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to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

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forbiddenfruit85 · 06/12/2012 21:25

Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

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WhataSook · 08/12/2012 11:36

Yes the OP has a right to organise an adult only evening. I'm just baffled why she can't state that it is that?

And yummy, laughing at bringing the baby smacks of you comment, so does insisting thst you've left your two with grandparents because YOU want a childfree night out...what's the difference?

StarOfLightMcKings3 · 08/12/2012 11:38

Two, where have I said I leave shit on my hands. Where have I said I even GET shit on my hands?

LaQueen · 08/12/2012 11:41

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soontobeyummy · 08/12/2012 11:41

And yummy, laughing at bringing the baby smacks of you comment

Sorry, don't understand what you're trying to say there?
It's not about what I want, it's about being considerate towards others and the environment.
It's not rocket science to realise that a busy restaurant late in an evening the weekend before Xmas is not ideal for a baby.
Do you all not even care what might actually be best for baby and what baby wants? Who said baby wants to be round a noisy, brightly lit, alcohol fuelled room at 10pm at night? Baby's better off in bed.
As long as you're getting your night out though, what does it matter what baby wants or indeed other diners?

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells · 08/12/2012 11:42

Starlight is on a wind up, surely?

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forbiddenfruit85 · 08/12/2012 11:44

mathanxiety

You are an incredibly unpleasant person, ForbiddenFruit.

Lol because every single person on this post has been so pleasant and polite to me. Next time I'm being insulted I'll just sit there and smile right? Wink

Violet77

Glad that your not my friend.

Are you worried she will get more attention?

And I'm glad I'm not your friend too Smile

ps it's been clearly stated by me and many other that firstly the baby is a boy.

And yes you hit the nail on the head with the attention seeking comment. I had no idea it was that transparent Hmm

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StarOfLightMcKings3 · 08/12/2012 11:44

So who here has seen a nappy being changed on a bouncy castle then?

I bet none.

pigletmania · 08/12/2012 11:46

Some of the things do sound very far fetched and impossible. If that did happen, people were too polite to say anything. Why do people think that eople want to see the things

AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow · 08/12/2012 11:48

Ah, just another day in AIBU Xmas Hmm

londonone · 08/12/2012 11:51

Star you are coming across as very strange. People aren't twisting what you are saying, you are simply saying some very odd things!

LaQueen · 08/12/2012 11:52

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Moominsarescary · 08/12/2012 11:53

I wouldn't have a baby on a bouncy castle so don't know if I could do it. Seems a little stupid to me

londonone · 08/12/2012 11:53

You may want to re read what you have posted star as if all you can see is the word garlic in one of your posts there is definitely something off. Not to mention the fact you still haven't clarified how y

StarOfLightMcKings3 · 08/12/2012 11:54

Not all tables are for food. Blimey.

I think it is your determination to find fault to justify your stance that is leading to your assumptions. Please try and be a bit more objective.

londonone · 08/12/2012 11:54

You may want to re read what you have posted star as if all you can see is the word garlic in one of your posts there is definitely something off. Not to mention the fact you still haven't clarified how yOu manage to change nappies without even noticing yourself!

janey68 · 08/12/2012 11:54

And what sort of idiot takes a less than 6 month old on a bouncy castle anyway? It's actually quite dangerous. Unless of course you order everyone else off so you can use it as some sort of weird public, giant inflatable changing mat which has had millions of people's feet all over it.

StarOfLightMcKings3 · 08/12/2012 11:55

I can read and see london. It appears you can't perhaps!? I never said what you said I did.

londonone · 08/12/2012 11:56

No star you're right, changing tables aren't for food but you don't seem to want to use them. I am wondering what other sorts of tables youfind in a restaurant other than those for food. Could you enlighten us?

LaQueen · 08/12/2012 11:57

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StarOfLightMcKings3 · 08/12/2012 11:57

I don't need to look when I change nappies. I can do it with a baby fully covered, as can many I believe.

I'm finding the lack of imagination here quite startling. Just because people don't know HOW something can be achieved, doesn't mean it can't.

For those of you with an unhealthy obsession with bouncy castle information, I can confirm that the bouncy castle was unoccupied and it was midnight.

londonone · 08/12/2012 11:58

No star you implied it. As I said you seem to think many people are misinterpreting your posts. Perhaps you need to be clearer

WhataSook · 08/12/2012 11:59

It's dinner not an outing to a club! Dinner could be 6pm, surely baby doesn't have to be in bed by that time? By 10pm I would be well on my way home.

I just think people should chill out, why is bringing the baby attention seeking? Why is not wanting to leave your baby so fucking wrong?

I work ft and honestly, my priority would be spending time with my child. So what, I'm not allowed out if I won't leave DD?

But what it really boils down to is how come the OP can't just say no kids? If an invite came thst said no kids, then I wouldn't take DD.

TwoFacedCows · 08/12/2012 11:59

i LOVE this! Grin

i never knew that there was SO many odd people in the world, namely star

StarOfLightMcKings3 · 08/12/2012 12:00

Londonone WHERE did I say I would change a baby in a restaurant at a table.

I can change babies at tables. I can change babies in restaurants. I can change babies in bouncy castles.

This does not mean I was in a bouncy-castle restaurant changing the baby inbetween the condiments, - although not doubt this would have been the conclusion of your ridicule in the absence of any reasonable argument,

LaQueen · 08/12/2012 12:00

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