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To wonder why the fucking world is filled with spiteful rude fucking bitches who are bitchy with every given moment?

262 replies

BITCHdumbBJTCH · 21/01/2013 14:51

My dd was unplanned. She was born a month before our first wedding anniversary. I felt amongst all other emotions really embarrassed I conceived so quickly after marriage. Comments from family members saying things like "oh you couldn't wait could you?!!" And "your little one wanted to come along quickly eh?!!" Didn't help with my embarrassment.

Fast forward 6 years, but dd is 5 now. I just had a phone call from one of my sil's friends, who for some fucking reason has my phone number instead of hers. I haven't seen her or met her for about 10 years. So this is the little gem this woman comes out with whilst laughing uncontrollably :

"I found out you were married and had a baby really quickly. I mean how old is your daughter now?"

Fucking fucking cunt bitch.

All those insecurities I had about having my dd quickly came rushing back. This fucking bitch has 4 sprogs. FOUR. Who the fuck does she think she is? The baby making police? Fucking bitch.

[if I'm being unreasonable just tell me gently, as I have serious pmt right now so might not be viewing things properly]

OP posts:
YouOldSlag · 21/01/2013 16:27

Who lit the fuse on your tampon? May I please use this in RL? It's marvellous.

TheOriginalSteamingNit · 21/01/2013 16:29

Grrr, did the fucking cunt bitch transport you back to 1962 as well? What a very odd thread.

JustinBoobie · 21/01/2013 16:32

I thought Mumsnet allowed ranting? Hmm Confused

OP, to be honest, I can understand how you feel! And you can say bitch cunt as much as you like. And, fwiw, I don't think you have issues - it's healthy to rant every so often!

You lot that don't like it, why comment? Report, if you must, then sod off. EVERYONE is allowed a big rant now and again!

CSIJanner · 21/01/2013 16:36

Actually, I get where you're coming from. Am from an Asian background as well, and pretty much as soon as all of my cousins were married, they were expected to produce. If they did v quickly and a girl at that, then the comments would come from friends as opposed to family itself. It's down heartening especially when you see how much my second cousins are loved.

I remember turning up to OH's colleagues wedding. Both are Asian, but OH isn't but that still didn't stop the bride grabbing my blubber belly and proclaimed with wonder to all and sundry why on earth I hadn't produced yet when I had been married already for a couple of years Shock

FeckOffCup · 21/01/2013 16:38

You lot that don't like it, why comment?

Because that's kind of the point of AIBU and the OP invited opinions by posting here?

seeker · 21/01/2013 16:41

God, I hate it when other women use hideous misogynist language like this about other women.

RubyrooUK · 21/01/2013 16:42

Cheer up OP, an elderly relative of my DH's said that she just KNEW I was pregnant at my wedding when my DS was born 15 months later. Yes, 15 months later. People are truly mad when they make comments sometimes. Grin

Mrsaurtherpendragon · 21/01/2013 16:42

I know you love your DD, but it must of been a shock to find yourself pregnant so soon after getting married, are you just angry because it wasn't how you planned to live your life, at that time?
I'm asian and would have loved to conceive straightaway, but didn't, now have 2 DD.
if people want to make remarks, either ignore it and assume they are jealous, or get angry and let it annoy you- which you seem to be doing.
Deep breath count to ten and realise that you are lucky to conceive a beautiful DD. some people don't even have that! Biscuit

Mrsaurtherpendragon · 21/01/2013 16:45

CS 0h my, you poor thing! Biscuit

ExpatAl · 21/01/2013 16:47

What is a PA?

EnjoyResponsibly · 21/01/2013 16:47

Your language doesn't bother me. We all benefit from a rant.

But really, in the scheme of things, this isn't worth ranting about.

LadyIsabellaWrotham · 21/01/2013 16:48

Have you tried Vitamin B6? Done wonders for my PMT - I haven't run amok with a breadknife even once.

RubyrooUK · 21/01/2013 16:51

Agree with MrsPendragon there, OP. If you have any comments like: "Oh I heard you got married and had a baby really quick" say in return with a great smug smile "yes, I know, I'm so lucky to have got a lovely husband then a baby so quickly. Thanks for the congratulations! You're right - I'm thrilled."

You could even say to your SIL "oh x was in touch to say congratulations on the wedding and the baby! Isn't that nice? I've just been so lucky recently." Grin

CSIJanner · 21/01/2013 16:51

MrsAurther - my first! Grin

TBH both of us love the fact we got to enjoy marriage before having our LO's - wouldn't change it for the world bar possibly persuading OH to have another one Love my life. Except the blubber belly. Must work on that one

MamaMumra · 21/01/2013 16:52

Don't take calls from this person again and just remember bitchy people generally aren't very happy.
Ignore and rise above any innuendo. Thanks

fourfingerkitkat · 21/01/2013 16:52

Who lit the fuse on your tampon?

I'm going to try and slip this into a conversation tomorrow....just to see if anyone notices...Grin

AnyFucker · 21/01/2013 16:53

Your use of nasty, misogynist terms says more about you than your SIL and her friend. Horrible.

MrsWolowitz · 21/01/2013 16:56

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Samnella · 21/01/2013 17:03

I had my daughter 11 months after I married. I was delighted we were lucky to conceive so quickly. I don't understand why you would be embarrassed and not a clue what you are so worked up about.

Waspie · 21/01/2013 17:07

I'm not married. Never have been, never will be. I have a 5 year old son. I'm not embarrassed. I couldn't give a rat's flying farty one about what anyone else thinks. Why do you care OP?

iwantanafternoonnap · 21/01/2013 17:10

I had my DS (now 3) 10 months and 2 weeks after meeting my now Ex. Not only should that be embarrassing but the fact that he is now an Ex and left me for someone else 3 weeks before DS 2nd birthday could be considered really embarrassing. Who gives a fuck though.

You were married and I can't think of a single person who would think that was embarrassing. I thought a lot of people got married to start a family etc.

Sounds like all the back story may have caused this upset. Swear away though as at least you are letter the anger out and not letting it fester inside you. Anger is a very valid emotion.

Your SIL is most likely jealous of you by the way.

Kalisi · 21/01/2013 17:23

YABU....and ridiculous. Get over it.

ReluctantMother · 21/01/2013 17:29

This woman has REALLY upset you, so have nothing more to do with her. Are you going to talk to SIL about her discussing you?

CheerfulYank · 21/01/2013 17:37

DD was born nine months and four days after we were married...totally unplanned. :)

The only time I gave it a second thought was considering that he might be early and then I'd have to face the cat's bum from uber religious MIL!

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 21/01/2013 17:51

I think " who lit the fuse on your tampon" is more shocking that the OP's language Tbh? And that't not all that shocking.

OP obviously you let rip when you were in a very heated state. Something I guess you are regretting now.