for flouting hospital 'no sibling' rule for ebf baby?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

DS had an operation yesterday. He needed me to be there. Breastfed baby also needed me.

I took my Aunt to look after my ds and we were sent initially to a waiting room. The plan was for her to keep him there and for me to pop out of the ward to feed him.

However, we were there for half an hour and my ds started to ask for a feed, so I started to bf. Literally 2 sucks in, we were called. I pulled him off and he screamed so I jigged him about (which quietens him as a distraction) and moved towards the ward with him in tow.

The nurse told me he wasn't allowed. I told her that I needed to finish his feed and then I would take him back to my aunt. I offered to vrubg ds ub 10 mins but she got arsey saying that ds would have to have his operation cancelled if he missed his slpt. Nurse started tutting about him disturbing the other patients and that there was a strict no-sibling rule that I knew about as it was in the letter (it was).

so WIBU?

ROFL - yes I absolutely did!!

And I'm hoping it happens soon. I was reflecting on dd though. She flipping did. Eats nothing now though she is 4.

However slightly disturbed that you're checking up on me. Other threads do not make this thread as it stands, any less or any more than it is.

I wonder are your comments related to the informaiton on the thread, or some kind of personal issue!?

well in light of recent developments then you certainly are being unreasonable!

only on MN does EBF overule EVERYTHING, norovirus, screw that!
the need to EBF is sacrosanct.....

OP hope your DS is better

No, you clearly said 'DS' and spoke in the present tense about your then 6mo on the three Ella's pouches thread. I also pitched in on a thread where you discussed your DS's solids diet and remembered your name so I didn't check up apart from to cross-reference the link.

It's nothing personal. It just highlights the fact that you like a bit of a fuss, methinks, and don't mind embellishing your story as needed...?

And it's more than one of you? Good grief. What have I done to upset people in the past? I haven't been searching through threads on y'all?

Just for the record though, - should my ds be eating a roast dinner every day, or even not exist at all, the issue that I am posting about is still no less valid

There was no norovirus athe hospital, and the letter stated no siblings due to there not being SPACE!!

Yes Elpha, and I bloody hope it takes off like I hope, and follows dd, though I wish she'd eat even one right now.

Incidently, she's due for a grommets operation some time soon. I wonder if things will be the same?

Gosh, it's vitriolic on here tonight!

Op, ywnbu to ask to bring a baby which had begun a feed with you. When I was bf-ing, I physically couldn't have stopped a feed once I'd let down - I'd have been a fountain going up the corridor!

I can see other poster's points if there had been an infection on the ward or you had wanted to bring a large family of toddlers with you - but you were clearly told it was a space issue. This in itself is fair enough, and I expect the no sibling thing is to prevent hordes of toddlers charging about. But feeding a baby on your lap really isn't that obstructive, and you took the baby away straight after. I think you were very fair, and the hospital eventually did the right thing in letting you feed.

The nurse was probably trying to avoid other parents seeing you with a sibling and wanting theirs too.

You are absolutely right, the issue you have discussed does hold credence. But you have used the "exclusively" breastfed stance to your advantage when it clearly isn't true, why do you get to 'flout' the rules to suit you? What about people who really can't get childcare or their children truly are EBF? Because of selfish behaviour from people like you these rules may be even more strictly enforced in the future.

Why are people routing through old threads? Why?

Can't you cope with the information on THIS thread?

Are your arguments here so dire that you have to hunt around looking for an inconsistancy or two to discredit the poster because you can't discredit the argument?

You'll find inconsistancies. Plenty I expect. I post on MN for a variety of reasons like many. Sometimes to clarify a situation, sometimes to explore one. Sometimes I change details to remain anonymous, sometimes I post to let of steam, sometimes I post from a friends perspective in order to help them in rl. I do post lots though. Sometims I substitue their kids for mine for short hand.

None of that matters. What matters is there are some people with a real chip on their shoulder here.

I'm a bit scared of saying it, has this been hijacked by some because of the emotive subject of feeding choices?

I'm telling you my ds doesn't yet eat enough to no longer need milk.

I've said it many times on this thread.

I'm saying it again.

Even if he could, he would probably STILL need a good ole breastfeed in the morning as did my dd.

Step away star. They're not gonna listen!

Have you got more than 2 Children?

No. I went looking because I seemed to recall that you rarely have positive interactions with the health service.

I am astounded at what you have been posting elsewhere about your "exclusively breast fed" DS diet.

If you had posted on here to say "My son had surgery and the hospital won't let breast fed babies in isn't that awful". I would probably have agreed with you.

However you made out that YOUR younger child would have suffered terribly as result of this policy had it been fully implemented.

I am therefore really quite taken aback by your own admission elsewhere on Mumsnet that he takes in a hell of a lot of calories from other substances and in fact would probably have been fine but a little grouchy if he had been left at home.

I remain upset for your older autistic DS who doesn't appear to have had your undivided attention today on what would have been a stressful day.

Your son(s). Your choices. However they aren't choices I understand.

People are rooting through old threads because they can. You're getting defensive because you've been shown to be stretching things - or is the Ella three pouch not you?

It's bollocks all to do with feeding choices, loads of people have said they bf/ebf - stop trying to imply everyone's against you because of formula feeding. Sheesh.

Accept that some people think you were in the wrong and forget about it.

"I'm telling you my ds doesn't yet eat enough to no longer need milk."

You wouldn't have had to stop breastfeeding though, just alter the way you'd usually do things for an hour or so.

'Oh, so you wanted to start a BFing bunfight!'

No I don't. But I'm wondering if some people do. If it isn't that they WHAT is it?

Yes, lurker. Spot on.

McNew. I have 3 children.

I have explaineed that lurker.

I seem to have to explain the same thing over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.