away from home) - instead I got them a couple of little rose bushes each (including making sure they had nicely named and appropriate species of roses), wrapped up nicely. Now, 10 ish years down the line, the rose bushes still live on in their gardens and both like them as pretty flowers in the garden and as a more long lasting reminder and genuine thank you to both of them. Cost the same as cut flowers if not a little less, but the value was significantly more.

I once received a beautiful bouquet of flowers when leaving a job that was actually a fairly long term consultancy post (18 months). The people involved had become good friends (and I went on to work with a lot of them a little later in a different company) - they knew me, knew I loved chocolates and wine amongst other things that are impersonal thank you type presents to give when a present isn't needed. They also knew I was going on holiday abroad for a couple of weeks the next day. And yet - they still gave me these beautiful flowers that I got to look at for all of a couple of hours when I got them home, then I gave them to some relatives that I lived closest to and could easily get them to, as otherwise they would have sat in my flat and been dead by the time I got back. It just felt like they had ordered them without thinking for a moment (and admittedly they were all men so maybe they had wives that would have liked them or they had a florist account for such things but no account for wine or chocs. But despite knowing they meant well, it still felt like a kick in the guts because even if they had spent a fraction of the money on a box of chocs or bottle of wine it would have been more personal and useful. And then on top of that you end up feeling guilty because you know they went to some trouble and thought they were doing something nice so that just compounds the bad feelings.

You ungrateful bugger OP. Send them here, I've been debating buying myself and the kids some for tomorrow anyway. Washed and polished a vase ready!

Libra

I've got all my vases ready, I know interflora will be knocking all day.

I usually get given supermarket flowers that have been rolling around in the back of DH's car for the last week. Usually a few of the heads are missing.

I still arrange them in a vase and think what a tight bastard he is

only kidding