to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

[forbiddenfruit85]

Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

I know AF, its a bugger because recently i have found myself nodding in agreement to a post and look up and see it is you!!

Only on mumsnet!
Never, in all my born days, have I ever heard of a baby on a Christmas night out IRL!
Op is spot on.Her friend has her PFB goggles on I'm afraid!

'I wouldn't want a baby being the centre of attention at an adult night out TBH, '

This is a representative quote from one faction here that happens to state the question very neatly and bluntly.

What is wrong with you people? If this is not jealousy I will eat my hat. You resent babies because they distract adult attention from where it should be focused?

Grow up?

People become parents. For some it is a joy. They do not feel the desperate need to pack their children or babies away at 7 pm and claim their 'lives' back. What is the problem with that?

Only in the UK...

Tfc, I think you should see your gp..you clearly are not quite yourself

I have said I would really rather not have taken my own baby anywhere on a night out. I needed that time away from my baby.

But I don't understand the ire about someone else's baby.

OK if it was a group of toddlers, but 1 baby?

Yes, jealous of what?

i know, booking an appt. asap!

So I take it if everyone going to this dinner wanted to bring their children, that would be ok with the people who think it's alright for this one particular woman to do it?

today?s lesson is titled ?I don?t give a fuck if you would be my friend or not?. Tomorrow?s lesson is the same as today.

That is going in the sleg-bank for later.

No one's jealous of the baby! I love babies, I have nearly stolen several. But would I want one at my Christmas dinner with my mates? No! I want my friends to get merry and relax, and that's not really likely when they're scanning the room wondering who's got the wean now and if they're ok, sniffing bums to make sure a trip to the ladies isn't required.

Hmm there's maybe an unhelpful implication that those of us who don't want to spend all our time with out babies are not very well bonded or something. So I can understand people feeling a bit defensive about that.

But conversly i wouldn't be making derogatory comments about someone wanting to bring their baby (PFB, etc). One baby at a meal out is no reflection on my parenting, and no skin off my nose.

Unecessary polarisation of views.IMO

Livid what planet are you on! Not everyone wants children at an adult only function, where there will probably be pissed people and adult conversation.

Yes the friend does no hae to force her baby to have bottles, she has put her babies needs first good on her but will be restricted for a period of time whist her baby bf

LaQueen

I think that too, but then I like a little cuddle as well. the two aren't mutually exclusive. If the baby is troublesome, the mum is going to be the one troubled

You know the next day when you're all texting remembering the night before, "Haha, do you remember x forgetting her handbag in the taxi?! Pissed as a fart!". Replace handbag with baby.

Not the same, people. Not the same.

There is nothing wrong with being attached to your baby 24/7 if that's what you want.

You just have to realise that you will miss out on something's, like the Christmas party that starts at 8.

There are no restaurants around here that would allow them in that late, probably for a reason.

So have a laugh and get drunk. The baby won't give a flying fuck whether you coo at it or not.

I'm sure there are often adults whose company you would not necessarily be delighted about, whose personal hygiene left a bit to be desired, who barfed all over the place, got way too loud, whose presence and behaviour would be a major distraction, an atmosphere killer, etc., at some Christmas do's -- what is so objectionable about a baby's presence and the possibility of a baby doing that?

I went out very rarely when my DS was young and I would have looked forward to a night free of babies and children and all talk of such things. I wouldn't normally take my DS to a busy restaurant at night. On holiday abroad I have kept him up later than his normal bedtime. Even then, if he cried or was noisy, I would have taken him home. In my book par for the course when they are little. They aren't small for long.

It's up to the mum is question, though it would depend on the Mother and baby as to whether I would still go to a meal.

today?s lesson is titled ?I don?t give a fuck if you would be my friend or not?. Tomorrow?s lesson is the same

Nothing to do with any of it but this is my new favourite