to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

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Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

You know full well its a tribunal

So you changed your baby on a bouncy castle, but hang on not on a bouncy castle, and in a court but hang on it wasn't a court, and in front of a 'judge' (do they even have a judge at a tribunal??) but hey, he didn't notice a thing...

Don't worry stafoflight, about anyone else picking holes in your stories, you're doing a grand job all by yourself !

Its a tribunal specifically designed to be parent friendly!

I changed my baby on a bouncy castle and no one noticed.

Versus

I changed my baby on an unoccupied bouncy castle at midnight and no one noticed.

One of these sounds more impressive than the other.

Babieseverywhere that is a very sensible balanced post! All the more obviously so for being on a crazy thread.

Babieseverywhere, hear hear.

This really is such a British attitude. The rest of Europe barely bats an eyelid at babies being taken anywhere.

Still no answer to the 12pm post about where in a restaurant you've changed your baby...despite coming back to the thread a number of times....

Yes, whatasook but do Europeans change their babies on bouncy castles??? Or in court? Or on restaurant tables?? No? here neither

How id you manage to change your bay during a presentation you were giving with no one noticing?
Had you bored them all to sleep with tales of your wondrous mumminess first?

British attitude?

We're talking about a busy restaurant (3 days before Christmas), it is fully booked, there is live music, the majority of people will be drinking, I'm not expecting to finish eating until at least 10.

It's not like I have said, meeting up with a friend at a child friendly cafe at 12 on a Tuesday afternoon and my friend wants to bring her baby!

This thread got very stupid a long time ago.

Do the rest of Europe have Christmas nights out with colleagues or friends wearing silly Christmas cracker hats and pulling party poppers, while getting ever so slightly pissed?
I think that's a very British thing, having lived in Holland for years, there was nothing like that.
Starlight is now my officially favourite poster, just for the unintentional laughs.

I once changed my baby on an unoccupied bouncy castle at midnight without anyone noticing.

It's my proudest achievement

This is one of my favourite threads ever, it's hilariously bonkers.

How does a discussion about the feeding needs of a 6 month old make anyone think of bitty, ffs?

I'm not getting into competitive parenting, I still struggle to do a nappy with two hands and not get poo on myself if DD is feeling energetic!

But this babies shouldn't be out/in a restaurant after dark/ruining my night out, brigade need to get over themselves and let people do what ever they want to.

Netto- think you're probably right about the presentation. In fact I'm wondering if all staroflights acquaintances run for the hills when they see her approaching- it would explain why no one is ever there to smell the shit (or hear the bullshit)

"FFS" it made me think of the mother/son relationship rather than the bfing. It was the comment about shame on anyone that tries to separate us. Had me picturing that particular poster as the actress who played the mother in Little Britain. Complete with headscarf

'I'll remember that one when I'm in a full restaurant gone 10pm, where there is live music, people getting drunk and talking whilst I sip a martini and leave my baby in the pushchair.
But that will make me an excellent mum because I'm putting my baby first'

How is she not putting the baby first? She is with the baby and able to take care of its needs. I think you sound pretty needy yourself, and resentful, that a mother has the neck to defy her so called friends and do her own thing and be her own person regardless of what I am sure she knows full well is your attitude. You have done nothing to reassure anyone on this thread that you are anything but a rude and self centered individual with all the tact of a tank and I am sure she has noticed your disapproval of her choices and will notice your resentment. If you are planning on being bad company to this mother on her night out with her baby maybe you should consider staying home?

Yes, it really is a very British attitude to babies that we have here, plus a very British attitude to drunkenness.

Some really crazy comments on this thread.

StarofLight of her 6 month DS:

'He is in his 4th trimester. Dependent on me. A part of me.

Shame on anyone who wants to seperate us or put conditions on my movements that involve our seperation.'

I think she proceeded to call someone else on the thread precious

You are not aware of the concept of the 'fourth trimester' then, Jumpingjane?

And people wonder why breastfeeding rates in Britain are so low.

I think I can guess what a fourth trimester might be meant to encompass, but find myself annoyed before I even think about it at the idea of FOUR TRImesters!

My babies were fully bf for over 6 months and then continued to have bm for many months more. I have never referred to the 4th trimester and nor was i permanently attached to my children 24/7 and I wouldn't dream of changing my child's nappies in restaurants or on bouncy castles

I thought the "4th trimester" was the 3 months after birth? Hence "tri-mester"? Not six months?