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Original poster

to not want my friend to bring her 6mo to our Christmas meal?

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forbiddenfruit85 · 06/12/2012 21:25

Be prepared I have my judgey pants on.

We have organised our meal for the weekend before Christmas. Friend is bringing her 6mo baby because the one and only time she has left him, he refused to take the bottle.

She has since then never bothered to try again. My baby took ages to take to the bottle too so I know how hard it is, but I persisted and eventually we got there.

The table is booked for 8 and we will be there is probably at least 10 so its going to be late. The restaurant is fully booked so it's going to be noisy. I just don't feel this is a great environment for a baby.

aibu to not want her to bring him along?

(she has a bf and they live with his family so there isn't a shortage of people willing to look after him)

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Moominsarescary · 07/12/2012 13:45

mistress no it was a joint hen/ birthday and all women, i doubt he'd have wanted to join in any how.

Clumsyoaf · 07/12/2012 13:47

I'm surprised no one has called you a troll yet forbidden... Hmm some ladies on here can be quite vicious!

Tell your friend to loose the baby! Grin

EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin · 07/12/2012 13:49

Late meals and dinner parties at people's homes are a bit different. You all know each other and it's more relaxed.

A baby in a restaurant where there are other guests is different.

I'm just picturing where DH has his Christmas staff do and can't imagine one minute a baby in a pram being there.

RooneyMara · 07/12/2012 13:49

OP why are you so aggressive?

Janeatthebarre · 07/12/2012 13:49

Are you sure Amber. I know lots of people who, like myself, grit their teeth and smile with fake delight when someone pitches up -yet again - with their kids in tow to a dinner party or to a restaurant meal where everyone else has got a babysitter.

AmberSocks · 07/12/2012 13:51

Some babies feed a lot still at 6 months if you feed on demand,especially in the evenings.

Janeatthebarre · 07/12/2012 14:42

To be honest, I'm surprised a restaurant would agree to a baby being on the premises that late. I would be very surprised if I saw someone sitting in a restaurant feeding a baby at 10 o clock on a dark cold December night.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo · 07/12/2012 15:16

come now, the OP is getting a massive pasting from lots of quite nasty people... if she's narked it's no surprise.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo · 07/12/2012 15:17

btw has anyone checked whether the license excludes kids after a certain time?

Original poster
forbiddenfruit85 · 07/12/2012 15:28

RooneyMara seriously?

Lets discount the very personal attacks on me then.

Yes say IABU. You can state why to, and I will listen and take on board.

But to say things like I wouldn't want my baby around you, you are a terrible person etc

what do you expect? me to just sit there and smile.

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LividDil · 07/12/2012 15:28

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AitchTwoOhOneTwo · 07/12/2012 15:31

jesus, people never fail to surprise me on here. this place is mental. i'm glad you're all imaginary.

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forbiddenfruit85 · 07/12/2012 15:33

what are you talking about LivisDil ?? You strange woman.

I personally wouldn't have taken my baby out so late at night for an adult meal where the restaurant will be full and there will be live music.

My baby would take the bottle at 6 months. But I do sympathise with my friend as it was a struggle. So I had the advantage of having me time, and my dh would look after our child.

My friend doesn't want to try the bottle again. So I'm saying she does have the problem where it cannot solely be her bf looking after their child.

In her position I wouldn't go. I wouldn't take my baby out that late at night.

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forbiddenfruit85 · 07/12/2012 15:34

Again she can bottle or bf the kid. I couldn't give a shit to be honest.

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Pinkforever · 07/12/2012 15:36

Yeah the woman who wants to take a baby to a place where there will be numerous pissed up people is the good parent here-right?Hmm

Wont take a bottle?-your just not forcing it in hard enough.....Grin

saintlyjimjams · 07/12/2012 15:38

btw has anyone checked whether the license excludes kids after a certain time?

Hm good point!

Original poster
forbiddenfruit85 · 07/12/2012 15:40

Well I didn't book the table.

But I think it was asked whether there would be room for a pushchair when it was booked so I'm assuming that children are allowed after a certain time otherwise they would have said at the time.

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usualsuspect3 · 07/12/2012 15:51

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DuelingFanjHoHoHo · 07/12/2012 15:52

Do you think your friend feels pressured to come?

Maybe she would feel better just staying at home with her baby?

TwoFacedCows · 07/12/2012 15:53

OP i have just laughed my arse off at your comment to donnie Xmas Grin

and for once, as much as it hurts, i agree with anyfucker Xmas Shock

usualsuspect3 · 07/12/2012 15:56

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EverlongLovesHerChristmasRobin · 07/12/2012 16:29

Indeed usual let's all have a little Wine and chill Smile

Sometimes I do not understand the working out of a small minority of mumsnetters.

This thread is such a time.

Thank Christ I have normal friends Wink

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 07/12/2012 16:48

Be careful tfc, agreeing with me could become a habit if you are not careful Wink

Original poster
forbiddenfruit85 · 07/12/2012 16:52

God bless us, everyone Xmas Grin

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