to be upset over my christmas present before I've even opened it

[happyinherts]

DH went out with his christmas bonus today to buy us (me, DD, and DS) a little something for christmas.

DD and DS already have presents bought jointly from us. Anyway while I was at work he has wrapped them and placed under tree. I spot mine labelled 'to mum' - and I'm quite upset about it although not mentioned it and whatever is inside may be really really lovely - it's boxed shaped at the moment.

Am I being a selfish stupid bitch or would you be upset if your DH labelled your present in this way??

Sorry puds, but I think your comment isn't any help whatsoever. Even if I think the OP is overreacting, you can't tell someone to just be grateful just because they have someone to buy for them. They could be abusive, controlling twats and I for one would prefer to spend Christmas without one of those than with one!

OP, just talk to him about it. There could be an innocent explanation, and if not, he will certainly know not to do that again in the future!

Perhaps he imagines the DC's giving out the presents (as is a tradition at DGP's) or at least looking at the labels at some point. The generations all become a bit mixed up in family life especially where young children are involved.

Try to hold onto the joy of the season where you can find it ?! And don't get distracted/ upset by minor details.

I figured you had younger children.

In that case, yes I'd be irritated he had written that. You are not his mum you ate his wife!

None of you would mind being addressed as 'Mum' by your husband (especially when your children are grown-up.)
Really?

I bloody would.

Why does it upset you so much OP?

Are you feeling generally neglected by your DH for this to bother you so much?

drinkyourmilk

I think that's what the OP's worried about!

You sound like a spoilt brat if you are upset about something so trivial.

And I do wish people would at least read the OP's posts even if they don't read the whole thread...

Ahem .
ARE his wife. Is be worried if you ate her

Nah, I'd be pissed off. I'd like to be more than just 'Mum' to my husband, especially if our DC are now adults. I want to be attractive and funny and wildly exciting to my partner, not just bloody 'Mum'.

Weird!
My dd is currently wrapping my pressies and I just looked at the labels, funnily enough she's used our first names.
Who really cares?

I don't think its that trivial to suddenly think that the person you thought looked upon you with desire and lust love and wanted to share your bed and your body in actual fact wants you to put creases in his trousers and take him for a haircut.

Lighten up OP

I just like getting pressies, you could write "dear shit for brains" as long as it was a pressie.

OP I would imagine your DH has done it without thinking and doesn't mean anything by it but if I were you I would ask him to change the card.

It may not matter to some posters but it would to me - I want my dh to think of me firstly as his wife and secondly as the mother of his child.

Don't brood on it - just ask him to change it.

DH doesn't do this but, if he did, I would assume he had had a senior moment and would say "Oi, I'm not your Mum knobhead" and we would larf and larf.

I wouldn't get upset.

Oh,in that case you've got a point. I'm sure there's an appropriate way of raising it. I'd go with humour I think.

...because posts by -

Chickenshavenoeyebrows and IThinkofhappywhenI thinkofyou

are nearer the mark than merely a label on a christmas present.

Is this a joke?!
You sound so ungrateful op, as usual I won't be getting anything but I'll be happy watching my DC's faces opening their pressies and will be grateful I've gorgeous my DC with me.

Then talk to him.

Tell him how you feel.

When you're in a relationship with someone, you should be able to tell them your feelings - no matter how silly you think they might be or how trivial other people think they are.

If something is bothering you - talk about it.

"You are not his mum you ate his wife!"

LOL .

I can see that OP

If everything in AIBU had to pass the " Is this a serious enough issue to think about " then it would be a fraction of its size and traffic

OP I felt a bit upset about this years' ago one birthday. I see what you mean. But it's not Valentine's Day, and unless you are at daggers' drawn with DH I'd calm down, see what it is. If the name Mum has horrible connotations yanbu. If it is meant with love, yabu.

Presumably there is a bigger issue than this, for the word "mum" on a present to upset you so much? as hec says, talk to him about it.