to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

[forbiddenfruit85]

Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

I'm with you LaQueen.... Such weirdos out there...

Except make mine double gin

I was demonstrating that there is no need to have conversations about changing room. I never use them anyway as the bloody tables are designed by men I think and too high. I don't expect I'd change at the table with food present though but that woukd be MY problem to solve.

Yes piglet, that's why doing it whilst feeding is easiest as they stay put.

mathanxiety
"You are an incredibly unpleasant person, ForbiddenFruit."

Au contraire I think Forbidden is OK and she is NBU.

You and starof and anyone whose name is Childsnamesmummy are quite frankly bonkers.

Breastmilk nappies can't be smelt over garlic/perfume/cooking etc that you woukd get on a usual night/meal out.

I think you are projecting LeQueen as well as getting personal due to lack of sound arguments. Take me up on my offer on a night out then by all means post back here all knowingly!

Yes, they smell rank once you've added formula or solids in the mix.

star other diners do not want to see your baby's shitty arse.

How can you think that it's acceptable?

Where are your manners?

Sometimes I think smothers forget their babies are, y'know... people. Not devices to latch on whenever. Just smaller people.

That means I arrange their occasions to their interests, their enjoyment and as human being they have to have respect for others and their interests.

The best I can do at psychotic mummy martyr logic

Of course not. Who said they woukd?

Fourth trimester!

Star- YOU are the best argument against anyone even considering bringing a baby to an evening restaurant meal. I don't want to small your baby's shitty nappy, whether it's fed entirely from your breastmilk or not. You are totally self obsessed and ridiculous.

Or SMELL it either

And I assume that me and my twins (once theyarrive) will be just as welcome? After all if one baby is fine, then two will be twice as nice, right? Never mind the double buggy and the massive feeding pillow plus both my boobs hanging out across the table. Oh and could you give hold this one while i change the other...

Honestly, some people are mad. Of course, people with babies should be made welcome but they should also have the sense to work out what is appropriate. Big "girls's Christmas night out" seems to me to be a sensible place to draw a line and say 'sorry, will have to give this one a miss'.

StarOfLightMcKings3 FFS I have a hangover from last nights boozy child free festivities and your talk of changing pooey nappies whilst baby is dangling from your tit is making me retch a bit.

Please tell me what restaurants you frequent so I can make a special point of avoiding them.

This earth mother martyrdom shite really is irritating and attention seeking.

O fgs. WHERE has it been said that anyone has to see or smell any poo. You're being ridiculous.

I've changed and fed my baby on a tube, during a meeting in the bank, on a bouncy castle, during a presentation that I was giving, on a training course and even in court. NOONE noticed.

How is it attentionseeking? NOONE notices.

Prolly not possible for much longer I agree but so far it has all been easy enough.

Ha ha ha, Just twigged you are a wind up, have a

You're deluded if you think people don't notice.

Of course they notice, unless you are under the table. Which you aren't.

Selfish.

You hang your boobs a across the table and block walkways with your buggy?

Should you be having children?

And im also intrigued about what these (few) people who advocate brining a 6 month old along do with the baby. Most of them seem to be happy with sticking baby trussed up in a car seat under the table. Lovely.... The alternatives would seem to be a pram (yeap, just want the restaurant want, a huge tank parked by the table) or - for the baby wearing smothers, I guess baby would be on their lap the entire night. My children at 6 months were explorative. They would have wanted to reach out, prod, poke, pick up ... Napkins, cutlery (good for inquisitive banging) or tugging at the person next to me (given that you're bunched up pretty close round a table). So actually, I think if you propose taking a 6 Month old to such a meal you're going to end up having to restrict all the things which a totally normal 6 month child does anyway. Hardly good parenting.