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to be upset over my christmas present before I've even opened it

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happyinherts · 17/12/2012 19:21

DH went out with his christmas bonus today to buy us (me, DD, and DS) a little something for christmas.

DD and DS already have presents bought jointly from us. Anyway while I was at work he has wrapped them and placed under tree. I spot mine labelled 'to mum' - and I'm quite upset about it although not mentioned it and whatever is inside may be really really lovely - it's boxed shaped at the moment.

Am I being a selfish stupid bitch or would you be upset if your DH labelled your present in this way??

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everlong · 17/12/2012 20:00

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WelshMaenad · 17/12/2012 20:01

I've spent a mere six years writing cards 'to daddy' but its probably what I'd do on autopilot now.

Fuck a goose. Here, borrow my grip, I have plenty for both of us.

gettingeasier · 17/12/2012 20:01

To you everlong

KenLeeeeeeeInnaSantaHat · 17/12/2012 20:02

It's really, really not enough of an issue to get worked up over. Really not.

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OliviaPeaceOnMumsnet · 17/12/2012 20:02

Ahem
Tis the season and all that.

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happyinherts · 17/12/2012 20:02

You write a card to your husband as 'to daddy' - noooo surely not

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CuriousMama · 17/12/2012 20:05

happyinherts how's your relationship elsewhere iykwim? He hasn't been watching 15 stone baby has he?Shock Grin If the desire's gone he needs reminding your a goddess not his mother.

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squeakytoy · 17/12/2012 20:08

He isnt seeing you as HIS mum, he is seeing you as the MUM of the family, which you are, arent you? just as he is the DAD of the family.. it really isnt a big deal and I very much doubt it means he thinks little of you...

I get my a present written to Mummy from the dog, and I am damn sure he didnt go out and buy it, wrap it, and write the card too...

willowstar · 17/12/2012 20:09

My husband is terrible at buying presents...last yr I was 8 months pregnant, poorly on bed rest with toddler to look after. He bought me slippers ad presented them in the factory shop bag. Bought because mine were an embaressment and i was going into hospital. Awful. This is standard for him. So I think you are nuts to give a toss about the label. He has thought about you and bought and wrapped it.

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pigletmania · 17/12/2012 20:10

Yabu and overreacting slightly. Hw come Christmas as made people loose perspective

Eeebygum · 17/12/2012 20:10

Yes, but everlong, you then go on to say how it doesn't matter etc. That is in your opinion. Everybody is different, just because something doesn't bother you, doesn't mean that it can't bother anyone else.

Some of these posts are way over the top.

2rebecca · 17/12/2012 20:11

I would be upset by this. I want my man to think of me as his lover not his mother. If the kids are teenagers it's particularly odd.
I hate it when couples call each other "mum" and "dad" especially when their kids aren't within a 20 mile radius.
If my bloke did this I'd go with the poster on the first page and just pull him up on it, tell him I don't want him to think of me as his mother and hand him a new label.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 17/12/2012 20:11

It depends on your relationship, I reckon. If you feel that you are attractive to your partner and he still sees you as his partner and friend, you probably wouldn't care. If you think he takes you for granted and expects you to do all the shit work, it would smart some. Like you've officially been put in a box in his mind.

Greensleeves · 17/12/2012 20:12

everlong, is there a reason why your posts are so unnecessarily mean?

OP I would be irritated too. I don't want anyone other than my children to call me mum.

DecAndAnt · 17/12/2012 20:12

You asked if you were being a selfish, stupid bitch. Seems people think you are but you don't get it???

A classic aibu
Yes
No I'm not.

Well don't ask then.

apostrophethesnowman · 17/12/2012 20:13

I get my a present written to Mummy from the dog, and I am damn sure he didnt go out and buy it, wrap it, and write the card too... Squeakytoy Xmas Grin

OP I wouldn't get my knickers in a twist about that if I were you. It's really not that important. Worse things happen in life. I'm sure he sees it as a nice term, a term of endearment.

TessGoesDirectToBethlehem · 17/12/2012 20:14

I am dying to know what the present is.

gettingeasier · 17/12/2012 20:14

CuriousMama Grin

Hulababy · 17/12/2012 20:15

I guess only you know what kind of relationship you have with your DH and how he views you. It sounds like you have issues regarding his view of your role, and I can understand why that is then an issue.

I can't imagine Dh labelling a gift from him to me as "to mum"himself However, we do have a younger daughter and if she is involved then, it may end up that way if she labelled it.

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HappyJustToBe · 17/12/2012 20:17

Is it indicative of how he acts with you, OP?

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