to think its a bit off that the school insist kids have a cooked Christmas lunch, which I have to pay for and provide the veg?'

[Hippocrocopig]

Just as the title says really!

And to add insult to injury ds point blank refuses to eat it and packed lunches banned for the day.

OP, our 6yo DS2 has ADHD/ASD and has some major food issues. It has taken us literally years to slowly move him into eating most of a roast meal....lots of time and persistence, and simply putting food on his plate so he just gets used to it being there IYSWIM.

When DS2's school does any type of food prep/cooking activity, if it's not a meal, I simply encourage him to try it and enjoy it (just make it sound fun/interesting). If it's a meal, then we send a backup packed lunch in his bag - his teachers know it's there if he is uncomfortable trying the food. He would literally starve himself or go into hysterics rather than eat something he cannot cope with, so we make sure there is always a little something he will eat, even if it's just simple bread/butter and piece of fruit. The less pressure we put on him to try something, the more likely he is to try it eventually.

Yes, I'd be mildly annoyed at paying for meal and providing veg as well. But I'd be MUCH more about sending along a peeler or knife with him! That actually surprises me that they allow that!

thank you SPTM!!

Nobody's noticed OP. I am an ineffectual banger of the gavel.

And thank you Christmas, you put it in a nutshell ' The less pressure we put on him to try something, the more likely he is to try it ecentually' amen to that.

Guilty as charged m'lady. Hit it harder!!!!!

oh sorry. Was typing during the gavel.

Anyway OP, wasn't judging re the food, as obviously we deal with similar ourselves.

Hope he enjoys the activity!

Have reported tb's last comment for personal attack on OP!

That's bang out of order trueblood whether you know the OP in real life or not.

The thread's about a Christmas dinner and bloody vegetables...not a licence for you to attack her parenting.

I didn't say it was ok...but there's a right way and a wrong way to deal with that.

On a public forum in full view of everyone is clearly not the right way...

Trueblood I think you need to take your issues up with the school and not with the OP over a forum.

I really hope you don't know each other in real life and it is all a mix up.

I do think OP is BU about what is a couple of pounds but I also think you are BVUR bringing up all these issues publicly.

Wow trueblood you have stepped really far over the mark. I really suggest you leave this thread, your posts are grim.
OP hope your DS enjoys his lunch.

Hippocrocopig I agree if you can get the required nutrition into him that what you need to aim at. Why do people fight the food battle like its that important, as long as they don't expect everyone else to do the same.

thanks olivia and merry christmas to you

As a trueblood fan I am confused as to what trueblood1fan said?

Pam its another personal attack on the OP, she has been making them on this thread and started on me on my thread, its people like that, that make people not return to MN, its for advice, not to have digs at people.

I'm not sure how you can be sure the OP is someone at your school, Truebloodfan. I'm sure every school has a mum (at least one!) whose DC are so much more precious than anyone else's. Being an over-protective mother to a DC with food issues isn't exactly unique.

I was the child with food issues.

I was frequently nauseous when confronted with food that hadn't been cooked at home, or wasn't quite the same taste as home.

It was totally and absolutely the worst thing in the world. My palms would get sweaty, I would start to heave and would frequently be sick.

You are doing the best for your child OP, just keep it up.

I am now almost fifty and eat almost anything put in front of me. If I have one plea, it would be to keep putting refused food onto the plate, so that eventually your child realises it's not going to poison him and he might even try it. That's what I did with mine and they're all good eaters now.

Trueblood you said it was hard for you dealing with a SN child, maybe the op struggles and maybe out of loyalty like you, she protects her child, maybe she needs support to help her support her DS, no mother likes to hear bad words said against their child, and she cant be that awful if her DD is lovely, maybe his OCD is a struggle, maybe she needs to leave how to control her DS, personal attacks are not helpful, even though i understand your frustration, its better to avoid than make a huge scene over it.

Trueblood you can't change the way OP is and you can't change the way her DS is but you can take responsibility for your own actions and I think you should focus on behaving in an adult way. It is fair to say "I think you are being unreasonable about the school dinner because of XYZ" and then leave it.

I'll tell you what is bloody off,

Ds's school charge 25% more for a Xmas dinner. As its split over two days it means one day one lot have packed lunch, the others dinner. Then vice versa.

What did my 25% pay for? A cocktail sausage and plastic cutlery and a paper plate.

It was the same roast turkey they normally have through the year. Only the poor buggers couldn't eat it as the forks and knives were shite. Pudding was a biscuit or a satsuma. For the love of Friff. They only had half the washing up to do why not let them have proper plates, knives and forks?

I feel better now. Cheers op

have reported trueblood again for another attack on OP!