for flouting hospital 'no sibling' rule for ebf baby?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

DS had an operation yesterday. He needed me to be there. Breastfed baby also needed me.

I took my Aunt to look after my ds and we were sent initially to a waiting room. The plan was for her to keep him there and for me to pop out of the ward to feed him.

However, we were there for half an hour and my ds started to ask for a feed, so I started to bf. Literally 2 sucks in, we were called. I pulled him off and he screamed so I jigged him about (which quietens him as a distraction) and moved towards the ward with him in tow.

The nurse told me he wasn't allowed. I told her that I needed to finish his feed and then I would take him back to my aunt. I offered to vrubg ds ub 10 mins but she got arsey saying that ds would have to have his operation cancelled if he missed his slpt. Nurse started tutting about him disturbing the other patients and that there was a strict no-sibling rule that I knew about as it was in the letter (it was).

so WIBU?

Yes, that's how I see it Ilike.
Having spent loads of time in those environments I really think that it was just a common sense decision that needed to be made. In fairness it was made so I'm not sure it warranted a complaint letter.

The baby isn't ebf though

'And it has already been established that infact her son isn't exclusively breastfed at all'

No it hasn't. It has been repeatedly posted by you and one or two others, but that doesn't make it true.

My baby relies on milk for his sole source of nutrition and fluid. As he is over 6 months we have started offering him other things like rice cakes. However, the only evidence that he has consumed anything is that I have pine needles in his nappy.

However much you insist that having eating pine needles means the baby isn't ebf, it doesn't take away the FACT that a baby waking for his first bf of the morning cannot make do with a rice cake that he can't coordinate to actually eat much of, and no fluids.

'A 7 month old can be left for a bit'

Yes he can, which is why I brought my aunt to occupy him in the waiting room. However, he cannot wait for an unspecified amount of time after waking for a feed and being offered 2 sucks.

OFFS just let it GO now! You have one opinion, shared by small minority. Others do not. Regardless of what anyone says, you are not going to change your opinion that you were not unreasonable. So LET IT GO. Continuing the thread as you are is serving no good.

i don't understand why you started this thread op. you've asked 'aibu'. it's quite clear that you personally think you are not, so why is this discussion needed?

I don't think it is a small minority that share my opinion. It's just that the people who do not, keep coming back onto the thread with a different argument to try to prove their points, raking around on my old points to link to, repeating assumptions that have already been clarified and put straight.

The bullies are the noisiest yes, but not the majority.

YABU

From the pages I have read I don't think most people do agree with you. You need to re-read your thread OP and just check

I support the OP. I'm guessing other people here haven't breastfed or haven't breastfed for very long. The hospital was being unreasonable and inflexible.

YABU

You should have contacted them beforehand and clarified the situation.

Whether the baby is eating Ella's pouches or not, and whatever Starlight's personal situation or stance on BF may or may not be, the fact that a 'baby-friendly' hospital expected a mother to stop a BF and leave her baby with someone else on grounds of space is bloody ridiculous and needs to be raised with the management so that it doesn't happen again. A 7 mo old attached to a boob takes up less space than some people's handbags.

On those grounds alone the OP is NBU.

this thread is just getting more bizarre. op is bending the truth.

StarlightMcKenzie Thu 10-Jan-13 23:19:45 "He just ate 3 AFTER fish, mushy peas and wedges of potato (which probably mostly went on the floor) and now has been bfing for 30mins. He had one big pouch and two smaller ones"

Roopoo,

Contacted WHO exactly? Who is 'THEM'? How will I know that the message has got through to the person it needed to on the day? I doubt very much had I even got through the various 'hold' sections on the telephone that anyone would be interested.

And quite apart from anything, I had no intention of taking ds into the ward. It just happened and took me by surprise.

As has been clarified already in the thread btw.

You as well nipers. Your attempt at making your argument against according to the information on this thread is so poor you've had to go on a witch-hunt?

FYI, THAT information has also been clarified on the thread further down, if you had read it.

So why couldn't you leave baby DS with your aunt with toys and a snack while you dealt with hospitalised DS?

yawn

And the idea that a child of any age can be removed mid-suck to be handed to someone else is, quite frankly, laughable. A 7 mo old will be way more vocal than a newborn! Some people are very naïve.

Thank you Baron I have written to the Infant Feeding Specialist at the hospital about what happened.

It has already been said, but I'll repeat (as some posters like to jump in with assumptions rather than read), I have NOT made a complaint againt the nurse.

btw, how is your other ds?, you know, the one who had the op?

Yes exactly nipers Yawn. Bowlers why don't you read the thread? All the answers to your questions are there. Otherwise I'll just have to keep repeating myself and it is boring.

Do you care nipers? I think not.

She couldn't leave DS with her aunt because she had already started a feed. Try it sometime. Honestly, just try it........ Hell hath no fury!