to be stressed and shocked at being possibly pregnant?

[bellabreeze]

I feel like I might be pregnant. I have 8 DCs (yes, eight!!!) I do keep a positive attitude and cope very well but I am kind of thinking 'oh my god 9 kids!!?' I feel overwhelmed!!! Its not that I would hate to have another child but I feel so shocked and strange about having 9 kids! Its only 1 more but it is so close to 10...

This post doesn't really make much sense I am just overwhelmed

Is that two admissions of benefit bashing?

I'm late to this thread but, being rude about the names of children is really fucking below the belt. That's not on Diffo, not on at all.

Just fucking rude I think!

How about posting your dc's names on here so we can take the piss?

Reported diffo

Erm I'm not the only person to point on her kids names are weird

I've reported you too, Diffo. You are incredibly rude.

no idea if OP is a troll but 4 of those names appears on my dcs class list so i dont think you can base trolldom on that.

I commented on the names right at the beginning of this thread, I then said my was meant to be a purely because I'm in awe of someone who had 8 children and doesn't get their names muddled up, something I can't manage with only 2DC

However, I never said the names are weird, because they're not! I have a relative called johnjoe.

No different to calling sisters Lilian and Marianne. I have cousins (twins) called Yseult and Ysolde which (and MN enlightened me on this a few years back) are variations of the same name. DH's family are endlessly called Anne and Marie.

Lillyann and Violet-Ann isn't that much of a stretch for the imagination.

Ineed I only have 5 and I constantly call them half names - for example dc4 is always ro-em which is half her name half the babies name!.

Oh I missed that deleted post
DCs haven't complained about their names and no problems with them so oh well
Yeah it is pretty rude and Diffo, I'm pretty sure you're the first one to actually call the names weird

That's what I do with my 2 5dcsnot sure how I'd manage with more.

Fwiw OP, I like the names

oh and OP i called my last child Rosemary and was met with horror, I dont care i like it so in the words of my 8 year old "meh"

Congrats Bella. Hope all goes well with your pregnancy. I'm sure your new little one will be very loved, just like your others obviously are, and that's the most important thing

Oh I've just caught up with this.

Congratulations. OP, can I just say you have conducted yourself with absolute dignity throughout this thread which is more than I can say for a lot of the other contributors.
You have even explained your financial situation to a bunch of strangers who seem to be under the misguided impression that it is somehow their business.

I honestly hope that none of the delightful people on this thread ever go through financial problems. I hope that you are never in a position where you may have to ask for help from the state.
Because, I am also sarcastic and rude.
And I would actually take great pleasure in letting you know how unhappy I was "paying for your children"

You should be ashamed of yourself. The op has been a lot more dignified and calm than I would have been in her situation.

It is our business now Tantrums have a read

Because she has the temerity to have left her marriage and therefore as she may now have to claim benefits, her whole financial life is now fair game for scrutiny by complete strangers, obviously After all, they cant afford more children so why should they pay for hers?

Makes me sick.

That is, those that think they have the right to ask such things and say it is their business because it their tax that make me sick, MN truly at its worst.

Wow good luck! I'm really in awe of people who have big families successfully! Does it reach a certain number and then it doesn't matter if there are more or is the jump always hard? I'm into the superscrimper lifestyle - I would love to pinch some ideas! I dont have a large family (yet?) but could probably learn from you lot so will lurk on the large families board
Ignore some opinions on this thread - no one has the right to assume your circumstances. You have every right to be a little shocked and surprised at a new pregnancy. My pregnancies were planned yet I still felt shocked - hell I'm still shocked at being pregnant right now! (11 weeks!)

I hope everything goes well and if you do find out that you are pregnant I hope you have a smooth ride and a lovely little bundle for your whole family to enjoy. Best of luck.

no, still not my business.

and its quite sickening that you think it is

should she stay in a bed relationship then, just so she wont need any help from the state?
The state benefit system which is there for exactly the reason to help parents with children who find themselves in a position they were not expecting?

Im sure in her position brycie youd let your dcs starve rather than ask for help?

Wishing you luck OP.

My job involves systems and administration support to the Benefits and Taxation department of a council. Recently we were sending letters out to claimants to warn them about the Benefit cap starting in April. Some are going to be losing almost £200 per week. This is for an area where a 3 bed property is £120 - £150 a week so not an expensive area.

I am not try to pry into your financial affairs, bella but please be aware of this forthcoming cap. Not all benefits are counted and any maintenance is exempt but if you claim or need to claim help with housing costs, the amount you get could be significantly lower after April.