to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

[forbiddenfruit85]

Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

Drinking from a cup and being settled by dad does not automatically make a night out possible if the baby drinks more than can be expressed during the evening hours.

This story reminded me of a works christmas party when my 2 were about 9months and 2years.I had recently divorced hadn't been out at night since youngest was born

.I had got a baby sitter, got all dolled up and looked forward for weeks to getting out without the kids.When I arrived I was sat next to a colleague with a 5 month old (who as she told me constantly couldnt be left).

I won't lie I went to the toilets and wept.I had so looked forward to this child free night out.Which I didn't want my kids to attend ,and was stuck discussing the importance of being with your children 24/7 bya woman who had a choice not too.I had no partner no family.I could have cheerfully fucking strangled her!!

I realise now almost a decade on that it wasn't her really she was just doing it her way,but I needed to do it mine.Without children.

Well yes LeQueen, you do seem to have some socially inept friends

Come have a night out with me........(and baby)!

Oh, I didn't realise this person was expecting the OP to 'deal with' her baby. That's different. I was expecting her to parent the baby during the meal, not the friends. Or have I got your post wrong, DingDong?

Btw I have neither car seat nor changing bag!!!!!

And I can change baby's nappy with one hand whilst feeding AND holding a conversation with you and you wouldn't even notice what I was doing.

eww that's grim. How do you wash your hands?

I think it is because those that do mind woukd behave in the way you mentioned in your list of inconveniences and assume everyone else is the same.

No car seat star, I hope tat if your baby foes out in a car tey are in a keg ally required car seat for their age. Very selfish of tat mum feeling dizzy, it is a works do in th evening, if baby could not be left that is too bad

If there's even an outside chance the OPS friends thinks she can change her baby at the table during a restaurant meal then I hope the restaurant tell her where to get off!

I think you should just make sure you sit well away from her op, so there's no chance you're expected to engage in baby- entertaining. If the child is anything like most inquisitive 6 monthers, it'll be reaching out, wanting to grab things, being quite vocal, so mum will need to go home anyway! Sorted!

Meant legally required car seat, silly I pad

bigkids that was exactly my first thought! Only on MN!

In years of having babies and hanging out with mothers of babies and small children, none of us have ever brought our baby on an adults night out. We do socialise with babies in tow - during the daytime, and sometimes in the evenings too, e.g. family parties / get togethers at each others' houses - but never on a boozy night out.

And I can change baby's nappy with one hand whilst feeding AND holding a conversation with you and you wouldn't even notice what I was doing.

Kudos to you, smother. I'm sure having a martini while you play 'mummy pooey nappy ninja' I'll be toasting to you. Hell, we'll make a drinking game out of it!

That wouldn't be weird would it?

Lordy, I pity your future DIL. :(

It's unthoughtful of the friend actually to even think it's ok to bring the baby. I bet out of the group most if not all will think it's a stupid idea.

Isn't that your problem?

I guess, most of my friends didn't have kids whenever this has cropped up with us, and now I live somewhere where it is the expected norm to bring your kids with you.

I adore my twins, but a night away? Kiss on the forehead, love you, have fun with nanna and then I run to the nearest bar!

Star changing baby will be difficult with one had once they start rolling over and crawling Allier the changing matt wou will need 2 hands and a bloody good grip

I can drink a martini at the same time too.

Yes but LaQueen, ickle diddums might be distraught by the change of scenery while getting his arse wiped while being fed.

Puts down Christmas shrimp.

You'd change a dirty nappy on your knee at the table??

Inconsiderate.

But then you appear to be just that.