to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

[forbiddenfruit85]

Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

Fucking hell

yes, sympathy to the future DIL, because she will sill be wearing her baby and breastfeeding on demand when her son is an adult. After all, children's needs don't change as they get older, do they?

Oh good grief if you want to go on a jolly on Black Friday it's your decision no one is forcing you to go.

There is more bloody melodrama on here than emmerdale.

Oh, and if I was having a Christmas night out this year , I apologise in advance for falling over your baby with my cracker hat on to get outside for a fag.
While loudly singing Slade.

lady can I come out with you?

forbidden, my future daughter-in-law will not be making an appearance whilst my baby is still soley dependent on me.

MY bf baby is rarely noticed. He is not passed around. He is attached to me during the evening and night but he feeds approximately every 40mins.

I actually left him tonight to attend an evening thing. I was only away for an hour and a half before I was called back because the tommee tippee cup that I had taken me 2 days to express was finished and he was still hungry/thirsty, so I came home only just the starter.

It was an experiment. I know now that the next meal I will have to have him with me.

You don't have to have him with you at a meal. Stay at home, until you learn how to detach yourself.

Let people enjoy their dinner.

What a vile comment. If your enjoyment of your dinner is affected by a small inconspicuous baby being present, who is soley dependent on his mother and that no-one else notices, then I would suggest that it is YOU who should avoid restaurants until you learn how to overcome your predjudices.

OMG how selfish are you and why do you even care is it going to ruin your night a little tiny cute 6mo being there????

Haha, so someone is selfish because they worry their night out may be spoiled? Thats good one, I dont get out much so if I was going on a proper Christmas night out of course I would care! And 6 month olds arent tiny either - they generally are big and noisy.

Its an adult meal out for Christmas, not a party at soft play.

Agree and also grumpy at that time of night.

at StarOfLightMcKings3

We're singing Fairy tale of New York now, Moomins and forbiddenfruits.
I'm feeling a bit wobbly.
TAXI!

My baby has not learned about day and night yet. He is hungry when he is hungry and always settled due to being bf on demand. He isn't old enough to DO anything but breastmilk always sends him into a coma even if not asking for it.

He is too young for a soft play. My body is growing him. My body that needs food, and socialising and friendships and a relaxing meal.

FFS calm down StarOfLightMcKings3 - we get it, you like feeding your baby!

Op, I was in your situation last year. Friend bought baby with her, he whined/ screamed throughout meal. She couldn't feed / we couldn't eat, everyone hated us, it was simply awful! We're not having a meet up meal this year. Offered to rearrange times to more suitable to suit her (only one wanted to bring child) last year, she was insistent baby would come / be fine whenever so didn't bother her / him.

Christmas evenings in restaurants really not time for babies.

Right right star take your Star Mummy martyr award and move on

Actually, I don't much like feeding my baby but he must be fed. MY needs have not changed much though since becoming a mother and there is no reason except prejudice why I can't carry on as normal wit him in tow.

If and when he causes a nuisance to others in more ways than simply existing in the same room then I'll balance up the needs of all at that time, but don't expect me to factor in preciousness.

my body is growing him

I just sicked in my mouth.

forbidden

Oh my

:: evangelical breastfeeder alert ::

don't expect me to factor in preciousness HAHA! I think you are the most precious poster on this thread!
poor poor Mummy martyr

Actually I think having a child means some sacrifices have to be made, maybe not taking them to noisy restaurants at 8pm is one of them.

My body grew a baby too.
He's 17 now, of to university next year, and I still managed to have adult time when he was 6 months and onwards.
Sorry StarofLight, but you do sound a little bit precious.