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Original poster

to think my DD5 is just funny or is she rude.

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GregBishopsBottomBitch · 05/01/2013 16:34

My DD, has come out with some funny lines, these are the examples:

Mother your getting on my nerves.
Mummy needs to exercise.
Saying yes after her godmother asked DD if she was fat.
Threatening to throw me out into the snow, after i threatened Peppa Pig with that same thing.

She also has an answer for everything.

Is she just honest or is she rude, curious to know what others think.

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 05/01/2013 16:36

How old is she?

webwiz · 05/01/2013 16:38

If she's 3 its probably funny but any older less so.

dontwanttobefatandforty · 05/01/2013 16:38

I would find her rude

DeWe · 05/01/2013 16:39

About age up to 2.5 it might be amusing but you need to stop your laughter and tell her why it's not acceptable. After that it isn't anything other than rude.

DeafLeopard · 05/01/2013 16:39

DD5 - fifth daughter or a 5yo?

Fairylea · 05/01/2013 16:40

Is she 5 ? ...hmmm bordering on rude I think.

Never acceptable to say anyone is fat.

Nanny0gg · 05/01/2013 16:40

If's she's 5 she's getting very rude and you're not helping her much if you think it's funny.

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GregBishopsBottomBitch · 05/01/2013 16:41

She is 5 years old now. starting to wonder.

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5Foot5 · 05/01/2013 16:41

I think that although this sort of thing is amusing while they are little, at five she is just starting to get to the age where it will appear rude.

I am thinking Karen from Outnumbered. Cute and funny in series one but an unbearable little PITA in the later series.

Jins · 05/01/2013 16:41

What's funny about these lines?

Pooka · 05/01/2013 16:41

Rude.

HecatePropolos · 05/01/2013 16:42

Yes, thats rude. She needs to start thinking about how others feel when you say things.

catgirl1976geesealaying · 05/01/2013 16:43

I think she's old enough to know better, so rude I'm afraid

AgentZigzag · 05/01/2013 16:43

It sounds like she's just saying things which you've got as a joke together.

Have you lightheartedly (or otherwise Grin) said she's getting on your nerves, or that you need to exercise? Because it'd be understandable if she said it back to you then.

When they're tiny it's funny to hear them repeating things back to you because it's out of context and you're not used to them saying stuff.

But as they get older they've got to learn they can't say the same things to adults as adults say to them.

If she's going to school saying stuff like that with no thought to how it might affect someone else, it might be time to have a word with her about it when it comes up.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 05/01/2013 16:43

I'd start having little chats about other people's feelings TBH.
Does she come out with this kind of stuff at school?
Also have a look at your own example setting - just in case?

AllDirections · 05/01/2013 16:44

Mother your getting on my nerves. Rude
Mummy needs to exercise. Probably repeating what you've said so not rude
Saying yes after her godmother asked DD if she was fat. She was telling the truth, not being rude. She's not old enough to be diplomatic
Threatening to throw me out into the snow, after i threatened Peppa Pig with that same thing Again she was just repeating what you've said, so funny and rude at the same time. Tell her not to say things like that and then go and laugh in the kitchen Grin

mrsjay · 05/01/2013 16:44

i think it as gone on from the aww cute toddler what is she like stage to being cheeky id put a stop to it now she cant call people fat or have an answer for everthing it is bordering on rude and not cute, now

Wabbitty · 05/01/2013 16:44

Extremely rude. Not funny at all

Salmotrutta · 05/01/2013 16:44

If she is 5 it is no longer "funny" or "cute".

And she may learn that the hard way if she gets into trouble for her "honesty" at school or whatever.

Having an answer for everything isn't always a desirable trait.

diddl · 05/01/2013 16:44

Rude.

With the possible exception of answering truthfully when asked if she thinks someone is fat.

winnybella · 05/01/2013 16:45

If my 3yo DD or 10 yo DS said that I'm getting on their nerves I would not be happy.

Rude and sounds like a little madam. You need to work on it now because it won't do her any favours in the future.

CheCazzo · 05/01/2013 16:45

What Jins said. I'm struggling to find them funny from any age. In fact, even a talking armadillo sitting on a rock smoking a joint and saying that stuff wouldn't raise a laugh!

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GregBishopsBottomBitch · 05/01/2013 16:45

I dont mind what she says to me because its true, and her godmother wasnt offended, shes never said things like that to another child, just to adults shes close too, shes scared of strangers.

I just worry that even if she doesnt mean to be rude, people will think she was being rude.

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onedev · 05/01/2013 16:46

I don't think it's rude depending on the context - if you do need to exercise or her godmother is fat (given she asked a direct question) then fair enough to be honest. The other stuff sounds bold but I wouldn't say rude necessarily - I think at that age they're testing you & it's for you to let her know what's unacceptable.

My eldest is 6 & I do think that around reception / year 1, he definitely started getting cheekier & repeating stuff he heard in school or on TV or wherever.

PumpkinPositive · 05/01/2013 16:46

Rude. What happens when she stops saying this stuff just to you and extends it to teachers, friends, etc?