to not understand why so many people are 'proud' of babies rolling over, crawling, walking etc?

[HiggsBoson]

Unimportant bollocks I know, but humor me :)

I have a 3yo DD. Lately I'm noticing more and more people on facebook and in general conversation going on about how very proud they are that "DS rolled over" or "DD crawled"

As for toileting

I've always felt that pride is an ugly thing and hand on heart I have never been proud of DD Crawling, walking or taking a shit. I mean, these are human bodily functions and surely no reflection on your offspring's intelligence or your capability as a parent? So what's to be proud of?

Sure - when DD is a little older and does something for someone else of her own volition as an act of kindness, then yes, I might be proud of that. If she helps people and achieves happiness for herself and others then I might also be proud of her for that. But rolling? Nah.

Am I being a twat?

Yabu

andtheycalleditbunnylove that's naughty - you've taken me out of context.

I said I'd never gone about telling folk how terribly proud I am if her crapping, weeing, rolling, crawling etc.

play nicely ;)

I can't help but feel proud when my child learns something new. It's not something I make a decision on, it just is.

Though I don't share it on Facebook..

Happy, yes. Relieved, yes. Proud?

YABU

And miserable.

I suggest you get over yourself.

Hope you manage to keep your apathy hidden from your children

Haha

I suggest you get over yourself.

Surely my OP suggests the opposite?

ken dodds

yes it happens in work interviews

you ask the question

they look blank having not anticipated the question and then say having children is what they are most proud of

Altinkum you can share them with me anytime.

I understand OP I wasn't that bothered about dc when they were babies doing things they were supposed to be doing, but now in a school assembly or parents evening I'm a ball of tears at how amazing they are and why can't everyone else see my dc are the cleverest beautifulist (I know thats not a word) amazing children.

Not the same Altinkum. Of course you will take great pride in your DS's achievements.

InNeedOfBrandy and neveronamonday seem to get my gist here.

It's the oversharing I'm on about here.

YABU

I'm very excited, and yes, proud, when my son hits the big milestones.

So are his extended family who all live far away and rarely see him. So I post things on fb so they can see and feel like they aren't missing out.

If any of my friends aren't interested, they don't have to read it!

Personally, I love it when my friends post a vid of their childs first steps. I think it's lovely that they are proud.

YABU but I do sort of understand what you mean.

However, DD2 was born at 25 weeks and owing to the circumstances surrounding her prematurity we were told that she would probably be disabled with a high risk of cerebral palsy.

Everything she does is fucking amazing. I am unashamedly proud of her.

sausage I don't think I've ever had that answer ! Suppose it's a cop out .

Again OhBotheration your DD sounds incredible and I too would be very proud.

It's the bigging up of the mundane I'm talking about here.

"DD ROLLED OVER "

Erm...and?

well Op you are being a twat

Haha

YABU.

I'm proud if my baby does something new. I find it amazing watching him discover how to do something he couldn't before, the determination he puts in until he does it. It's great.

Actually you sound like you have too much pride of your own, you sound very cold and haughty.

I was so, so proud of, pleased for and generally chuffed when DS learned to walk. He had been trying so hard, and he made it.

Bit then I love my child for being him, not what he can show off in front of other parents "when she helps another child" indeed

Op you are backtracking!!

Had you said "AIBU to not care that friend is proud of little tallulahs every potty piss?"

Then you would have had a lot of YANBU.

You specifically said You werent proud of your DDs normal achievements and didn't get why anyone would be.

Two very different statements.

1 makes you a twat

1 means you are right!

Thanks Higgs, but I am boring as fuck on FB with my uber gushiness and "look what my miracle daughter did this week" column I'd be blocked from your news feed.

So it's the sharing on facebook that you hate?

....and its amazing to watch that little ball of mess and noise develop their own autonomy, independent thought, self will, determination. Each pathetic nothingness to you, is to a loving mother an amazing moment of wonder and delight.

I feel sorry for you and your DD that you will never experience it. Did you honestly never congratulate her or share in the magic of each new discovery?!