To be mad with my friend and want to end our friendship altogether ?

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My friend has had three terminations in the past 5 years.
After each one she has said she never wants to go through it again
She hasn't waited to have sex for the 2 weeks your supposed to, to prevent infection the past two times, therefore risking getting pg again.

She phoned last week to say she thinks she may be pg again as she has been having unprotected sex since she came off the injection about six months ago.

I wanted to hang up on her I was so angry. She's an idiot and i cant be arsed with her anymore.

WIBU of me to try and drift away from her She's been such a twat I don't know if i can hold my tongue any longer. So its either say what i think and loose the friendship or try and distance myself and save the arguement.

Me and ds' dad met in sex ed at school - no joke! We laugh about it now. Goodnight Spero, you really have allowed me to see things clearer.

I'm very shocked at how anybody no matter how well you think you know a person thinks they compleatly know the inner workings of a persons mind.

Even if that person claims to have told you them.

Nobody knows exactly what is going on inside a head even if its there own, we all do things for many different reasons that may not be apparent to ourselves or others.

That's the reason I have for not slating a person who has sex or has a abortion even if they repeat the actions loads.

Nobody knows what they are thinking deep down at the point of sex, at That time you may have hopes or dreams that in the cold light of day arnt workable you may at times believe they are but your own issues may prevent it being so.

Anybody who has a operation with its associated infection risks or risk of pain ect because they want to do so as an act of contraception compleatly instead of any proactive type of contraception in the full knowledge that they find the operation traumatic, has problems and chances are needs some type of support.

If you dig a bit deeper with them chances are you will discover they are not using it as a form of contraception because they know they find it traumatic, there could be many reasons why they are being reckless with there health, its nobody's place to judge that.

It's far more likely that she's not using it as a form of contraception and its a symptom of something compleatly different and totally not worthy of making a person such an object of anger.

The op herself knew her unplanned pregnancys happened and that contraception did not work for her, so shall we also slate her for not saying no or not using the pill the cap and a condom at the same time? Of course not, because we don't know what was going on in her head at the time she got jiggy.

I don't think she's consciously using it as a form of contraception. I just think she has a serious lack of impulse control and is hurting herself more than anyone else.

Professional help might be the only option here. Getting angry with her and cutting her off is a valid emotional response in the circumstances, but won't solve anything.

Yes mister completely agree with all of that.

Except that I do think that if the OP is at the end of the tether with the friend's behaviour she is within her rights to withdraw her support personally, and tell her why. It might give her friend the shake-up she needs to analyse why she keeps letting this happen, instead of feeding off the emotional support of the OP and dragging her down in the process. The OP clearly does not believe in abortion, hence her own three unplanned children, and it must be tough for her to keep listening to this, when there is no real need for it.

some disgusting and pretty illogical comments on this thread.

Of course its perfectly acceptable to stop being friends with a person who you have stopped feeling friendly towards.

My comments were aimed at the comments calling the stbx friend names and the uneducated knee jerk reactions towards her that were made.

If a persons actions are not conscious decisions they are sub conscious, and for reasons that nobody can know.

If they cause that person emotional and physical pain its safe to say those reasons are probably deep rooted negative phycological ones and they are likely to make the person vulnerable,so she probably needs help from people qualified to provide it as opposed to be held up as a figure of hatred by people who should know better.

Well said sock.

I suspect that some people are using her as a target to chuck their own unresolved anger and guilt about some of their own life choices.