to be upset over my christmas present before I've even opened it

[happyinherts]

DH went out with his christmas bonus today to buy us (me, DD, and DS) a little something for christmas.

DD and DS already have presents bought jointly from us. Anyway while I was at work he has wrapped them and placed under tree. I spot mine labelled 'to mum' - and I'm quite upset about it although not mentioned it and whatever is inside may be really really lovely - it's boxed shaped at the moment.

Am I being a selfish stupid bitch or would you be upset if your DH labelled your present in this way??

I think he probably wasn't thinking. And you can tease it away.

I mean, he spent his Christmas bonus on you and the kids, wrapped them himself and put them under the tree. All sweet. And the message is a bit daft. That would be my take anyway.

Cross it out and write "sex goddess" on the label :)

Get yourself something gorgeous and wrap it lavishly.

Label it "To sexy happy, with love from (insert name of butcher/baker/bloke down pub) xxxxxx"

Place under tree.

OK MrsDV, I disagree, I think there is a difference between "YABU" and "Yes, you are being a stupid selfish bitch" - even if that is quoting the OP. But as it has been deleted, and as OP isn't bothered, I will leave it!

Some women wouldn't bat an eyelid at this, seeing it as their job title within the family unit, some women would care a lot and see it as a symbolic death of their marriage and their sexual identity, some women would be fine with it on Tuesday but be upset by it on Wednesday.

None of them are being Unreasonable.

YABU to seethe about it though OP. As many previous posters have said, the right response if you are unhappy with this term of address involves the phrase "Oi, Buster, who's this present for then ?" and a light-hearted statement about what it does to your inclination to shag him

Yes, this would make me go a bit Grrrrr. But I might recover depending on what was in the box.

You might get lucky, OP. DS has decided to tactfully warn me that DP has purchased, for my christmas present, a new kitchen kettle.

Pick your battles, I say.

Seethe is a word which implies anger

For the second time this evening I will explain I am not seething

Hits nail on head somwhat LadyIsabella - it's something like the symbolic death and identity thing

I shall laugh it off and comment appropriately.

Blimey! I really must try to be more sensitive!
My dh refers to me as mummy when they are around and it always gets written on presents etc, I am mummy, not his but the mum of his kids. That is my role at home. Not all consuming, not degrading.
I have a full on, meaningfully job where I have a title.
When the kids are in bed, occasionally, exhaustion permitting, I am Mrs R or my first name.
I cannot get the sensitivity to being mum. FFS, I really wish this was all I had to be bothered about.
Move on, blokes are a bit crap so don't over think it.
My dh adores me, sees me as a sexy lady often and loves me for being a mum. I can't knock it.

Yes sorry, x-posted with you explaining that you weren't seething - substitute "brood".

My mum calls my dad 'Daddy'. He's 70 next year with 5 grandchildren. The grandchildren think its really funny. I worked with him for a few years inmy early 20's so oftenuse his first name and with the little ones reffer to him as Grandpa.

I understand why it could get under your skin.

I think you should book a romantic break ina luxury hotel, splash out on lovely underwear, a neglige, some spa treatments and leave him with the very clear impression that you aren't his mum.

Pizza, what exactly did you hope to achieve with your post- it comes across as rude and boastful- was that your intention?

blu that's a definite Leave the Bastard offence!!!! I think getting Ds to pass back a "change it or you are dead" type message may be worthwhile!!

If the present turns out to be a hair trimmer from JML or a plaque with "Ode to Mum" on it, I will happily change my opinion.

Here's hoping it's something gorgeous to make up for the label.

But you don't have to laugh it off if it bothers you, OP. Why can't you TALK ABOUT IT? I don't understand why you are ignoring that suggestion.

BOFinfSanta - not ignoring the talking about it suggestion. I will definitely do so when the time is right. It's just that I was rooting under the tree having a nose at these three gifts that weren't there when I went out earllier and spotted the label and just took it badly that is all. All will definitely be discussed at some point, no worries

Just

Thinking outside the box

Why don't people read the fucking thread

Get me, I'm so Out There

Of course I'd be pissed off about this, it's all a bit Bridget Jones parents isn't it? Blergh

Ooh Mrs DV can you give us a clue?

Mrs DV - toaster, hoover, iron?

For heaven's sake. Not trying to insult anyone, be boastful or rude.
I really think people are so oversensitive.
Cant't be bothered, it's my birthday.
Goodnight.