Ignoring all the background because I can't move until we 'win' a council house, so I can't just leave.
Both dds at a party, which I assume was planned for weeks. I was told about it yesterday. I was at work at teatime, essay writing, dog walking and dryer fixing at lunchtime.
Dd2's only pair of tights that match her dress have a hole in the crotch, only the crotch. |I only noticed this hole when I was getting her dressed. Her dress covers the crotch. She has clean knickers on, the same colour as the tights. Had she had other tights I would have gave her them, but she doesn't, so she wore the holey ones. There are no holes in the leg, only the crotch. She is 6 so she is not inclined to go around with her skirt above her head.
She has told DH about the rip on the way to the party. He is 'mortified' and 'feels like he can't go now' I am 'not a proper a mother' and 'want our children to be scruffy' his family will 'all be talking about us'
AIBU to think he needs to get a fucking grip and stop allowing our children to be near his family if they'd honestly make dd2 feel bad about a hole in some tights (which they wouldn't)?
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AIBU?
To think is this is not embarrassing?
D0oinMeCleanin · 03/02/2013 16:56
It's not in front of them, I refuse to be around his family while he is there because of this behavior and normally don't allow the children to be around them with him either, but I couldn't stop from going their cousins party, she is only a child. Normally they see his family while he is at work/out drinking.
He is sending messages on via FB to tell me what an abomination I am.
I cope by ignoring him mainly, this seems to annoy him more 
Although I may have lost my temper this time and replied telling him he is a nasty, fat cunt and his children will realise what kind of man he is one day and grow up hating him 
Not nice things to say, probably true, but on reflection I should have continued ignoring him.
He has been particularly nasty this week because I have an assignment due on Wednesday and he is trying to goad me into not finishing it, of course he hasn't admitted this, but every time I have an assignment due he turns into cunt of the year.
He's a twat.
What about enjoying the party? Seeing family? Playing together and having a laugh? No, I'm going to get upset about a hole no one will see Tosser 
Way to teach your dc the right lessons, not :(
He denies having anything to do with the shoe collecting issue, despite dd1 stating several times that "If I get new shoes every week with my pocket money, then I will always have clean shoes that match everything, won't I Dad?" 
She doesn't get new shoes every week, with her pocket money, she couldn't afford to, but every time she buys a new outfit we have to sit down with her shoe collection and work out if she has unblemished shoes that will match. She has perfectly adequate shoes that she won't wear because a sequin is missing or the soles are slightly worn, or they are slightly scuffed.
Dd2 just follows dd1. I don't think she has a shoe issue, I think she just wants more shoes to be like her sister. She still wears the same pair of muddy converse boots day in day out.
I am 34, today I am wearing jeggings with snot & chocolate handprints with a shirt that has 2 (I think) holes in it 
Tell your DH to fuck off, if he can do a better job he can feel free...
I think his mum is like this, but not to this extreme. She wouldn't say anything directly to the DC (or me, because she knows what my answer would be) but she tells DH behind my back and then he reports back to me.
Although, this also could be just him. My sisters apparently both call me allsorts behind my back, telling him how scruffy and lazy I am and how I don't exercise my dogs or look after the kids properly. I know my sisters well enough to know that the youngest has no qualms about saying these things to my face, the oldest despises him and can't bear to talk to him, so I don't believe a word of it.
He tried it with my mum once, I casually mentioned to her what she 'had said to DH' about my parenting skills in front of DH and then sat back and watched the flames 
He doesn't bother telling me what my mum says about me now
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