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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think my DD5 is just funny or is she rude.

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GregBishopsBottomBitch · 05/01/2013 16:34

My DD, has come out with some funny lines, these are the examples:

Mother your getting on my nerves.
Mummy needs to exercise.
Saying yes after her godmother asked DD if she was fat.
Threatening to throw me out into the snow, after i threatened Peppa Pig with that same thing.

She also has an answer for everything.

Is she just honest or is she rude, curious to know what others think.

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LoopsInHoops · 06/01/2013 07:30

sorry, my older DD is 3 and...

Fairyegg · 06/01/2013 08:07

Rude, I wouldn't be at all happy if my 5 year old spoke like that.

DeafLeopard · 06/01/2013 12:11

I agree that other countries (such as Germany as has been mentioned) are probably more honest and forthright and therefore much more genuine.

However if a parent is raising a child in the UK then really they need to equip the child with the social skills for the UK and being blunt / honest / direct can cause them all manner of difficulty.

HollyBerryBush · 06/01/2013 12:18

Mother your getting on my nerves. - statement of fact!

Mummy needs to exercise - probably another statement of fact

Saying yes after her godmother asked DD if she was fat - statement of fact (and GM shouldnt ask a question if she doesnt want a truthfuil answer)

Threatening to throw me out into the snow, after i threatened Peppa Pig with that same thing. - rude!

MrsMelons · 06/01/2013 12:27

My DN started to speak to people like this when she was 5. I actually think she completely knew what she was saying and was being quite rude but I do think this is what happens when they start school. I have been shocked at some of the things the DCs come back from school saying.

I am quite strict on how I think the DCs should speak to anyone in particular adults but some people think it is ok for 5 year olds to tell grown ups to shut up or to speak back to them in general and find it funny. I am not saying your DD says these things at all but if you allow her to speak to you like that then she won't necessarily realise its not ok to speak to others like that.

It does depend as the comments about being fat etc I am not sure 5 year olds really understand the implications of this TBH as they don't see it as a bad thing - just an observation.

HopAndSkip · 06/01/2013 12:42

It's not necessarily rude, but it depends how she intends it. Remember she's picked this up from somewhere (not necessarily from you) and that she won't properly understand the meaning unless you explain to her. If someones said "you're getting on my nerves" to her for not much reason, she won't necessarily see it as rude.
As for the fat/excersise comments, maybe mention to her that it's ok to say to mummy because it doesnt upset you, but that it might upset other people so not to say to them (incase she repeats the phrase to friends at school). I don't think it was wrong to say to her godmother as she did ask for her opinion.
As for throwing you into the snow, good on her for sticking up for peppa pig sounds cute/amusing and not rude.

Proudnscaryvirginmary · 06/01/2013 12:47

I think as a slightly wider issue, there are some parents who indulge their children's 'funny' (facetious) comments because they think the rest of the world finds them as enchanting as they do.

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GregBishopsBottomBitch · 06/01/2013 12:53

Proud i know my daughters constant talking, drives people barmy, i have to live with it, its like living with a talking duracell bunny.

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HollySheet · 06/01/2013 12:54

I agree Proudnscary.

None of the things OP's DD said sounds funny or cute but then again I don't tend to like other people's children very much. I tolerate my own.

HollySheet · 06/01/2013 12:58

Sorry OP that sounds harsh I didnt intend to. I'm sure your DD is lovely and fingers crossed she'll grow out of her shyness.

I do think you should maybe start picking her up on some of the honest answers and teach her to be bit less honest! (that's a sentence I never thought I'd type)

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GregBishopsBottomBitch · 06/01/2013 13:01

Holly she is a sweet child, i think she inherited her Grandmothers and Aunts mouth, to point answers, oh that makes me shudder.

But i know shes not perfect, she gets on my nerves alot, im sure she'll get on others nerves.

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PeshwariNaan · 06/01/2013 13:06

Rude!

I don't get why people think it's OK to allow 4/5 year olds to insult others. They're old enough to know better. It's a really bad habit to allow them to think that being rude to adults gets laughs.

HollySheet · 06/01/2013 13:07

Nobody is perfect OP.

My DS is 6 and can strop for Britain.

DD is 3 and is still in tantrum stage.

I shout.

A lot.

DeafLeopard · 06/01/2013 13:17

Holly that is fine if you are fine with it, but if your DC comes home from school and says they have no friends / don't get invited to parties etc because others don't like their stropiness / tantrums / shoutiness you may need to rethink.

JazzAnnNonMouse · 06/01/2013 13:18

Rude. 5 is old enough to know not to be cheeky.
3 or under it would be funny imo

Backtobedlam · 06/01/2013 13:54

I don't think most of what she's saying is rude, its just facts and repeating what she's heard. She only said her godmother was fat after she was asked, its not as if it was a random insult said with any malicious intent. The only thing that's a bit cheeky is saying she'd throw you out in the snow...though it did make me laugh a little bit!

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