to think its a bit off that the school insist kids have a cooked Christmas lunch, which I have to pay for and provide the veg?'

[Hippocrocopig]

Just as the title says really!

And to add insult to injury ds point blank refuses to eat it and packed lunches banned for the day.

Didn't think this thread would take such a dramatic turn. Have taken the steps of printing the whole debate off should anything happen to my son as a repercussion from this (fairly innocuous, or so I thought) thread!

Please, let it end here.

It's not that dramatic... Just a loon who has probably mistaken you for someone else.

I think it's a bit dramatic,Hippo,to say you fear for your safety and that of your son.I think Trueblood should probably have kept her personal experience of you away from the thread,because I think whatever valid points she has have been lost with the tone she's using to put them across.

Every child has to learn to go along with the majority at times,whether they have additional needs or not.I think on this occasion,you could avoid being stressed/annoyed about the schools plans for the day by a) feeding him a larger breakfast before school b) giving him a larger dinner,earlier,when he returns.And sending him into school with some veg of his choice and what...a couple of quid?...towards the meat etc.

You never know,he may fall in with the positive peer pressure and actually eat some of what's offered.He certainly won't starve to death in the few hours between breakfast and dinner.

Kids can suprise you,left to his own devices he may well decide to eat it with his friends.

the OP child could eat in one of the classrooms.

trueblood1fan i think you are a nasty person, even if i think i knew someone from RL on here i wouldn't out them. And encoraging a child to hit another child back is a disgrace.

op ask if you could send in a pack lunch and if it is a problem then say he will be home for dinners.

I can't talk for the OP but I know my DS would become horribly upset by having a plate of food like this put in front of him. He wouldn't eat it and I don't have any issue with that at all - but he gets massively fucking stressed by people expecting him to eat food that he is scared of.

So for the sake of 'fitting in', this scenario would cause him massive distress.

Oh - and he's been in childcare since he was 7 months' old and has just refused to eat things when he is freaked out by them. Or he puts it in his mouth and holds it there for an hour or so. He's been underweight his entire life.

There is so much ignorance about eating issues with kids on MN it really pisses me off. Any other kind of SN is accepted but eating issues seem to be put down as poor parenting more often than not.

trueblood You may have the wrong person, did you even think about that before spewing your venom?

I've reported this thread.

I have reported Trueblood not only did she start on me on my thread, shes now making personal attacks on the OP, Mumnets is meant to be for advice giving not shit slinging.

Trueblood you poor deluded soul, give up the shit slinging, are you have a bad day, we all have them, its ok.

Wow. Slagging off a child. You must be proud of yourself.

This is all very, very strange.

It might well be that you both are thinking of different people. How on earth can you be so sure you have the right person/child/school?

De lurking to say that I have reported this thread.

Trueblood seems to have an issue with SNs children, i wonder what she thinks about autistic children, since sometimes they cant control their behaviour.

Good evening all,
Trust that we aren't allowing any kind of RL/MN crossover to make personal attacks. That's not really in the spirit of the site.
Peace and Love at Christmas, even at lunchtime
Thanks
MNHQ

Trueblood, your opinions are truly ignorant as well as highly offensive.
I'm so glad my son is out of compulsory education now and happily installed at college, away from dangerous and vicious comments. I hope MN see fit to ban such revolting opinions about a child with additional needs.

So, OP. A packed lunch, some vegetables and a peeler for fun. If he has OCD he could enjoy the precision of cutting.
Speaking as a parent whose son took the same components in his lunchbox for 5 years, YANBU.

Ok, ignoring all the wierd shit (and hoping it ISN'T someone who knows the OP in real life)... I think YABU to say it is 'off' of the school to do this communal lunch thingy. I think it sounds really nice and could well help your average fussy child to try a bit of veg if they've prepared it. I accept your child is far more than your average fussy child though and this meal may not be something he enjoys - it doesn't mean it doesn't have value for the other pupils in the school. Speak to the teachers and ask about sending a packed lunch, you could be stressing about nothing here and they'll happily agree to your DS not eating the cooked dinner. And, come on, you're not really providing 'half the meal' are you?! You're providing a bit of veg, the real cost is in the meat and the cooking so I think it's fair enough that you have to pay too.

' the school are getting pretty miffed with your constant "my son has ocd, my son has ocd"

As a teacher, I find this unsubstantiated judgement on the staff offensive as well. It would be highly unprofessional to offer negative opinions about a child on roll to a nasty gaggle of parental geese looking for whatever ammunition they can spit.
If I was the OP, I would make that into an issue.
On the other hand, if it is just the poisonous gossip in the playground, then that is part of having a child with sn.
I know that Trueblood claims to have a child with ADHD and Asperger's, but she lacks tolerance and the supportive spirit that tends to colour the SN boards on MN>
Which is perhaps why I've never encountered her there.
Yet.

TheNebulousBoojum i agree, it takes a tolerant person to deal with a child with special needs. my nephew has autism and my sister is amazing dealing with him and my younger niece.

Sorry OP I didn't realise he'd been diagnosed with fairly high OCD when I asked why he's so fussy.

That's even more reason to send him with a packed lunch. The school are obviously aware so they'll understand.

I wouldn't stress about it if I were you.

Well, thank you all for your opinions and advice.

Ds will attend (as he has every year) with a huge bag of potatoes, carrots, broccoli and sprouts , probably enough to feed the class. He enjoys the peeling and the cutting part of it all and the social element that this activity brings, the spontaneous christmas chitter chatter etc.

Whether he decides to eat it is and was quite frankly, not what this thread was about.

The fact my child has OCD is neither here no there to be honest, he is my child and perfect to me. (Call me precious if you like)

Now, could someone please, for the love of god, hit the gavel

I've always wanted to do that.

1 The school has by law to provide facilities for eating packed lunches
2 The school cannot by law charge for activities during the school day, just ask for a voluntary contribution