not to send dd to dads when she is ill?

[pinguthepenguin]

DD 5 has chickenpox, some of which are in some VERY painful places. She was due to to dads on wed for an overnight, but I said she wasnt fit. I have had to take a week of unpaid leave to care for her, but he was proposing to let his nany care for her ( who dd doesnt really know) I offered him to visit her here - he declined. He demanded a phonecall at a specific time, but she just wasnt up to it and I told him so, but said I would make sure she called as soon as she was better.
Cue a flurry of emails calling me obstructive, he would be telling the courts, his solicitior, I have denied him contact with his own child, bla bla. He said he had xmas plans and I have denied those to our dd as well as his other children.

The rational part of me says he is being irrational, but he always manages to make me doubt myself. I NEVER cancel contact btw ( although he would say differently). As it stands, poor dd is right now sucking on icepops on the sofa because her mouth is blistered

Was I unreasonable?

Oh and try and remember that anybody can ask the court to order anything they want.

I could take you to court to try and prevent you wearing green socks if I wanted, I somehow doubt that the court would humour me

Sock, thanks so much.

I think you're right that I need to man up a bit. Theres obviously a back story to this ( isn't there always) but the crux of the issue is the same one that runs through this thread- that I feel pushed around. He doesn't want to parent DD with me- wants to parent her with his wife and this causes issues between us and conflict. When I object to anything ( and I mean anything) there is a huge outburst of the kind I've described in this thread and it leaves me feeling really intimidated. I worry so much for dd's future as well.
I've had great advice here, and will practice your mantra with a friend or mirror before we get to mediation:)
Thanks again
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