To think its a bit control freakery to dictate guests wear a certain colour to a wedding?

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SIL recently announced her engagement, fantastic news.

Recently found out there is a 'black and white' theme.

Now I know it's her day, blah blah, but seriously, we get told what colours to wear? Agh, means 4 new outfits for us all to buy.

AIBU to think its a bit diva-ish?

Let dh hire his white suit. The boys can wear their grey trousers with white shirts - they are usually quite cheap if you don't have them. Depending on their ages you could finish them off with black sleeveless pullover, m&s had them for £4 or £5. Get yourself something new.

Save the money on the wedding gift. Just apologise and let them know you couldn't afford both.

I don't think YABU.

Dunkin and Zachery best suggestions of a very funny thread

sue only if the bride is actually wearing white. My friend got married in red

Customise a sheet as a toga.

Thanks all for posting!
I'm loving the black and white animal ideas. I wish I had the balls, but she is my SIL and I don't have the energy to wear a different colour, it just isn't worth it.
I do get the whole picture idea, I do really. MIL wore a bright orange dress to our wedding (wedding party were in deep purple), so it sort of clashed, but there's no way on earth I'd specify to her, let along ALL guests what colour to wear. I'm just rolling my eyes and if she asks, I'm not going to hide what I think of the idea.
It is for everyone to wear those colours, as DH has had conversation with MIL about the fact he is going in a white suit (although all of this is worth it just to see him in John Travolta style! ).
The bride is wearing black.

Oh Sashh, thank you, but seriously, I am the fussiest clothes shopper ever, which is why the prospect is so daunting!
I am going to get black school trousers for the boys though. Do you think it will be noticeable they are school trousers? Should I spend more on getting 'proper' black trousers?

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This is tempting ...

I have a primark zebra onsie you can borrow, it does have pink around the cuffs though...

Although we are ttc at the moment, so I could be 9 months pregnant by the time she sets a date! (Now that would be fun to find a black / white maternity smart dress!)

Black [or dark grey, depending on their school uniform] school trousers would be fine. Personally I would get them a different top though [ie not a school shirt or jumper]
I would personally look in Tesco's if I had to buy a new black dress, they have some nice ones for around £20.

What comes next? .... BMI upper limits?

One of my pals went to a wedding this weekend that was stated as 'black tie' in the invitations. She said her and her fiance were among the

Very Bridezilla and so vulgar

This brings back memories of my own wedding, though rather less OTT. My mother who was organising the event stipulated full evening dress- which is actually the norm in our culture and in itself totally unobjectionable. Db shortly before the wedding revealed that his partner had bought a dress and that it was very, very short, so totally not evening dress.

Mother, in a complete flustered Motherzilla state, was on the brink of ringing up SIL and telling her she would go with her to get a new dress when I turned round and informed her that if any guest was to be made to feel uncomfortable about her dress, she would have to conduct this wedding without a bride and that might be more difficult. Things went a lot better after that, and I seriously don't remember anybody collapsing in a fit of vapours over SIL's non-evening dress.

Lol fatlazymummy - I won't put them in a school uniform. I'll get black school trousers for them and try and get them a white top (although it will still look very schooly on a 5 and 3 year old!) I just thought the trousers would be cheaper way of getting black trousers (rather than Debenhams or Next black trousers, which will be twice the price).
I'll look at Tesco, but as I say, most dresses drown me and are too long, as I'm a short arse. They tend to be too low cut, shoulders / arms are too long and go down mid-calf. I need a petite fit really for my 5ft1 height

Ha!

I'd like to have seen anyone manage to persuade my Nan that her swirly purple dress suit and matching turban wasn't to be worn. She wore that to every wedding I know of from about 1969 to 1982.

I do love this one ...

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As I say, I think I'll hold fire for the moment, as hopefully I'll have a bump by then anyway!

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That turban sounds the business, Jins. My Grandma walked me through her planned outfit for my wedding the other day. She pulled out a beautiful, elegant hat and I said 'oh grandma, that's lovely!' only for her to cast it aside to reveal a silly fedora thing that doesn't even fit her and I've only ever seen her wear to funerals and say 'Oh no dear that one's far too fancy. I'll be wearing THIS one'... S'up to her though. I'm not arguing with a 90 y/o about her headpiece.

Silly bridezilla behaviour. Some couples seem to think it is perfectly acceptable to put guests to endless trouble and expense to attend their wedding - awkward locations, 3 days of celebrations, strict dress codes that prevent you from recycling an existing outfit, requests for cash gifts that mean people who don't have much money can't buy a present in a sale or choose something inexpensive but thoughtful and creative; and on and on and on.
Some people really do think that because its the most important day of their lives its the most important day of everyone else's life as well. 'Newsflash' its not. For most people its just another wedding which will fade in memory with the other dozens of weddings they have to attend in their lifetime.

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Oh shit, second link wrong

I think DH is thinking this

My thoughts

1. A bride may only dictate what anyone will wear to her wedding if she pays for it (this includes bridesmaids - cant believe the number of threads I read on here about having to buy own shoes etc);

1. I absolutely could NOT wear black or white to a wedding (I have a touch of the Julie-Andrews-in-the-Princess-Diaries complex)

1. The wedding is ages away yet, you have plenty of time to change her mind (and looking forward to your new threads on her latest diva bridezilla plan).

Having said all that, I do own a wardrobe of little black dresses.

turbans were all the rage

I think she found a style of hat that didn't suit her less than other styles and stuck with it

sheep If you do have a bump I have a black and white maxi dress you can borrow. I wore it at 2 weddings at 29 and 31 weeks. I'm not the tallest and the length hitches up so it doesn't drag on the floor

Could you wear your own wedding dress....?

When DH and I got married, we had MIL on the phone saying how "disappointed" her daughter hasn't been asked to be a bridesmaid at our wedding. TBH I was more shocked at the audacity of that, I mean even if she was disappointed, there's no way I was being dictated to at our wedding.

I also had FIL asking for photos of the women in his family (i.e. DHs mum / sister / niece and nan), to have a generation photo on our wedding day too, of his wife's family. In the middle of our wedding day, I flatly said "no". Bloody cheek.

I've obviously married into a family of divas

So yes, I think there will be more bridezilla moments to come yet!