to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

[forbiddenfruit85]

Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

[mathanxiety]

'And yes it is cheeky mathanxiety because K could literally walk to the restaurant in around 10 minutes.

If she picked up L then that would be a 15 minute car ride one way.

So when you calculate it there and back and there and back again, that's a whole hour.'

Good god, a whole hour, for a friend, so she can see her friends at Christmas, even though the organiser has been really remiss in arranging the dinner for a night when restaurants are heaving despite everyone knowing L hasn[t introduced a bottle, and L's husband won't be there to transport her and the baby. Is your surname Scrooge?

[miamibeach]

so where are you from?

[mathanxiety]

I grew up in Dublin and have lived in several places since.

[miamibeach]

Hmm not even going to bother commenting then.

[mathanxiety]

Fine by me.

[yellowsubmarine53]

I quite like seeing my friends' babies. I don't get a chance to see then as much as I would like, and I'd be very happy to see one on a night out.

I appreciate that this might demonstrate a degree of friendliness, flexibility and seasonal goodwill that is out of place on this thread.

[pigletmania]

It is a Christmas knees up and oeople do want to drink ad be merry, if Lauren wants to go than she should book a taxi like everybody else that does not drive. I don't drive, but wuld never let someone put themselves ut fr me and expect it. Math yur wrong, there is nothing wrong with a kids free night, you don't have to take babies everywhere. This sounds like a adult night just by its very nature, geese just because sometimes we want adult only nights we are anti children . If I was so ani children I would not have had any

[pigletmania]

Not everyone is you yello, for some it's the only opportunity to let your hair dwn without kids and they have been looking forward to it for ages, having a noisy screaming 6 month old throws a spanner in the works

[ifancyashandy]

Hang on... Lauren is selfish for not wanting to drive so she can have a few drinks?! Yet the mother (can't remember name) is justified in asking her not to?! Math that is bonkers and words fail.

[pigletmania]

Lauren does not sound like the type if person to take baby home if he gets whiny and grumpy, the others would probably have to endure a grumpy baby who just wants to sleep for all of the evening. It would ruin it fr everybody else. They should plan something in the day so that people can bring their kids

[saintlyjimjams]

It's a bit daft to say that k should have organised a night out around one baby's needs. Not even a newborn. If i was arranging a night out i might assume that a newborn needed sone consideration but it wouldn't iccur to me that someone would even want to bring a 6 month old.

The idea that an adults christmas meal out should have been arranged in a quiet restaurant at a time to suit a baby is insane. Presumably most of the group work so they're already organising around work commitments and parties. That said by someone who often can't attend things as they're not arranged in suitable venues for ds1 - that's life. I either go without him, or don't go, I don't expect my friends or family to arrange everything around one child.

And if someone with a 6 month old told me to drive them because I could have one drink (I couldn't I don't drink anything when I drive) I'd just say no.

It does sound as if some bluntness is needed as normally people would have understood that you don't tell someone they will drive you to a Christmas party.

[ifancyashandy]

Ah... I got the names mixed up....

[wordfactory]

I think there is a huge difference between a quite dinner with girlfriends and an Xmas knees up. Babies are more than welcome at the former, surely? But the later? Why?

Why would anyone want to bring a baby to a noisy restaurant on one of the most drunken nights in the UK? Other diners might have been drinking all day. The place will be heaving. Frankly, I'd probably avoid it .

Oh and PMSL that Dublin is full of Mums and babies having quiet dinners. This Friday in Dublin will be a riot.

[wordfactory]

Oh and if someone told me to drive to give them a lift, I'd say no. Even if I weren't drinking.

Because I don't want to drive around late at night in the bloody fog and ice on Mad Friday!

Taxis were invented for a reason.

[AmIthatTinselly]

So, if L wants to take the baby home , that would mean K having to leave early too presumably, to take her home on the car? This thread gets better and better.

There are some strange people around, and a couple of them are the most vociferous posters on this thread.

OP, yet again YANBU

[SpecialAgentKat]

So, if L wants to take the baby home , that would mean K having to leave early too presumably, to take her home on the car? This thread gets better and better.

There are some strange people around, and a couple of them are the most vociferous posters on this thread.

PLEASE, WON'T SOMEBODY think of the children?!?

[wordfactory]

Andif the driver wants to/has to leave early she can't. Or if she wants to stay really late, chatting and drinking her tenth coffee, she can't.

[pigletmania]

Ian going on an adults only meal this week, it has been stipulated as adults only, dh looking after kids and I'm getting a cab there and back noway would I expect the others to give me a lift and sacrifice their evening. Lauren has options get a cab or drive if it men's so much to be teir, dont behave like an entitled so and so.

[WinkyWinkola]

Well, it's up to K, isn't it? If she cannot asset herself and say no to giving a lift, that is her problem.

And if the op feels so very strongly about a baby being present, then instead of bitching about it on MN, why on earth doesn't she talk to her 'friend' about it?

[WinkyWinkola]

assert herself that is.

[PickledInAPearTree]

I've never seen a baby out in the uk on Black Friday.

I took ds to pizza express on Saturday and by 7.30 it was very noisy and he began to channel the dark side and I was happy to leave.

Missing one night out isnt a huge deal she is a grown woman not a little child missing a birthday party.

We've all had to do it.

Some grips need to be got here seriously.