to think its a bit off that the school insist kids have a cooked Christmas lunch, which I have to pay for and provide the veg?'

[Hippocrocopig]

Just as the title says really!

And to add insult to injury ds point blank refuses to eat it and packed lunches banned for the day.

They can't ban packed lunches, that's ridiculous.

Just send him in with one as normal.

You have to bring your own vegetables!

You have to send in veg for him???

Just send him with a packed lunch and no money.

That's madness! If they want everyone to have it they have to pay for them all to have it.

Send him in with food he will eat!

Provide the veg? What, cooked and cold? How on earth does that work?!?

What about children whose parents object to them being involved in Christmas festivities? Surely they can't ban packed lunches

I'm thinking of sending him with the most inappropriate lunch, like ever! That wil have the old pack lunch police in a pickle! Any ideas?

Veg to be provided (uncooked), plus a peeler or (wait for it) a small knife .

Am guessing those who are not involved are made to sit in a classroom, although its a very small rural school and I think all children attending celebrate Christmas.

Just send him with the packed lunch,

and give them a paddington stare if they object.

So they're trying to get the DC involved in preparing the meal. Doesn't sound awful.

Why on earth do you have to provide the vegetables?

I would send in a packed lunch and speak to the head about how you refuse to make your son go hungry that day.

So they'll be preparing and eating the celebratory meal, as a small school community? YABU to object.

Narked I don't object to him helping to prepare the meal, or even supplying veg for the meal. But to try and insist he eats it and I pay for it is another matter.

On a lighter note dd would eat hers, his and anyone's within a 2 mile radius given half a chance!

Hire a top chef to cook one of those meals that looks like one thing but is made of something else. So carrots made out of a hob nob, cheese sandwich that looks like broccoli.

Is it something small like a carrot? Maybe to involve the dc in what they are eating?

Yes, it is ridiculous. By all means get the children to have a go at preparing some veg, but to deny packed lunches is daft.

I would send in a carrot and a packed lunch.

Unless your DS is up for being the only kid not involved then yabu.

You're paying for it AND providing food? AND the kids are making it? YANBU.

Ds is an extremely fussy eater, picky about the colour, size etc of the food on his plate. It cannot be touching and has be be sorted in his own particular way.

I don't see why he should be alienated for not wishing to eat the celebratory meal, whilst still being part of the said celebrations!

Hippocrocopig talk to them and say you will provide veg but you will also provide DS with a lunch for him to eat, as you will not be happy with him going hungry the whole day.

Just send him with a normal, healthy packed lunch.

They can't take it away and force feed him a Christmas dinner.

How old is your DS?

And why is he so fussy?

I'd give him a big breakfast and let peer pressure do it's thing unless he has any SN.

Worra wise words, I will indeed do that.

Still, the whole concept still leaves me slighty

Id be more concerned with your DS's eating habits! I guess having him join in with everyone cant harm can it? And its only once a year. How much are they wanting you to pay, a few pounds? And some veg? It doesnt sound like getting worked up about and it might help your son with his eating habits if he joins in with the celebrations. Enabling his bad habits wont really help him in the long run.

Abnd if he doesnt eat, he goes hungry for a day, no biggie.