to be upset over my christmas present before I've even opened it

[happyinherts]

DH went out with his christmas bonus today to buy us (me, DD, and DS) a little something for christmas.

DD and DS already have presents bought jointly from us. Anyway while I was at work he has wrapped them and placed under tree. I spot mine labelled 'to mum' - and I'm quite upset about it although not mentioned it and whatever is inside may be really really lovely - it's boxed shaped at the moment.

Am I being a selfish stupid bitch or would you be upset if your DH labelled your present in this way??

At least he's bought you something. I normally get asked what I want. This year Dh didn't even order it himself and kept nagging me to order it. He says he'll give me the money!

Present is NOT repeat NOT on behalf of the children

Children are older teenagers with more money than either of us and have bought their own gifts

Present is from my husband to me - addressed to mum. I have morphed into his mother - this is nothing about the children at all

Sorry am completely confused !

Everlong, what's up with you lately?

OP - I'm still not entirely sure why you're upset, but I hope you find a way to work it out.

Ah. Mmm, leave the bastard?

I was thinking you had younger kids.

Oh ok.

Well I suppose that is a bit underwhelming then.

Not sure what to say really.

gettingeasier - OP is offended that her husband has addressed a present from him to her as "to mum" rather than "to kate" or whatever she might be called.

Well just ask him what he has done it for instead of acting like a sulky child.

Are you sure its not for his mum and yours is elsewhere?

Oh I see. It's the wording.

Yes I see what you mean, I'd not want to be known as 'Mum' by my other half either, really. I don't think he sees you as his mum though. Just a term of affection for you as it's probably what you get called quite a lot when at home. (not by him I presume!)

Don't stress it.

Is it the only present for you?

Did you want a present off your kids and one from your husband?

Why not just ask him!

Maybe it was a mistake and he had written a card to his mother first.

I signed my name on one present to the kids instead of Mummy.

JUST ASK HIM!!

Are you sure it's yours? Maybe it really is for his mum! Yours might be stashed elsewhere....

Are you sure that isn't his mum's gift? I'll be honest I'd find it odd if dp called me mum.

I won't be getting a gift from a partner this year, as mine left 3months ago. I will be having my first christmas alone for 9 years.

Think yourself lucky you have someone to by you a gift.

Are you sure it's not for his Mum. Is it 'from Dad'?

I'm so stupid - I thought you were upset because it was box shaped and you'd been hoping for something not box shaped.

He doesnt have a mum any more unfortunately - so no mix up there.

I wasn't bothered about any Christmas present to be honest.

The 'kids' although they are of working age bought their gifts independently and wrapped and labelled theirs - I don't mind being called mum from them -because that is what I am

I feel slightly upset I am looked upon as 'mum' by a 56 year old man. Wouldnt it just be nice to have something like Happy Christmas to my dear wife - or a name? Perhaps I am being unseasonable? Dunno

Chuck a tantrum. Or ask him. Or wait and open the present before deciding whether to go batshit or not. Or label all of his presents 'Man I Bred With'.

Seriously? Don't be so ungrateful. Some people will get nothing and you are complaining about what is written on a piece of paper that will end up in the bin.

It would piss me off tbh.

Oh just label his "bastard" then he might get the message... and not even bother next year

DH and I don't ever buy gifts from each other for xmas, anything we do buy is from the kids because they love seeing us open presents 'from them' and having a big fuss of thank yous to given to them. I think you are making a massive issue about nothing really.