to be stressed and shocked at being possibly pregnant?

[bellabreeze]

I feel like I might be pregnant. I have 8 DCs (yes, eight!!!) I do keep a positive attitude and cope very well but I am kind of thinking 'oh my god 9 kids!!?' I feel overwhelmed!!! Its not that I would hate to have another child but I feel so shocked and strange about having 9 kids! Its only 1 more but it is so close to 10...

This post doesn't really make much sense I am just overwhelmed

Pink not sure if you had read but I'm no longer with my husband, shall I give my children away now my financial situation has changed?

Actually i thought the way the new universal benefit worked meant it wouldnt affect existing children but would come into force for those born after a certain date? Either way its a pile of crap that as usual.the gov targets those without a voice, disabled, working poor etc. They realky dont give a shite.

Op if you are preg then i hope it all goes smoothly for you, i cant see one more making that much of a difference if you can cope with eight you can manage one more. I wish you and your family the best for the future and hope your dh pulls his socks up so that even if you are not together he supports you and the children xx

Congratulations op, a baby is a baby, whether it's your first or your ninth you'll still love it, care for it and yes you will cope. There are some miserable sods out there, eh! x

Yes I do understand that you have seperated from your dh but it was unclear whether or not this was a permanent split?

Noone is asking you to give up your dcs. I merely pointed out that if you are in receipt of benefits-even if its only cb-then if the government decide to curtail it to 2 dcs then it would be a massive drop in your income?...

Wow mrsdevere and you call me passive aggressive? I too would have loved more dcs-have actually been pregnant 10 times but we cant afford any more sadly...

Pink: it won't be a problem for Bella as existing claimants will be protected. In fact it's a good argument for having a ninth baby sooner rather than later, although Bella doesn't seem all that worried anyway.

Yes thats what i thought brycie existing claimants wont be affected.

They cant apply the rules retrospectively.

For now brycie but quite honestly I think that will change in another couple of years-I think the government will have no choice but to limit it to 2 dcs.

If they do then I will lose out too as we have 3 dcs and I really rely on that money but to go from cb for 9 dcs down to 2 would be a huge drop-I am shit at maths but sm sure its a lot!!....

It would be about maybe six thousand?

I'm not passive aggressive. I am sarcastic and rude.

Snort! :o

I am not hinting that the op should terminate mrsdevere-again if you cared to read some of my other posts then you would find out my views on termination are mixed. Btw I didnt find anything you said either rude or sarcastic-sorry....

I belive most people can afford a baby.

Babies are not that expensive, many things parents to be buy are a waste of money.

It's eye watering the amount people have spent on a pram like the Icandy £600, cots pricing over £400 Moses baskets £100 I mean its crazy and nappy wrappers, baby monitors an egg thing that tell how hot the room is. Sensor pads for baby cots.

With 8 previous children I bet the op will not need to buy anything

MrsDeVere thanks very much and 5 is loads in most peoples books including mine! You'll likely have grand kids some time soon enough

Well pink it is permanent and I would personally be open to what ever benefits they say I'm entitled to although I didn't start off in this situation
I've got some savings from when I realised I didn't want to carry things on with ex, also stocked up on some supplies! Extra DCs (in my opinion and of course depending on what you spend money on) don't cost anywhere near as much as the first DC

Hmmm....interesting posts Pink

You posted this.....

"I dont care if she has 9 or 99 children as long as she and or her dh can afford them.... "

and then, a little later, this.....

"If they do then I will lose out too as we have 3 dcs and I really rely on that money"

So, who is paying for your children then?

I cant afford a 4th child Mcchristmas-and I am not talking about fancy prams-I am currently using the 9 year old buggy I had for my 1st ds. We couldnt afford to feed/clothe another child.

Am very of large families....

We are paying for our dcs-apart from cb which was universal-I dont claim any other benefits-never claimed tax credits for example as I had too many horror stories about mistakes and having to repay huge amounts.

Tbh we couldnt really afford a 3rd child as dont have enough room in house and we had to buy a bigger car but we had to try and shoulder the burden and of course having a child is a delight....

Also I think it easy to target single mothers on benefit, what I would love to see is reforms on the prison cost rather than parents bringing up the next generation.

www.thetelegraphandargus.co.uk/news/local/localbrad/9637769.Prison_is_a_waste_of_money__says_Bradford_probation_chief/

That's where is government should be trying to cut cost £1200 per week for 1 person in prison.

Sorry op if I have come across harshly-I really do hope it works out for you. All the best with the pregnancy.

1 extra child is not a lot of food, you can get 2nd hand clothes or use clothes from previous children.

Sorry I am with Pink somewhat here. I'd love to have had an extra child and I'd love to spend extra money on my exctra chld and not other people's extra children.

I'd love to know whether all the benefits bashers have actually worked out whether their household contributes more in tax to the economy than they take back put in services, given that apparently 60 per cent of uk households are in deficit.

I am sure I am probably part of the deficit rhonda seeing as I am a sahm so not paying tax at the moment. However I would be far more in deficit if I decided to have 9 dcs and let someone else pick up the tab....

Net contributor here! Your argument seems to be based on the fact that it's not real money and the money doesn't exist and doesn't belong to anyone so it doesn't matter.. in that case I wouldn't mind having more of it and spending it on my own children