To wonder why the fucking world is filled with spiteful rude fucking bitches who are bitchy with every given moment?

[BITCHdumbBJTCH]

My dd was unplanned. She was born a month before our first wedding anniversary. I felt amongst all other emotions really embarrassed I conceived so quickly after marriage. Comments from family members saying things like "oh you couldn't wait could you?!!" And "your little one wanted to come along quickly eh?!!" Didn't help with my embarrassment.

Fast forward 6 years, but dd is 5 now. I just had a phone call from one of my sil's friends, who for some fucking reason has my phone number instead of hers. I haven't seen her or met her for about 10 years. So this is the little gem this woman comes out with whilst laughing uncontrollably :

"I found out you were married and had a baby really quickly. I mean how old is your daughter now?"

Fucking fucking cunt bitch.

All those insecurities I had about having my dd quickly came rushing back. This fucking bitch has 4 sprogs. FOUR. Who the fuck does she think she is? The baby making police? Fucking bitch.

[if I'm being unreasonable just tell me gently, as I have serious pmt right now so might not be viewing things properly]

[Clumsyoaf]

Oh and I have told my friend I dont get it but apparently im a "little slow as you americans are!" lol but I have thick skin

[Clumsyoaf]

I think I get where you are coming from OP (I may even know your sil!!).

I have a close friend whose brother had an arranged marriage (Sikh), he was from down south and she lived up someplace near Bradford. They met a couple of times before the wedding (which by the way was completely mind blowing ? sorry another thread) and ten months later out popped a baby. My friend couldn?t believe that they hardly knew each other but had jumped into bed with one another and that they should have taken time to get to know one another before bringing a third person into the relationship!

I have to say I haven?t quite got my head around it fully as they are now married and when they married they did so for life so the timings etc are no one elses business. But my friend always pokes fun and kind of implies that the brother and wife aren?t worldly etc

Like I said I don?t get it ? but enjoy your little one and being married!

[nickelbabe]

Exit - empathy, dear, empathy.

[kellibabylove]

Dd2 was born 9 months after we got married. That was a great honeymoon ;)
I never saw it as an issue but we did already have dd1. They are 15 months apart. I've had comments about how close they are in age, but not about how quickly after wedding we had dd2. They were planned that way. I don't understand your embarrassment, or what she found funny. Sil's friend sounds a bit soft in the head.

[MidnightMasquerader]

I am not in the UK.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

Yep. He died yesterday.

[MidnightMasquerader]

Slightly O/T, but...

...is Michael Winner dead...?

[ExitPursuedByABear]

Marriage = sex

Really?

[nickelbabe]

iunderstand.

ynbu actually.

you feel angry and embarrassed because they'r taking ng thr piss.

and actually as your dh is your only sexual partner, you feel like they're mocking your suddenly becoming sexually active and therefore must be doing it loads now you've found out what it's like.
like your sex life has been made public.

I understand because when I was younger, before i was with my ex, I used d to say I would never get married because it it's ould be like i was telling everybody I knew that I would be having sex.

it's okay.

[Sorelip]

I conceived DS less than a month after getting married.

Fuck what other people think.

[HildaOgden]

1.On some level,your sister-in-law feels inferior to you,or she wouldn't be trying to put you down.Remember that.

2.Block the number of sister-in-laws friend.

3.Take large doses of evening primrose to help with the PMT.

4.Don't feel embarrassed about successfully conceiving quickly on your DD.It isn't a shameful thing.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

You know, it actually seems very ODD to me that these people pick on you conceiving two months after getting married. Not so long ago, pre-Pill, this would have been the norm. My sister was born just a couple of days before my parents' first anniversary. My mother was very proud of this fact as it proved they did not have to get married IYSWIM. They do know pregnancy lasts 9 months and not 12, don't they? Ooh, perhaps you could ask them that as your riposte, OP?

I remember your previous thread about your SIL. She deserves every swear word in this thread . What is your brother's (her husband's) take on her behaviour? Or is he as thick nasty as she is?

[Ormiriathomimus]

???

Why...just why??

[NippyDrips]

Next time just say, "yes, we had a FABULOUS honeymoon" and give a big wink.

[perfectstorm]

Rollmopses, I appreciate that you're attempting Dorothy Parkeresque wit.

Unfortunately, you're actually coming across as a rather tragic blend of Hyacinth Bucket and Forrest Gump.

[rollmopses]

One shall exit left....

[SnowLiviaMumsnet]

AHEM

[NotGeoffVader]

I went to a wedding years ago where the bride and groom disappeared for an hour between the wedding and reception. Apparently to return their hired car. Which was at a location 10 minutes away from the venue.
They arrived at the reception looking a little flustered.

9 months later their son was born.

Nobody commented!

OP I can understand you being annoyed by people's comments but perhaps next time if you have a phone call like that hang up? Or just say, "I think you'll find that is none of your business".

I have only one DC and am constantly being asked if we're having any more. DH says we are not. (BTW I am old and not likely to be fertile much longer and feeling torn between enjoying the DC I have or trying to persuade DH another might be a good idea. And it took 6 years to conceive).

[rollmopses]

Dearie, OP could very well be a founding member of MN, doesn't change the fact that the opening statement, if you will, is beyond idiotic. One must admit that the collective wailing that ensued could hardly have been more entertaining if one had a particularly dull sense of humor, that is.

[perfectstorm]

"KateSMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 21-Jan-13 15:47:24
Hi everyone,

Thanks for all the reports. We can assure anyone who might have been worried that the OP is a regular MN and we have absolutely no concerns about her posting history/intentions. Please stick to the guidelines and cool it with the PAs and trollhunting."

But please, do keep breaking the rules on trollhunting, and not bothering to read threads before you comment, if that's how you manage to boost your self esteem.

[PickledInAPearTree]

Fair play for coming back op I'm glad you feel a bit better

I'm sure I've seen you posting before about her putting off new friends?

I hope you find a resolution - it's so hard for you that she makes you feel so rubbish and angry.

It's so hard to know why some people relish picking on others and making their lives hard.

[GrendelsMum]

Have sent you a PM!

[NonSwearyName]

Grendel, I have always thought she suffers from an inferiority complex. She is always out to prove she is better than me at everything. She has always been very competitive with me, copying me in everything and trying to out-do me despite the quite big age gap. Her favourite line is "I'll show everyone"...I do have a good degree and had a very good job too. I then started my masters when dd was 3 and I was invited around her house to find loads of her friends with babies and they questioned me why i hadn't had another baby yet. She knew i was having fertility problems. She lied about having a masters in statistics when she married my db. When I asked her some pretty basic questions about stats for my degree module, she had no idea what I was talking about, and just mumbled they do things differently in her country...stats calculations are universal and my lecturer was from the same Country as her! Sorry gone off on a tangent there, but she has always hated me for some reason.

She is a bully. She's horribly twisted and having cut her off I'm still at the receiving end of her shit. I know everyone says just ignore, but it's really hard when you have weeks of good days and then she strikes again and everything just goes bad. Wish there was a way I could get away from her.

[GrendelsMum]

I really do sympathise, OP. It's just another thing she's thought of to bully you about, isn't it? And the way bullies work is they take something totally innocuous and twist it round to make it seem disgusting. And then getting other people in on her nasty act - no wonder you were so upset.

She's obviously desperate to get one up on you and make the family and friends think that she's the superior one. Is there a reason that she's so desperate to get her self-worth by putting you down? Do you have a good job and a good degree, for example? Is your family perceived to be better than hers?