to be upset over my christmas present before I've even opened it

[happyinherts]

DH went out with his christmas bonus today to buy us (me, DD, and DS) a little something for christmas.

DD and DS already have presents bought jointly from us. Anyway while I was at work he has wrapped them and placed under tree. I spot mine labelled 'to mum' - and I'm quite upset about it although not mentioned it and whatever is inside may be really really lovely - it's boxed shaped at the moment.

Am I being a selfish stupid bitch or would you be upset if your DH labelled your present in this way??

But, squeaky, your present 'to mummy from dog' isn't from your DH, its from the dog so it would say mummy, or else your first name, depending on your relationship.

To Have 'To Mum' from a DH is loaded in a way it isn't from a dog or an actual child.

How long have you been married?

Surely he's bought you presents before and labelled them?

Is this the first time your present has been labelled 'mum'?

Don't see the upset of the wording!?

There is some pure nastiness on this thread.

Wtf is wrong with some of you?

I couldn't be bothered getting upset about somebody writing Mum on my Christmas present. I get annoyed about trivial things sometimes but this is just so totally not worth any kind of annoyance from anyone. YABU.

We all read the OP everlong. Nobody else felt the need to be spiteful.

I think the stepford reference is a bit odd, given that we are telling her to challenge her dh's behaviour and you are calling her a bitch for wanting to.

Posted too soon.

If it is then you have a reason to be annoyed. If it isn't then you need to laugh it off.

Yes, and that was fair enough everlong but since, you have emphasized how it doesn't matter. Maybe not to you, but it doesn't mean it doesn't matter to anyone else which going by this thread, you would think wasn't the case :/

It is like only certain opinions actually matter, and stand.

oh I think you are being rather precious to be honest

Yes, you did. OP used the phrase "stupid selfish bitch" in her OP, and you not only told her she was right, but took the trouble to type the insult out again to make sure.

Is there something the matter with you?

YABU. DH and I sometimes write to Mum.Mummy.Dad or Daddy on our presents to each other. Nither of us think that we are each others Mum or Dad it's just a bit of fun and we are Mum and Dad of the family.

everlong it seems a little ironic that you understand the subtle difference between calling someone a bitch and agreeing with them that they are a bitch but the difference between being called Mum by your child and your lover is absolutely lost on you.

If thats a tradition of sorts mumeeee then thats different, also are your children below teenage age ?

YANBU. I would probably be quite too at being called Mum by my husband on a present clearly from husband to wife. I hope it's something lovely and expensive which will make up for it.

Has the OP gone into hiding?

I asked two questions becuase I wasn't sure if my feelings were justifiable

Was I being unseasonable? Was I being a selfish stupid bitch?

Everlong answered me - I see no need to flame her or criticise her. I asked an opinion and I got it.

For the record - yes it is the first time my DH has bought me a christmas present solely from him and labelled it as 'to mum.' I've had the 'darling wife at christmas' I have had my name - maybe it's an age thing that happens and maybe I do need to get a grip, loosen up, be grateful etc. That's why I asked

I disagree, I am only mum to my kids, to my husband I am wife, although I wouldn't want a present addressed to "wife " either. My dad doesn't put "daughter" on my present or my sibs "sister".
I only want to be called mum by my kids. I don't think that that is unreasonable. I only want to have 2 children.
If I put "to dad love rebecca" on a present you can be certain it is for my dad.

OP you sound happy with your thread

I second the hope the box shape bodes well !

Perhaps it was just absent mindedness on his part.

If you criticised what he wrote and then it turned out to be the most lovingly thought out present - how would that make you feel?

I don't think you need to get a grip or loosen up - it would seriously hack me off if my DH did this. It somehow objectifies you, doesn't it? It's like he's seeing you purely in terms of your role with regard to the kids rather than you as an individual. You need to talk to him - he won't know how you're feeling without a conversation.

All OK otherwise? Is this the straw that broke the camel's back, or a one-off moment of twattery?