to not understand why so many people are 'proud' of babies rolling over, crawling, walking etc?

[HiggsBoson]

Unimportant bollocks I know, but humor me :)

I have a 3yo DD. Lately I'm noticing more and more people on facebook and in general conversation going on about how very proud they are that "DS rolled over" or "DD crawled"

As for toileting

I've always felt that pride is an ugly thing and hand on heart I have never been proud of DD Crawling, walking or taking a shit. I mean, these are human bodily functions and surely no reflection on your offspring's intelligence or your capability as a parent? So what's to be proud of?

Sure - when DD is a little older and does something for someone else of her own volition as an act of kindness, then yes, I might be proud of that. If she helps people and achieves happiness for herself and others then I might also be proud of her for that. But rolling? Nah.

Am I being a twat?

[HiggsBoson]

Gotta be honest it is mainly a fb thing, yeah

[PenelopeChipShop]

I felt proud of my son within days of his birth! I can't explain why and it took me by surprise but I guess it's just part of my love for him.

I do choose not to post info on his milestones on fb though... I might be obsessed with them but I do realise that others aren't. I will continue to be proud inside though! So there .

[HiggsBoson]

Grrr! YES I congratulate HER, bit I don't go around swelling with pride and telling everyone how proud I am of something most kids do as a matter of course

[MrsKeithRichards]

Picture the scene in a few year's..

'ma look, I can write my name'

'and? No big deal, I've been doing it for years'

Ya know, I have a mother who has never once said 'I'm proud of you, well done' and it bloody sucks.

[Iggly]

YABU

[HiggsBoson]

Grrr again!! I tell HER I'm proud of her and congratulate her every step.

[CheeseOnTop]

"Please don't post on facebook"

As the majority of other posts are thought-provoking, super-important non-trivial nuggets of information??? People spending there time browsing facebook don't need there time wasted.

[Iggly]

You don't go around telling people what kids do as a matter of course?

Why not?

I tell people what ds has done, I don't give a flying monkeys if other children walk - when both of mine started walking I was very proud and wanted to share.

Do you not like to display emotions or summat?

[StuntGirl]

YANBU, it annoys me too.

[HiggsBoson]

Sorry, it does fuck me off.

Maybe I'm misreading this whole pride thing

tbh I read it as 'look at what a great parent I am and look at what a super-advanced child I have and it's all down to me'. Over a kid rolling, walking or weeing ffs!

[Iggly]

You read it wrong. People are just proud and very excited so they stick it on FB. You sound cynical

[Shelby2010]

YABU
"hand on heart I've never been proud of DD" "when DD is a little older..... I might be proud of that"
Or
"I tell HER I'm proud of her"

Well which is it? Are you proud of her or not?

[HiggsBoson]

Fair point Altinkum, many of us use it as an essential tool to share with family :)

But "I'm SO PROUD of my little man . He just crawled to the TV"

Bleugh.

[pigletmania]

Yabvvvu to not feel proud f your child. What you take for granted other parents with sn/disabilities cannot. Yes imam proud of bth my chikdrens milestones (dd has ASD and dev delays. It means that they are heading in the right direction, due to dd Autism some milestones I may never see . So thank your lucky stars that your dd is making good progress and celebrate every but of teir lif because tey will soon grow up,into adults and you my regret it

[FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn]

YANBU.

By all means be proud of your child, but I, and everyone else on Facebook, don't need to know every last detail of their most recent bowel movement.

[MakeHayInAManger]

The thing is, talking/walking/rolling/peeing/whatever may be something that the vast majority of babies do at some stage as part of their development, but for that one child it is the first time they have done it and generally they have worked hard, shown determination and put in effort to have achieved that particular skill. So yes, it is totally right to be proud of them for achieving it and no one is going to tell me not to be proud that my ds has just managed to put two words together for the first time (they happen to be "where willy?" when I was changing his nappy, but there you go!).

Might go post that on FB now.

[pigletmania]

I am proud of dd and ds but don't expect others to be apart from their immediate family.

[HiggsBoson]

Shelby2012 I do think being proud of rolling over is a trifle daft. I realise that makes me in the minority here.

I do tell DD all the time about all the things she does that are wonderful, but they tend to be a teensy bit bigger/more impactful on others than rolling iyswim.

[HiggsBoson]

Pigletmania you haven't read my posts properly at all.

[MakeHayNotStraw]

But surely it's not daft to be proud of the effort that's gone in to learning to roll over? Babies I have seen put more effort into practising rolling than I do into most things....