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AIBU?

To return our cat to the rescue home we got her from?

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DreamingofFour · 03/01/2013 08:56

Our 10 year old cat has always been shy and twitchy, which we put down to a hard life before we got her from the Cat Rescue Home 3 years ago. But since we moved house six months ago she has become a bit of a nightmare. She keeps weeing & pooing all over the new house, and despite our best efforts (putting out cat lit if she wants it, helping her thru cat flap etc) she seems to be getting worse. Now she is really jumpy and even more shy. We have taken her to the vet, who said there was nothing physically wrong but wondered if it was psychological and should she have Prozac. At the same time we are dealing with our youngest waking up every night, all the kids sick, work etc etc so we don't have the capacity to be cleaning up the sofa from cat wee/poo every day.(The latest spot she chose). Given that she isn't very happy, would it be ok to return her to the cat rescue home where I suspect she would be happier?
Anyone else been in this situation?

Thanks for your help

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HazleNutt · 05/01/2013 09:29

If it is obvious that the poor animal would have a miserable life until the end of its days then yes it's kinder to end it. I don't see it in OPs case though. One of my cats was exactly the same, stressed because of moving and started doing her business all over - sofa, wardrobes, beds. Extremely frustrating.

She needed some help already discussed on this thread and is at the moment happily sleeping on the sofa, doing her business where she's supposed to and certainly does not seem to be suffering. No, I don't think it would have been better for her to kill her.

gordyslovesheep · 05/01/2013 09:33

seeker I think you are comparing cheese with bicycle clips - I myself had had animals with cancer and kidney failure PTS because it was the end of their lives and they where in pain - you simply can not compare that with the OP position though

I think you are confusing caring with lazy arsed can't be bothered pet ownership

Morloth · 05/01/2013 09:37

Does anyone actually believe that a 10 year old cat with anxiety problems and incontinence has anything to look forward to other than a cage/death if she is returned to a rescue?

Realistically?

It is a great big pile of bullshit to talk about 'rehoming' in these circumstances. If the cat doesn't stay with the OP the cat is likely dead. So if the OP really can't be arsed the 'right' thing to do is to have the cat put down.

seeker · 05/01/2013 09:54

We don't actually know whatbthe OP has done or hasn't done. She asked for advice and hasn't been back. She may be trying everything suggested as we speak.

But 6 months is usually long enough for a cat to settle down in new surroundings. and 6 months is a very long time for a cat to be suffering the distress of not being able to keep itself and its surroundings clean- denying it's fundamental instincts.

The OP may or may not have screwed this up- but the cat is in distress. And is continuing to be in distress. That is what we have to face up to.

missmartha · 05/01/2013 10:26

Some people just don't 'get' pets at all. No sense of responsibility for them at all.

My son's girl friends mum has been divorced for a few years and has a new boyfriend. She wants the cat to go. This is the family pet of many years but it doesn't it now doesn't go with her life style so she want it to go to the pet rescue. Son's girl friend would take the cat but lives in a 'no pet' student house a few hundred miles away.

I am horribly distressed that my son is getting involved with this family to be frank, we've always had pets (dog sitting next to me as I type) and have never thought of them as disposable.

OP should, I think, get proper advice to solve her cat's problem. It could be very simple, who knows.It's a bit soon to be thinking about euthanasia imo.

seeker · 05/01/2013 10:34

"Some people just don't 'get' pets at all. No sense of responsibility for them at all.

Good thing there isn't anybody like that on this thread, isn't it?

gordyslovesheep · 05/01/2013 10:37

Seeker my girl cat took about 6mths to settle WITH TREATMENT - the op hasn't treated the cat

seeker · 05/01/2013 10:38

Why doesn't your ds's girlfriend just move into a properly where she can have the cat?

missmartha · 05/01/2013 10:40

She can't afford one. She's a student and HAS to share a pet less property because she's skint.

seeker · 05/01/2013 10:43

She could give up her course and get a job. Or you could take the cat.

Gordy- so you put your cat through 6 months of distress?

SolidGoldFrankensteinandmurgh · 05/01/2013 11:28

Maybe the new boyfriend is allergic to cats and the mother has prioritized him over an animal, which is fair enough. Some people are. Though some pet-obsessed people think that an animal-fur allergy is attention-seeking and/or evidence of moral failing - which can be a bit rough on DC or new partners who are supposed to put up with the discomfort of sneezing, wheezing, skin rashes and/or regular doses of strong medication as the other family members choose to put the animal ahead of the person.

missmartha · 05/01/2013 12:12

I could not take the cat. I have a dog, an elderly dog, and keeping a cat would distress her.
Yes you're right, she could give her course the heave ho, but as her mother chose to have a cat in the first place, it seems a bit harsh to do that.

No, mother's bf is not allergic.

PessaryPam · 05/01/2013 12:15

The cat lovers will report you so be be very careful.

missmartha · 05/01/2013 12:18

Oooops..

PessaryPam · 05/01/2013 12:27

Sorry that was not aimed at you missmartha, just at the others who would not put up with 6 months of cat poo and wee with small kids in the house.

MN text reads We would like to remind you that our raison d'être is to make parents' lives easier by pooling and sharing advice and support. We ask members to respect each other's opinions even if they don't agree with them.

I have had very little respect from some posters here. I hope they all got the same warning. The OP has been comprehensively slagged off too and I feel for her.

Squirrelface · 05/01/2013 16:11

There seems to be confusion on this thread between a cat being incontinent (ie having no control over its bladder/bowel function) and a cat which is peeing and pooing in the wrong places due to stress. It would seem that the OP's cat has the latter problem, which is much more likely to be correctable (by dealing with the causes of stress).

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