to think my DD5 is just funny or is she rude.

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My DD, has come out with some funny lines, these are the examples:

Mother your getting on my nerves.
Mummy needs to exercise.
Saying yes after her godmother asked DD if she was fat.
Threatening to throw me out into the snow, after i threatened Peppa Pig with that same thing.

She also has an answer for everything.

Is she just honest or is she rude, curious to know what others think.

She does sound rude, but if she's never been taught differently it's not really her fault. That makes you as a parent rude.

At five, she is definitely old enough to know better and is not funny.

Is this a reverse AIBU? I'm surprised that would be funny to anyone tbh.

Fairylea The OP's DD didn't tell the godmother that she was fat, she was answering a question (which, if the godmother is fat, is a pretty silly question to ask a young child unless you have a good sense of humour)

Well - yes they will find it rude whether she means to be rude or not.
One of my kids has ASD and had to be taught this very specifically (and often needs reminding even now!)

Not suggesting yours has ASD

Sorry to be harsh, but you did ask. At 5 that is rude.

I have a friend with a DD similar age and similarly brattish- spirited.

At an adult party last week she poked friend's DH in the stomach and announced "You've got a fat tummy"; turned up the music full blast while adults were chatting; told the host to "Shut up you're a farty breath" when asked not to hang off a cupboard door among other things.

Her parents have always laughed indulgently at how "cute" and "funny" she is, while everyone else crosses them off their invitation list.

If she continues like that, then you are not doing her any favours I'm afraid.

Rude.I'd put a stop to it now. I wouldn't find it at all amusing or charming,quite the opposite.
You're not going to do her any favours by allowing her to talk like that.

Rude.

rude and disrespectful, but as you allow her to get away with it towards you, then what do you expect her to be like with other adults..

'I dont mind what she says to me because its true'

It may well be true, but the place she lives in prizes subtlety when talking about some truths, and it's up to you to teach her how to do that.

Lots of people think they're brilliant for being so plain talking and calling a spade a spade, but the people around them just think they're hurtful and socially unsophisticated.

I would say that at 5 she is rapidly moving from cute/funny into rude/obnoxious territory.

Never acceptable to say anyone is fat.

That's a slightly different one, I think. Godmother asked the child if she was fat and small children get it drilled into them to be honest. At that age they can't really identify questions that call for white lies in reply.

Definitely needs slapping down before it gets out of control.

Shes not a naughty child, because she wouldnt dare act like a brat, her GM said her mother works quicker than her brain.

But i do see how others would see some of it as rude, she'd be unlikely to be rude to a stranger, i just worry about to teachers and other children.

To be fair,she was answering a direct question from her godmother. If you want brutal honesty,ask a small child!

But it might be wise to start encouraging her to tone it down a bit,as she gets older she will have friends she will close to. She needs to learn that not everybody prizes brutal honesty.

Think it's a bit uncalled for calling her a brat.

told the host to "Shut up you're a farty breath" when asked not to hang off a cupboard door among other things.

Rude

What you describe DeafLeopard (love the name ) is totally normal for a 5 YO IMO, how did I guess you were going to say the parents didn't pick her up on it??

It's that which makes the difference, every time.

You've just got to keep on at them.

It might be funny (depending on the context) for a 3 year old but not for a 5 year old at all.

I don't get this idea that it's ok to point things out because it's true.True or not pointing out the faults of other people isn't going to endear her to anyone,and it's no less rude just because it's 'the 'truth'.

deafleopard - good grief. That child sounds very badly behaved!

nobody said she was naughty really just cutting it fine , and you did say she had an answer for everything so you are letting her have the last word iyswim but i dont think she sounds bratty just forward ,

Or rather, her parents sound deluded.

It's not ok for her to be rude to people she knows either. And if you continue to allow her to talk like that then she'll soon have the reputation of being a brat,and that's not easy to shift. And it's not that others see it as being rude.It is bloody rude.

DeafLeopard Now that child is definitely rude.

The OP's DD is just at the age to understand why somethings can not be said. It's hard because you can't go through every potential thing that DC might say and explain which statements are/are not appropriate. It's easy to say that you don't call anyone names or say anything nasty but young children say allsorts of things unexpectedly.

My DD who is also 5 made a comment about my friend's clothes a few months ago and she seriously took offense (and then behaved like a child herself ). IMO it was just a statement but my DD now knows never to mention clothes (or anything else) to this friend again.

It's not ok for her to be rude to people she knows either. And if you continue to allow her to talk like that then she'll soon have the reputation of being a brat,and that's not easy to shift. And it's not that others see it as being rude.It is bloody rude.

this really

DD never said anything like "Shut up you're a farty breath" () but they do do random unpredictable things and have to be told it's not on.

I don't think the DC DeafL is describing sounds totally OTT, overtired/overexcited/showing off, maybe, but they all do that at some point, and always in front of witnesses where it's deathly quiet